|Subtervise : vb; to undermine the intention of advertising, propaganda and mainstream editorial|
is a word to describe being what one is not in order to get
what doesn't exist!
It can also come from not allowing the child to complain when she or he is unhappy or to cry when he or she is hurt or frightened. (State Secrets Act) Parents may rush in to quell sobs because of their own anxiety. They may not permit anger - "nice girls don't throw tantrums; nice boys don't talk back" - to prove how respected the parents are; neurosis may also arise from making or coercing a child perform, such as asking him to recite poems at a party or solve abstract problems.
Whatever form it takes, the child gets the idea of what is required of him or her quite soon. Perform, or else. (Work or else.) Be what is wanted, or else - no love, or what passes for love: approval, a smile, a wink (a job). Eventually the act of doing what gets approval comes to dominate the child's life, which is passed in performing rituals and mouthing incantations in the service of the parent or employer or political systems' requirements, to the childs own cost. This leads to distrust and self alienation.
my lyrics to "thieves with no shame" a satirical re-write of U2s "streets with no name" and more links to solid critique on AmEx/Bono's Label Red. here
i don't like geldof!
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