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SEPTEMBER 2001

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Single Mom…Marianne

Unlike many showbiz marriages and breakups, Marianne dela Riva's union and eventually separation from actor Ronald Corveau did not turn into a major media event. That's because the now forty something actress decided to leave the scene before the press could hound her. "It was strenuous enough in itself, tapos parang ang dami kong intrigang dapat sagutin," she reasons. Saka inisip ko 'yung mga bata. They were so young at that time. Si Louie, ang panganay ko was what, 11 at that time. Si Ella naman, 'yung bunso, was only four. Nag-concentrate muna ako sa kanila."

There was no other way, it seemed. She became an instant single mother when Ronald fled to the United States. She said she got by investigating her savings into a profitable business with her sister. "I have a very supportive family," she says.

"With their help, I've managed to raise my kids as a single parent. That's for 10 years. And para sa akin, yung as mas importante whether or not may tatay o wala." And she adds with a sure hint of pride: "I know for a fact that my kids grew up na very normal pa rin naman. Parang wala ring kulang." With the pain gone, Marianne still would not talk about the details of her failed relationship.

"I notice napaka-polite mong magtanong," she observes, "pero 'wag na 'yun. Magkaibigan na kami. We've reached na that point na alam naming kailangan is only for the kids. Now, we're very civilized. We talk when we need to. Kapag may kailangan ang mga bata, he supports them naman kahit papaano. Last year 1 even joined the kids when they visited their dad in the U.S. Every year kasi they go there." Both she and Ronald remain unattached. That's because they have not really considered filling for an annulment. Is there a chance they'll get together again then? "Hindi na siguro," she shrugs. "Parang hindi lang naaasikaso or something. Sa case ko, parang naging okay na lang ako nang ganito. Pero 'yung reconciliation, hindi na sumasagi sa isip ko. Parang okay na kami ng ganito. Ten years na e."

How about opening doors for new relationships? "Everything just fallen into place na rin naman. The girls are all grown up now. The business naman is running by itself. My life's okay as it is." Thus, Marianne decided to end her close to a decade showbiz hiatus. "may kanya-kanya na rin kasing mundo ang mga bata," says the late 70's favorite cover girl. "They're not as dependent on me as before."

Happily, show business didn't give her a hard time coming back. The reason could be because her resumé is hard to resist. After all, her being Fernando Poe Jr.'s favorite leading lady remains a favorable calling card to this day. Why, she's the only actress who has played leading lady to the "King" more than a dozen times. "I think it's close to 20 movies," she adds. Her six-year stint as the well-mannered Luisa in the 1976 soap classic "Gulong ng Palad" is equally unforgettable. Add to this her trademarks-her Madonna face and eyes that look like they can produce a bucket of tears anytime-are always saleable, especially with the onset of the TV era.

"Hindi naman ako ganu'n kabait as compared sa mga roles ko," she smiles. "But I really love working with people. Na-miss ko din. Although ang showbiz, hindi na siya ganu'n ka-big deal as before. Pero meron pa ring fulfillment. It's still a job." Marianne is now a "Tabing Ilog" regular and is frequently seen in many drama programs. "Mas gusto ko na rin na sa TV lang muna," she says, "kasi mas maikli ang working hours," she ends with her patented meek smile.

Pops Fernandez... Solo Flight

After Judge Leticia Morales of the Makati Regional Trial Court rendered the Pops Fernandez-Martin Nievera marriage null and void on the morning of October 25, 2000. Pops was the party that filed the annulment case on their 12-year marriage in May 1999 after living separately since January 1998. Martin has been heard to say he never wanted it. But when the judgment did come, Pops was reduced to tears.

"It was kind of mixed emotions," she sighs. "Sure I wanted it and I felt relieved when I was told, pero s'yempre na-sad din naman ko. Suddenly, nag-flashback lahat ng memories. Then I thought of the kids. I know it's painful for them na alam nilang everything's final na between me and their father. Ako naman I'm not really concerned sa sasabihin ng mga tao. I only think about my kids. But I know they understand. Before, they were very confused, but for the past two, three years, we've all have adjusted na. We've all moved on already…mas naging official lang ngayon, kumbaga.

