It seems like such a dilemma sometimes, doesn't it?

Being gay and Christian is hard because you get attacked from both sides.  I know, because I am one.  All too often, neither my gay friends nor my Christian friends can understand why I do the things I do.

Even among gay Christians, there are a lot of divisions.  Some believe in same-sex marriage, some believe God only blesses male-female marriage, and some reject the institution of marriage altogether.  There are Bible literalist gay Christians as well as those who interpret Scriptures loosely.  Some of us are committed to celibacy.  Some of us are in relationships.  Some of us believe that becoming straight is possible and/or desirable.  Others believe it is impossible, undesirable, or both.

What I've tried to do with these pages is to find those things that bring all of us together.  A lot of people think that there's a world of difference between MCC (a pro-gay church with fairly liberal views) and Exodus International (a conservative Christian umbrella organization for ex-gay ministries), and in some ways there is.  But it's too easy to forget what binds us together -- we are all united in the name of Jesus Christ.  Sure, none of us agrees with everything that is said or done in the name of Jesus, and sometimes well-intentioned people do the wrong things.  And yes, there are even those who claim to be Christians who in fact are not.  Even in the face of our own inconsistencies and sinfulness, however, Ephesians 4:2-6 tells us that the body of Christ is a single unit, and all of us who follow Him are a part of that unit.  We must learn to understand each other, to discuss differences of opinion in a loving fashion, and to seek truth together.

So what is the truth?  That's a question for the Holy Spirit.  If you want to know whether it's possible to be both gay and Christian, my answer is yes.  Even the most conservative reading of the Bible will support that, as I explained in "Is 'gay Christian' an oxymoron?"  And what about changing from gay to straight?  Is that possible?  Well, that's a more difficult question to answer, but it may not be impossible, as I explained in "Asparagus and sexuality."

But what about gay marriages and same-gender sexual relationships?  Well, there's a very good argument for those, too, but I haven't finished writing that article yet so you'll have to be patient.  :)  In the meantime, check out my personal story, probably the most popular page on this whole site.  Chances are you'll find something in it you can identify with.

The more you read here, the more confused you may get about what I personally believe.  That's okay, because I'm not trying to push my own views on other people; I'm just trying to get you to think about issues from a lot of different perspectives so you'll be informed on why other people think they way they do.  Your answers should come from the Holy Spirit, not from me.  I'm just here to ask questions, share some thoughts, and talk about my personal experiences.

Thanks for coming by.  Kick off your shoes and stay awhile.