Dear
God,
Teach me to laugh again,
but never let me forget I cried......
Lessons
Learned About Love!
Peaceful,
Gentle & Kind!
True
love rests the heart from turmoil, finds the heart relaxed and happy
and provides warmth and peace to the soul.
Humble
True
love is humbled love. Humble people make the best mates! Their own
humility is the foundation for their ability to love.
Honest & Truthful!
True love is wanting to be honest at all times! This is the only way
true love survives. Honesty builds trust. Trust is the backbone to a
good marriage! Without trust you cannot let yourself be yourself. If
trust fails, everything can fall apart.
Unselfish
True Love is a "giver". Each partner realizes the needs of one another,
and wants to give it to each other. Unselfish partners know they must
love each other just as Christ loved the church,.....with a servant
attitude.
Enduring
True loves pledges themself to one another for life! This is the only
way God intended marriage. There is no excuse good enough to betray the
"love" that God is blessing you with. Fidelity is the only way to
strengthen the trust that is necessary to build a marriage year after
year!
Encouraging!
True
love for another always wants what is best. Jealousy or envy does not
enter into the heart because true love cares only to see the other be
the best they can be!
Patient
True
love is never hurried, always takes the time to see through every
situation. True love waits for each other, no matter what, for what
ever, and........whenever.
(What the
"World"wants
you to
believe LOVE IS!)
SEX!
True
love is NOT based on sexual love. Many people confuse LOVE with sex,
and this is a very sad situation. Those who are engaged in premarital
sex will not be able to distinguish "true love" when their emotions are
all tied up with sexual love. Sex is a gift from God reserved strictly
for marriage! Likewise, those who want to marry just to fulfill a
sexual need are always disappointed! Many married couples with children
find very little time for intimacy, especially during the early
childhod years. If your relationship is based on sex before and/or
after marriage, you can be sure problems will arise! True love combined
with sexual love between two married people is a wonderful gift from
God, important to the oneness of the relationship, but NOT the end all
to "married life"! If you take one thing from this site to your heart,
it is our sincerest hope you will hear this message. Marriage is so
much more than "SEX"! Making this your priority or basing your marriage
on this will ALWAYS lead to heartache. Keep sex in perspective as to
what God has intended it to be! Otherwise, you will find yourself never
sastified.....and the result is devastating!
What You See!
True
love is NOT found on the outside! You know the old story...."You can't
judge a good book by its cover!". Marrying someone because they are
"good looking" and that reflects well on you, will not bring you
happiness! True love looks at people from the inside, this is where
"true beauty" lies, make no mistake about this one! People who "seem"
average on the outside become above average when you get to know the
real person that lives inside. There are many, many single people who
would make fabulous mates, but are overlooked because they won't make
the cover of your favorite magazine. Being outwardly focused will
always lead to heartache! The message here is that true Love rests deep
inside within the heart, NEVER on the outside! We must turn our eyes
inward when seeking a lifetime mate!
What you don't see.......is exactly what you get!!
Rescuing!
True
love is NOT ruining your life because someone has a problem. Everyone
is responsible for their own life, actions and decisions. If someone's
decisions in life is making you "crazy" or you are trying to control
their behavior, you are more than likely hurting them and yourself.
True love can only lie in the person who takes care of themself. Are
you putting your life and happiness in jeopardy because of someone
else's bad behavior? If your considering marriage and you are presently
unhappy, controlling, enabling, or pushing aside someones bad behavior,
you will find yourself in a world of misery! It is NOT LOVE to "rescue"
someone from their own decisions!!! Everyone must pay their own
consequences for their own actions! You cannot "save" someone from
themself.
Selfish!
True
love is NOT selfish! Selfish people make miserable mates! True love
finds itself in unselfish people. Unselfish people know they get the
most joy out of life when they give to others. There is no better joy
in this world than to give. Selfish people care only about themselves
and what they have and want. Meeting each others needs is so very
important in a healthy marriage. Selfish people will find it impossible
to give you what YOU may need because their needs will always come
first!
Monetary!
True
love is NOT measured in dollars! No amount of money in the world will
bring you true love! The love of money is the "root of all evil!" Money
makes people do things that they would not normally do. If you think
you have to marry money find love and to have a good marriage and/or
your problems will go away, you are sadly mistaken! Problems just get
more expensive with money!
Low Self Worth!
True
love is NOT found in an unhealthly self esteem! How many people in this
world believe that love will make them happy! If you are not happy now,
no one else can bring that to you! You need to find your own love in
yourself before you can adequately love anyone else. There is a
terrible fairly tale out there that says "just find a man/woman" then,
you'll be happy. Happy marriages are found in two people who already
love and care about who they are now. They are not looking for a
partner to "prove" they are loveable. Likewise, when you feel inside
that you are worthy....you will make better choices. People who are
hurting and feel unloved sometimes will turn to the first person to
come along to fill the emptiness they feel. More than likely this will
not result in a healthy marriage. If you find yourself in this
situation you need to step back from relationships and work deep inside
yourself to find the root cause of your unhappiness. Until then,....you
will not be able to make the best choice you deserve to make for
yourself!
Verbally or Physically Abusive!
True
love is NOT abusive! Without a doubt, any type of abusive behavior by
either person is NOT LOVE! Love is the gentleness of the human heart!
Love does not bear pain. Intentional pain inflicted "out of Love" is as
far away from the truth you can get. Love builds up, never tears down!
Verbal or physical abuse is an illness regardless of the reason someone
may give for inflicting it. This type of behavior is never a candidate
for marriage. ANY type of abuse before marriage is a guarantee to
continue when married. Counseling for the abuser is the ONLY next step
there is!
Where
is the Love in your life today? If you are ever in doubt as to whether
you have found "true love"......check it out in
1 Corinthians 13. Here you will
find God's view of Love, afterall, He is the author of Love!
If
you
are not married, please, please take the time to make a good
choice in a lifetime mate. Your life and everyone around you will be
affected by this choice. Making the "right choice" for yourself
requires one to look objectively at oneself and the person they intend
to marry. If you have ever said to yourself, "well, I can always
divorce"!, Stop now and re-examime your choice! You should consider a
mate to be that for life! Consider that divorce is not permitted! God
hates divorce, and for good reason. The devastation lasts a lifetime
and more generations to come!
Everyone
deserves to be happy. God wants you to be happy. Take the time to find
a good mate for yourself. Allow God to work in you and in someone else
so that the two can one day be joined into the perfect union that the
Father wants for you. You will NEVER REGRET waiting when you find the
"RIGHT ONE"!
May God bless
you!
And
now abide faith, hope, love, these three;
but the greatest of these is Love.
1
Corinthians 13:13
Mike on Left
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