What Pops will not discuss is the details of the separation of their properties. But as it is, everyone knows she continues to live in the conjugal Ayala, Alabang home with sons Robin, 13, and Ram, 10, while Martin is holed up alone in a flat somewhere. The court has also granted her full custody of her "two heroes." "They're my constant source of joy and inspiration," she beams. "They're all I've got permanently. And I know they're mine forever even when they grow old and have their own family na."

She hastens to add, "It's the same din naman for Martin. He'll be their daddy forever and her promised to be always there for them. In fairness to him, he's always been a great daddy forever and her promised to be always there for them. In fairness to him, he's always been a great daddy. Our kids won't hear me say anything against him. And I'll be completely lenient when it comes to his rights with the kids."

Elaborating, she says, "I mean I don't really mind them going out a lot and he is welcome to visit them. The kids are really close to him, they'll appreciate it if they get to see him often. And besides, we've managed to keep our friendship naman. In fact we're better friends now. After the separation, we've both tried so hard at rebuilding our friendship."

As to building up a relationship with another partner, she says she's in no hurry at all. "Yun naman lagi ang hinihintay sa akin ng tao, 'yung mag-announce ako ng ganito, ganun," she says, a bit resigned. "Kung wala akong sinasabi, tao na mismo ang naglilink sa akin kung kani-kanino that sometimes, it becomes unfair na dun sa mga taong 'yun. Nakakahiya na din sa kanila."

True, she says, there's something missing in her life. "Alam kong may kulang. Pero ako mismo, ang dami ko pa ring gustong gawin, ang dami pang ambitions, reach certain goals…but if ask for all these no, parang greedy ko naman. A lot of things are coming in. Despite everything, I feel I'm very blessed.

The World of Kris and Josh

Q: Is Tita Cory a spoiler Lola.
A: Oo naman talaga!


There is no adjective that can adequately describe Kris Aquino. There is, however, an adverb - and that is "very". Whatever she is, she is "very" much of it! As she herself admits, there's just no middle ground with anything she does. And this includes motherhood. Here she talks about Joshua, her "sun, moon, stars", "loving unconditionally" and why the song In Your Eyes makes her teary eyed…

How do you and Josh bond? What do you really enjoy doing together? We sleep together, that's one thing - magkatabi talaga kami matulog. He waits until he sees me reading my script for the next day bago siya matulog kasi feeling niya baka taksan ko siya. Our bed is queen sized but I think we occupy just half of it because talagang siksikan kami and we both like that. When I was growing up, I was that way with my mom; masiksik din ako. All the years that my Dad was in Fort Bonifacio, ako rin yung katabi ng mommy ko.

In the morning, when Josh has to get up earlier than me, magda-drama talaga yan na ayaw niya. Kailangan sabay kaming bumangon. Pag nagmamadali ako in the morning to shower, he'll jump into the shower with me.

What if your can't be with him at night because of your work, late night shoot or something?
He's understanding when it's work. As he says, "working mama…" But he's very demanding pag alam niya na it's his time. Like, alam niya na yung Sunday, we have dinner with my mom; we go to 7:30 mass at Mt. Carmel Church, kailangan kasama siya doon. Pagsisiksikan niya ang sarili niya. I tell him, "but you're so maingay in church!" Sasabihin niya habang nagma-mass, "last na Mama, 10 minutes!" Sabi ko, no, matagal pa! Even if he has already eaten in my mom's house, mangungulit yan na, "Mama, eat tayo sa labas! Pig out tayo." We eat out a lot. We love fastfood. Cheap kaming mag-nanay. Burger King at Mc Donald's lang happy na kami. He likes Country Waffles; he likes Shangri-la, the Chinese restaurant yung Summer Palace favorite niya. We love Japanese. Madali siyang pakainin.

This early, what seems to be his talents and skills?
Parang napansin ko, he loves the piano so much, as in: anytime we're near a piano. So I always ask him, "Son, you want one? We can buy it for your birthday pero baka naman pagsawaan mo kaagad, at mahal din talaga yan. But if you can promise me that you'll be a Louie Ocampo, why not?" Hilig niya talaga, music. At ang galing niya mag-operate ng anything electronic. From the time he was 2 or 3, he can figure out on his own paano mag-on ng TV, use the remote, mag-rewind ng mga tape, change the channel.

