The Basics of Flogging
How to Flog Someone So They'll Come Back for More
By Keith L. Kendrick
To the novice flogging may look easy,
and actually it's not that difficult, but it does require concentration
and physical exertion along with some practice. However, knowledge
of some basic guidelines can greatly enhance the learning curve
and enrich the experience for both the "top" and the
"bottom". And a beginner would do well to practice
on a wall or pillow, focusing on the intended striking point.
Before any flogging, the participants should negotiate what is
desired and what isn't, along with what "safe-word"
or other indication the "bottom" is to use to slowdown
or stop the flogging. Does the "bottom" like stinging
or thud sensations? How open is he or she to new experiences?
Has this person had much experience with flogging? Novices may
think they can take lots of pain, and then be surprised at what
a good flogging actually feels like.
In addition, pertinent medical or physical
problems should be made known before beginning.
The basic area to flog is the upper back on each side of the
spine. Try to stay off the spine to prevent injury to the vertebrae
and related tissues, and the skinnier the person is the more
important this is. Also avoid swinging the tails down the back
onto the hips or upper butt, or else this may cause a different
kind of pain that is undesirable. Rather than a full swinging
motion (this isn't golf) that carries the tails down the back,
stop the flogger immediately after it hits or even pull it backwards
in a snapping motion right before it hits. By varying this motion
you can control how much of the tails connect with the back;
more will cause greater thud while hitting with just the tips
will be stingier.
Generally speaking, avoid unintentional "wrapping,"
which is when the tips of the tails wrap around a curved part
of the body such as the shoulders, torso, butt or legs. In wrapping
the tips accelerate tremendously and the resulting excessive
force at the tips almost always causes an undesirable increase
in pain. One difficulty in avoiding wrapping is that the tips
can fly so fast that you may have trouble seeing them--a person
sometimes has to estimate where the tails are hitting, especially
in darker environments. In addition, when throwing a flogger
people often have a tendency to lunge forward, which can cause
wrapping if it's not compensated for. On rare occasions a bottom
may desire wrapping, but then this should be done by mutual agreement
and with care to not overdo it.
Other targets: the butt is very inviting, yet because of its
smaller size and roundness it requires greater accuracy to avoid
excessive wrapping onto the hips or into the especially sensitive
"inner" areas; also avoid hitting the tailbone. When
flogged well, though, the butt can be very rewarding. The thighs
can be flogged but should be done with extra attention to the
power in wrapping. Female breasts should be flogged relatively
lightly to avoid later medical problems, and this may be more
important if they are flogged often; males can usually safely
take more in this area. Generally other parts of the body, especially
the kidney area, shouldn't be flogged except maybe with very
light, miniature floggers. Stay away from all joints of the legs
and arms, and the head and neck should never be flogged.
Also be aware that there is a big difference
in flogging someone in the standing position versus lying down.
Start with softer blows and work up gradually to harder ones--this
way the bottom will be able to take more as well as get more
out of the session. Similarly, if you have more than one flogger,
use the lighter one before going to the heavier one. In addition,
varying the pace and alternating heavier blows with softer ones
(or using just the tips), can make the difference between a good
flogging and a great one.
During a flogging the top also needs
to be sensitive to the nuances of how the bottom is handling
the experience and when to vary the strokes. And after the bottom
has recuperated from the flogging, the top can learn valuable
information by obtaining the bottom's perspective on what it
The top should understand that softer/heavier tails will generally
cause thud, while harder or narrower tails will cause more sting--rubber
or braided leather tails are usually the most stingy. And these
differences are best understood by experiencing them on one's
own skin. A flogger also needs to be thrown fast enough so the
tails don't fly apart and land inaccurately--because of this
it's very difficult to use a heavier flogger in place of a lighter
one to achieve the blows that a lighter flogger would deliver.
This is why people often have more than one flogger.
Occasionally during a flogging a small amount of blood may appear
on the skin as a result of a blemish being broken open. How blood
and other body fluids on a flogger should be dealt with is controversial;
disinfectants and leather conditioners can alter the leather
and having different floggers for every bottom isn't practical.
First of all, have band-aids available
and apply one as soon as any break in the skin is noticed. If
any blood or body secretions have gotten on the tails, they should
be wiped with a dry cloth while wearing a glove (there shouldn't
be much!). Then before using the flogger on another person it
should be hung to air-dry in a warm, dry place for two weeks--the
drying action will kill the AIDS and hepatitis viruses. Some
would suggest cleaning the tails with a cloth moistened with
a fresh solution of bleach mixed 1 part to 10 parts water and
then waiting 10 minutes before using the flogger on someone else.
A few may suggest both the bleach solution and then drying for
two weeks, but this may be more than is needed. On the other
hand, we are talking about AIDS and hepatitis.
The best approach is to avoid getting
blood and other body fluids on your floggers. However, the flogging
action will tend to wipe blood away and make a tiny skin break
difficult to see. Therefore checking a bottom's skin after a
flogging for signs that any blood may have gotten on the flogger
would be wise. A few would even say that the same flogger should
never be used on more than one person per day, but that is not
actually a sufficient length of time to be safe from hepatitis.
Others say that the risk of catching AIDS or hepatitis from floggers
is very minimal, yet this would be almost impossible to verify
Finally though, always remember: If
someone is trusting you enough to let you flog them, you owe
it to him or her to be sensitive and careful; and secondly, flogging
is ultimately supposed to be gratifying to both parties.
Safer BDSM - Spanking/Whipping
Spanking/Whipping is an often found
technique in BDSM scenes - it is not necessarily part of a relationship,
some enjoy it some don't. Talk about it with your partner.
Instruments used for spanking are usually
the flat hand or paddles. Riding crops and cat-o-nine-tails (mostly
made of very soft leather) are often used for whipping. The "famous
bullwhip" is more an accessory or sign than an instrument
to be used for whipping. A whip is hard to control and definitely
too unprecise and it can hurt a person very badly. If you seriously
care for the health of your partner, don't use a bullwhip.
The flat hand is one of the best objects
to use, very precise and it gives you an exact feedback how hard
you hit the skin.
When more experienced you can move on
to the usage of crops. Make sure it is made of soft leather and
that it has no sharp edges (sharp hard leather edges can have
the effect of a cutting knife). A good leather crop costs about
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