"How can I be a better witness?"
For many heterosexuals, the concept of homosexuality is both confusing and disturbing. Why on earth would anyone want to be a homosexual? Aren't gay men attracted to women? If not, why not? Do homosexuals think that heterosexual behavior is disgusting?
Maybe you've asked yourself questions like these. Maybe you've never even thought about them. I believe that these kinds of questions are important, though, and I'll tell you why.
You see, we as Christians are called to be witnesses to the whole world. And witnessing involves much more than just telling people the good news about Jesus. If we're going to be effective witnesses, we need to understand where other people are coming from, and then explain the Good News to them in a way that makes sense to them. For example, when the Apostle Paul was in Athens, he saw that the city was full of idols. He took the time to learn about their culture and examine their objects of worship, and by doing so he found an altar marked "To An Unknown God." He was able to use this information to explain the Gospel to the Athenians so that they would listen. You can read about how he did this in Acts 17.
If Paul had simply stood up in the square and said, "Stop worshipping idols because God says so!" I doubt that anyone would have listened to him. But by taking the time to learn about these people and what they believed, he was able to get through to them and change lives.
Right now, when homosexuality is one of the most-debated subjects of our time, it is absolutely crucial that the church learn how to witness to the gay community. Way too many people have forgotten about that -- they adopt a battle cry like "Homosexuality is an abomination!" or quote Bible verses, but they're missing that sense of love and compassion that Jesus had. Remember, Jesus is the one who ate with sinners and stood up for the adulteress when no one else would. He knew that by taking the time to connect with people and show that He cared about them, He could have a far greater impact on their lives than if He simply preached at them from afar.
Whether you're conservative or liberal, you can always benefit from taking the time to listen to people's stories and understand where they're coming from. I'm not here to ask anyone to water down the Scriptures or go against their deep religious convictions. I'm only asking one thing: Read about what I've been through and what I've learned, and ask the Holy Spirit to give you wisdom to discern what is true and what is not.
I want to make it clear that I do not speak for all gay people. I only speak for myself. There are a lot of gay people who would very much disagree with things I've written here, and there are also many who tell me that I've expressed their thoughts almost exactly. If you don't know any gay people, this is your chance to find out why someone (in this case, a committed Christian!) would call himself "gay" and how that's affected his life. If you do know gay people, this is your chance to get answers to questions you might not feel comfortable asking them. Either way, I hope that this site will help you be a more effective witness.
As you read things on this site, you might sometimes be confused about exactly what I believe, or you might have specific questions that I haven't answered. If so, please contact me and I'll do my best to answer whatever questions you have. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I pray that God will make it worthwhile to you.