What quality of Joshua are you most proud of?
He's loving…to everbody. Malamabing siyang bata talaga. Politico yan kasi, in my mom's house, in my cousin's hour, anywhere…lahat ng mga katulong, drivers, guards, kilala niya by name.

What qualities did he inherit from you…and from his dad?
Yung…hilig sa mirror. (To get Josh to pose with his mom, we set up a big mirror beside the camera.) Emote, emote, diba? Pa-smile-smile sa mirror. I think the other thing he got from me is love for traveling. He loves riding the plane, he love staying in a hotel, Hongkong, Boracay, Cebu, wherever!

At yung pagiging vain talaga, he got from me. After taking shower, he tells hi Ninang Gia (Garchitorena, ABS-CBN Production Manager for Talk Shows), "Lotion pa!" Kasi binibihisan siya ni Gia, "Josh, ihahatid mo lang ako sa house!" So anyway, nag-lotion siya. Akala ni Gia that was it. But Josh goes, "Ninang, cologne pa! Sabi ko, ohmigod. Kasi what you see your mom constantly doing, you will think that's the way it is!

Sa Daddy niya…physical naman talaga. 100% sa tatay talaga niya. Mini Me nga siya nun eh. He's constant reminder of his father, hello!

You never kept anything form the public, but between you and your son, how honest are you about your situation as a family? Siguro because he was so young, he was 3 when we split up. So sanay na siya nahe shuttles back and forth, so there is really no need to explain. And when he wants to see naman his father, he goes, "Mama, call tayo Dada." So sabi ko, "o you tell your yaya to call your Dada. Tapos tatawag siya." Yun na ang nakamulatan niya: na hiwalay yung bahay niya.

How often are you together - all three - as a family?
(laughs) Hindi kami tatlo, silang dalawa! Before wer used to, like, eat out. Pero in the last two months parang nagtampuhan kaminung Daddy niya, so silang dalawa na lang. They're together every other weekend.

How about your mom, Cory Aquino, is she a spoiler lola?
Oo naman talaga! Kasi Josh loves ponkan, so there's always a supply of ponkan in her house. Or chocolates. Sampaloc! And Josh loves that - to the point na nag-LBM na siya noon! Plus lollipops! Love na love yon ni Joshua. So when we're there - kumpleto lahat yon. Matiyaga ang mommy talaga kasi… we hang out in her room, so si Joshua has written all over he walls; he jumps all over her bed. Minsan, si yaya kumakain, ako naman I was busy writing speech fo rher, mommy ko ang naglilinis ng pwet niya when he made poopoo. Sabi ng mommy ko, "I'm too old for this!"

They say your relationship with your mother changes when you become a mother yourself.

How has your relationship with your mother changed since your had Joshua?
My mom always laugh, kasi, parang emotionally, magka-level kami ni Josh. We're both children pa daw talaga. So in a way, I'm still very much the baby of the family. At sinasabi ng ang sisters ko na, "Parang di kayo mag-mommy - kasi pumapatol ka, nag-aaway kayong dalwa!"

What has motherhood changed in you talaga?
The most important thing that motherhood contributed to my life is the realization that you can love unconditionally. Just seeing a person make you so happy, waking up beside him, being hugged by him, ang sarap-sarap ng feeling. At kahit na… sinasabunutan niya 'ko, OK lang. Kaya pala yon, na puwede kang magpasensyo ng sobra-sobra about somebody kasi ganoon mo kamahal.

How big a factor is Joshua in choosing potential, er, suitors?
I'm afraid that they might not get along. I also know that the longer it takes, the harder it will be. Kasi pag 10, or 11, or 12 years old na yan, mas mag-a-amock na yan. Kasi sanay siya talagang sun, moon, and stars siya sa iyo. But I think in Joshua's case, he gets affected. A lot of people around me are male, but they're gay. And he's so used to them. But he can tell pag masculine yung presence, pag hindi gay, talagang pinauuwi niya. Even if they're just my friends. So, the man would have to be very patient and very understanding of what my duties are as a mother.

