BDSM

The Local Communities: BDSM

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This is a listing of places, organizations, clubs, etc, all with useful information and where you can find and get involved with your local scene. Listings include both pansexual and exclusive groups.

When sending me a link, try to include the following: name of the group, city and state its primarily located in, and a brief description of the group or organization. Also provide contact info--URL, or email contact, or regular mail/phone.

I update & check links on this page about once-twice a month (Job permitting). So, if you've sent me a listing and it isn't up on the page yet, it'll go in on the next update.

Note--PLEASE do not send listings of professional dungeons, pro doms, or BDSM-related businesses. I cannot stress that enough. This page is simply a guide to where people can meet and get involved with their BDSM community comrades NOT BDSM related businesses.

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*Delaware*Florida*Georgia*Hawaii*Idaho*Illinois*Indiana*Iowa*Kansas*Kentucky

*Louisiana*Maine*Maryland*Massachusetts*Michigan*Minnesota*Mississippi

*Missouri*Montana*Nebraska *Nevada*New Hampshire*New Jersey *New Mexico

*New York*North Carolina *North Dakota*Ohio* Oklahoma *Oregon*Pennsylvania

* Rhode Island *South Carolina*South Dakota*Tennessee *Texas*Utah*Vermont

*Virginia*Washington* Washington D.C. *West Virginia*Wisconsin*

Wyoming*


National: General Resources

  • Acme BDSM: This is a web resource and discussion page for the BDSM community.
  • The BDSM Events Page: lists time-sensitive information on events and a few international listings
  • BDSM Partner Registry: An online gift registry for those of us in the lifestyle!
  • BDSM Events: mailing lists of local BDSM events, also has international listings
  • BDSM Travelers: BDSM Travelers is a directory of friendly, travel-loving people in the BDSM lifestyle who offer each other the gift of hospitality in their homes. Members from around the world offer their hospitality to other members at no charge. These hosts, in turn, are received when they travel.
  • BDSM Village: an online cyber 'village' & resource center, but supports RL events and workshops as well in various locations.
  • The Beacon E-Zine: Online bi-monthly newsletter and calendar of BDSM events for the SE US. Covers Alabama, Arkansas, Georgia, Florida, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, South Carolina and Tennessee.
  • Bound: branches in Washington, DC as well as Baltimore MD, Tampa, FL, Richmond, VA, New Haven, CT. (NYC, Chicago, Philadelphia, San Francisco and Seattle by Oct 1998). *European* branches: Reykjavik, Iceland, Stockholm Sweden, and Prague CZ.
  • Dom sub Lifestyle: online bi-monthly newsletter and international calendar of BDSM events, groups, and group listings.
  • The Fetish Alliance: education & support resource
  • Immediate Family: an Alternative Lifestyle Safehouse/Rescue project with affiliate houses throughout the US, Canada and the UK.
  • International Deaf Leather; P.O. Box 30286, Columbus OH 43230.
  • The Fireside Society: network for women and couples into BDSM in NC, SC, VA, and GA
  • Kink Aware Professionals
  • The Kinky Lawyer: legal resource page, as it applies to us kinky folk.
  • National Leather Association
  • International Association of Rubberists
  • The Kinky Links Directory: I don't list 'professional' Dominants or Dungeons on this page, but this guide is an excellent resource to that part of the scene.
  • Lifestyle Choices Legal Resources Center: an organization to assist those who live an alternative BDSM lifestyle, whose lifestyle is being made an issue in a court of Law, on the job or at home.
  • Romantic Hotels: a directory of Romantic, Adult and Theme Room Hotels in the US and Canada for romantic getaway spots. Decent resource for kinky folks traveling, or for those who aren't into the dungeon/play party scene but still want to do something a little different for a scene.
  • SM Sex--Safely: the STOP AIDS Project. Targets gay and bisexual men, but this BDSM resource has material that is appropriate for anyone involved in BDSM/kink practices.
  • Sweet Surrender: online adult BDSM education site
  • Aggressive AIDS Prevention: nonprofit corporation dedicated to raising awareness of HIV/AIDS, encouraging HIV antibody testing, and promoting HIV Negative maintenance through Media.
  • DS Kiosk Power Exchange Resource Center

 

Alabama

 

Alaska

 

Arizona

 

Arkansas

 

California

 

Colorado

 

Connecticut

 

Delaware

 

Florida

 

Georgia

 

Hawaii

 

