When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch. When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch. When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts, or do things my own way, they call me a bitch. Being a bitch means that I am free to be the wonderful creature that I am, with all my own intricacies, contradictions, quirks and beauty. Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way. When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak up against it, I am defined as a bitch. The same thing happens when I take time for myself. Instead of being everyone's maid, or when I act a little selfish, I am proud to be a bitch! It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I "should" be. I am outspoken, opinionated, and determined. By God, I want what I want, and there is nothing wrong with that! So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me. You won't succeed. And if that makes me a bitch, so be it. I embrace the title and am proud to bear it. - Author Unknown - (PROBABLY A BITCH!) HOW TO RECOGNIZE A GOOD WOMAN A good woman is proud. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears. A good woman has a dash of inspiration and a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will at times have to inspire others to reach the potential God gave them. A good woman knows her past, understands her present and forces toward the future. A good woman knows God. She knows that with God the world is her playground, but without God she will just be played with. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons meant to bring her closer to self-knowledge and unconditional self-love. - Author Unknown - MOTHERS... MADE BY GOD By the time the Lord made mothers, he was into his sixth day of working overtime. An Angel appeared and said, "Why are you spending so much time on this one?" The Lord answers, "Have you seen the spec sheet on her? She has to be completely washable, but not plastic, have 200 movable parts, all replaceable, run on black coffee and leftovers, have a lap that can hold three children at one time and that disappears when she stands up, have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart, and have six paris of hands." The Angel was astounded at the requirements for this one. "Six pairs of hands! No way!" said the Angel. The Lord replied, "Oh, it's not the hands that are the problem. It's the three pairs of eyes that mothers must have!" "And that's just on the standard model?" The Angel asked. The Lord nodded in agreement. "Yep, one pair of eyes are to see through the closed door as she asks her children what they are doing even though she already knows. Another pair in the back of her head, are to see what she needs to know even though no one thinks she can. And the third pair are here in the front of her head. They are for looking at an errant child and saying that she understands and loves him or her without even saying a single word." The Angel tried to stop the Lord. "This is too much work for one day. Wait until tomorrow to finish." "But I can't." The Lord protested, "I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart. She already heals herself when she is sick AND can feed a family of six on a pound of hamburger and can get a nine year old to stand in the shower." The Angel moved closer and touched the woman, "But you have made her so soft, Lord." "She is soft," the Lord agreed, "but I also made her tough. You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish." "Will she be able to think?" asked the Angel. The Lord replied, "Not only will she be able to think, she will be able to reason and negotiate." The Angel then noticed something and reach out and touched the woman's cheek. "Oops, it looks like you have a leak with this model. I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one." "That's not a leak." The Lord objected. "That's a tear." "What's the tear for?", asked the Angel. The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy, her sorrow, her disappointment, her pain, her loneliness, her grief and her pride." The Angel was impressed. "You are a genius Lord! You thought of everything, for WOMEN are truly amazing!" - Author Unknown - WHAT EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE... One old love she imagine going back to and one who reminds her how far she has come. Enough money within her control to move out and get a place of her own even if she never wants to or needs to. Something perfect to wear if the employer or date of dreams wants to see her in an hour. A youth she's content to leave behind. A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age. The realization that she is actually going to have an old age and some money set aside to fund it. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra. One friend who always makes her laugh, and one friend who lets her cry. A good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family. Eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored. A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded. A feeling of control over her destiny. My best friend, Lorraine. Friends since we were children. EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... How to fall in love without losing herself. How to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining a friendship. When to try harder, and when to walk away. How to make a good time at a party she'd never choose to attend. How to ask for what she wants in a way that makes it most likely she'll get it. That she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents. That her childhood may not have been perfect, but it's over. What she would and wouldn't do for love. How to live alone, even if she doesn't like it. Where to go.. be it her best friend's kitchen table or a charming inn in the woods, when her soul needs soothing. What she can and can't accomplish in a day, a month, a year. - Author Unknown - Visit My Friendship Page