How do you get him to, say, study or behave - with a bribe?
Or with a threat? Sa Kumon kasi, he hates it kasi it's so routine. Pero it only works pag hindi ako ang nagbabantay. Kasi pushover ako, pag umiyak na at ayaw na, chances are… "OK honey, you don't have to…" So sin ayaya nalang. Or like, when he's having a haircut. When I'm there it takes 2 + hours; when it's someone else there, it takes an hour! Sinasabi nga ni yaya, "Nagno-naughty lang talaga si Josh pag nagdyan kayo." Kasi feeling niya he can get away with anything. How do you avoid spoiling him? Coz he's obviously the center of your life, and you can very well afford to spoil him.

How do you not spoil him… or do you spoil him?
Yah, I spoil him.

How are your Christmases like?
Last year, on the 24th we were with my mom and sisters and we went to mass together, then had Noche Buena. And then on the 25th… because people don't realize that I only get two vacations in a year - the Holy Week vacation, and the week between Christmas and New Year's… we went to Hongkong. Just the three of us, me Joshua and his yaya Ana who's my savior. She's been our midwife since I was seven months pregnant, so I am so lucky to have someone as devoted as she. And we had so much fun!

How were you raised that… you're now applying to Josh?
Ang difference kasi is that Josh is an only child and I grew up knowing na super loved ako ng mommy ko. Parang I was the cutest in the world. Whatever it is that I achieved she always made me feel that she was proud of that. And that's what I'm trying to do for Josh. Except nga it's a very different thing with Josh coz when my mom was raising me. She was also alone but of course alam kong may Dad ako.

With Josh, it's also different kasi when my mom was raising me, anonymous kami. We could eat anywhere and no one would mind us. It must be hard for my son. But sabi ko nga, yun din ang kinalakihan niya. Sanay siyang nare-recognize siya wherever he goes and people go, "Hey Josh!" Sanay siya na wala kami masyadong privacy. Ako naman ini-instill ko talaga sa kanya yung importance ng pagiging maamo at malambing sa mga tao.

How does he react when people recognize him at the mall?
OK lang. It's normal. Like, when we were watching our commercial, I told him, look Josh, that's you! Wala lang siya. And then I realize that he sees me on TV everyday. He sees his father all the time. Even his Lola is on TV so often. So for him, it's normal experience that everyone should be on TV!

What is your biggest fear as a mother?
Isa yung makabuntis siya, kasi cutie-pie naman talaga yung anak ko. Secondly, any parent would fear na lumaki yung anak at… "you never had time for me." I'm afraid na masumbatan ako na, "Mama, you weren't there." Plus I'm really afraid of the time that I will settle down and I will have new children. Kasi siyempre they will be legimate and he's not.

What is your favorite saying or philosophy on motherhood?
Actually, lyrics of a song. Kinakanta ni Regine and it was also used by Tito Dolphy and Vandolph in the hotdog commercial, yung In Your Eyes. Everytime I hear that song, it's true about being a mother. In your eyes I can see my dream s reflection/… Found the answers to my questions/ …I could see the reason why our love's alive/ … We're drifting safely back to shore/ And I think I've finally learned to love you more. It's the feeling talaga a no matter how much love you give, it will never be enough because this person deserves so much more. I lose all my doubts about who I am and why I'm here pag tinitignan ko siya. Kasi he also looks back at me and mahal na mahal niya ako.

Celebrity Couple

Aiko Melendez's life is soap-opera material. Her mother Elsie Blardony, who is half-Japanese, half-Filipino, bore her out of wedlock on December 16, 1975. Meantime, her father Jimi Melendez, also half-Japanese, half-Filipino, was not acceptable to her mother's family.

Elsie explains: "Mas bata kasi siya sa akin ng apat na taon. Tapos, hindi pa nga kami kasal nagbuntis na ako." In a mutual decision, the couple decided that Aiko should fly to Japan to meet her grandparents on both sides. "Gusto ko kasi Makita si Aiko ng mga grandparents niya," says Elsie. "Naiwan ditto ang daddy niya." For the next five years, Aiko remained in Japan. Effectively, with her father visiting her only now and then, she was raised solely by her mother.

"Yung pinakahuling punta doon ni Jimi," Aiko's mom recalls, "sinabi nga niya na nag-aartista na raw siya. Kukunin daw niya kami pero mag-antay daw ng ilang buwan kasi ang palabas daw niya sa showbiz, single siya." When Aiko turned five, she was indeed brought back to Manila, thus uniting the family. But a year after, her parents' constant squabbles led to their separation. "Kasi pumasok na diyan 'yung sina Deborah Sun (a starlet who became Jimi's partner), mga intrigahan sa showbiz…hindi naming kinaya," admits Elsie.

Aiko was still with her mother and once again began to see very little of her father. Her young life became miserable, admits her mother. "Hindi sana nagging mahirap kung hindi kami naghihiwalay ng daddy niya," Elsie goes on. "Kasi noon, napupunta na lahat…kay Deborah…kasi nagka-anak na rin sila e. Hindi naman halos nagbibigay si Jimi. Kami ni Aiko noon, palipat-lipat ng bahay, ganu'n…" Aiko was eight when her mother fell in love with Danny Castañeda, a non-showbiz fellow whom she eventually married. But stable as that relationship was, it was not something the very young Aiko could not grasp right away. "Hindi niya agad natanggap si Danny," says Elvie.

"Nakuha lang sa tiyaga. Sako at that time, naghahanap din naman talaga si Aiko ng father figure." All this probably made Aiko grow up faster. Before she had even reached her teens, she'd decided she would make a life of her own. Ironically, she would do so in the very world that took her father away from her: show business. "nag-uumpisa siya sa mga commercials," Elsie recounts. "Tsaka noon naman dinadala-dala siya ng daddy niya sa Regal. Nakikita siya ni Mother (Lily Monteverde)." Undoubtedly beautiful and arguably talented, she did not take long before making waves in the industry-and earning big. At 14, she had invested in a house for her family.

More importantly, however, she never stopped going to school and paid her way through her four years of high school. But while her showbiz life was peaking, her father's own was going downhill. He'd always been soft on alcohol but, with his career tumbling he began seeking comfort in drugs as well. Soon, he looked wasted and would be dignosed to have liver cancer. It is to Aiko's credit that she set aside the fact that once upon a time her father had abandoned her and her mother. Still in her teens, she saw to all his personal and health needs at this time, staying with him until his death in August of 1997. "Hindi naman natatanim ng galit si Aiko,"says Elsie. "Ipinasyal pa nga niya sa Hongkong. Parang nag-bonding pa rin silang mag-ama nu'ng huli. Mabait naman kasi si Jimi. Naging mahina lang talaga sa tukso."

No doubt, it had been an emotionally exhausting ride for the young Aiko But what I did not destroy her appears to have made her stronger. At 19, she brought home her first acting award: the best actress trophy from the 1994 Manila Film festival which recognized her for her poster mother role in Maalaala Mo Kaya The Movie.

For the same portrayal, she was again recognized by the Filipino Academy of Motion Arts and Sciences (FAMAS) and the Film Academy of the Philippines (FAP) which gave her their best actress awards. At the same time, on the personal front, Aiko's life was filled with eventful turns. Beautiful and highly eligible, she had brief and intriguing romances which became the regular stuff of showbiz columns. Those linked to her include Gary Estrada, Anjo Yllana, non-showbiz fellow Wowie de Veyra, and Aga Muhlach, whom the fans seemed to like for her most.

Indeed, then only 23, Aiko looked like she had been there and done that. Which probably accounts for why, at the peak of her acting career, she thought nothing of announcing to the world that she was with child. And that the new man in her life was Jomari Yllana, himself a rising matinee star-a knockout, highly eligible, and the younger brother to Aiko's former boyfriend, Anjo. Unknown to her fans, however, Aiko and Jomari were secretly wed in civil rights. By the time they married in church rites in July last year.

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source: Showbiz Pinoy

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