Idaho

  • BDSM Idaho; discussion & education list. Also lists a couple of other Idaho lists/groups/clubs.
  • North Idaho Fetish Enthusiasts: This group is for folks in the North Idaho, Eastern Washington and surrounding areas to meet, exchange ideas, and plan events. This group is for people with real life experience and to discuss the variety of styles of BDSM activities in the real world.
  • Boise: Boise BDSM Society; education & social group
  • Boise Black Rose Society: educational and support group for all members of the BDSM lifestyle.
  • Idaho Falls: Choices of Idaho; pansexual BDSM support group. Meets regularly for discussion, demonstrations, socials, munches and monthly play parties. Has chapters in Idaho Falls and Boise.
  • Idaho Friends; social munch group
  • Spokane: Spokane/Idaho Panhandle Alternative Listings

 

Illinois

  • Chicago: Chicago Leather Club; pansexual organization that provides a supportive, social, and educational environment for the Levi/leather, BDSM, and fetish communities.
  • Chicago Hellfire Club; men's group, P.O. Box 5426, Chicago, IL 60680
  • Crimson Moon Ltd: spanking resource & party site
  • Dedicated and Safe: membership pansexual group, hosts seminars, parties
  • Galleria Domain; BDSM membership club
  • Leather United-Chicago; P.O. Box 81288, Chicago, IL 60681-1288 Phone: 773-486-5499 Email: LeatherUN@aol.com
  • Leather SINS Social Club
  • BDSM Chicago; Features CRAM (Chicago rope and mummification group) and CHISM (Chicago BDSM community calendar).
  • Decatur: BCI Pearls of Wisdom; A pansexual discussion group for people 21 years and older to discuss the realtime lifestyle of D/s and b/d/s/m living in central Illinois and the surrounding areas. Monthly Munches.
  • Moline-Rock Island: Riverbound--Quad Cities BDSM
  • Rockford: REALM --Rockford and Extended Area Lifestyle Munch
  • Springfield: L.I.N.K.S; Like-minded Individuals Networking for Knowledge and Satisfaction. We meet on the third Saturday of every month for a munch/social in a local restaurant. Members host their own private play parties and are by invitation only.
  • THUDDS; pansexual munch & discussion group, play parties are members only.

 

Indiana

  • Northern Indiana: Northern Indiana Power Exchange: lifestyle group based in Northern Indiana and welcomes others from areas near by including Ohio, Michigan and Illinois.
  • Bloomington: Headspace; pansexual group, serving IU students and the rest of the community
  • Evansville: Evansville_IN_MunchBunch; email for info.
  • Fort Wayne: Fort Wayne Munch; bi-monthly munches, monthly play parties, and feature a submissive's group that meets monthly, and a Dominant's group that hasn't begun to have meetings yet.
  • Fantsy X; Fantsy X offers a space to fill a void for those In BDSM, kink, Fetish and other alternative life style Seeking others with the same likes in the same area.
  • Indianapolis: Indianapolis Munch: Indiana's oldest munch - 3rd Saturday of every month! Email info@indymunch.org for info
  • NLA Indianapolis: 1310 Oakland Ave., Indianapolis IN 46201
  • The Indy Slosh; informal BDSM group
  • The Lions Tail; education & discussion group
  • Sweet Misery, P O Box 11690, Indianapolis, IN 46201-0690
  • Lafayette: Lafayette Munch
  • Muncie: Club DOMINION; pansexual fetish nightclub/dungeon (this club seems to be in limbo right now)
  • Klub Layden; has "Fetish Night" the first and third Friday of each month.
  • Merrillville: Hood and Leash of Indiana; group of Gor and D/s Lifestyle friendly people who like to gather and learn from each other. Bi-monthly meetings.
  • South Bend: ALM; Alternative Lifestyles of Michiana
  • Valparaiso: Northwest Indiana Alt Munch

 

Iowa

 

Kansas

 

Kentucky

 

Louisiana

 

Maine

 

Maryland

 

Massachusetts

  • New England BDSM: Personals and links for New Englanders
  • Alston: The K.M. Society; P.O. Box 66, Alston MA 02134.
  • Boston: Boston Burgermunch; email for info.
  • Boston Dungeon Society
  • Common Bond; women's group, P.O. Box 390313, Boston MA 02139.
  • Bound For Pleasure; a New England BDSM social group that firmly believes in Safe, Sane and Consensual activities that will reflect on the B/D, D/S, S/M, Fetish and Alternative Lifestyle Communities in a healthy and positive light.
  • Defenders Boston: Catholic leather society, 55 E. Springfield St., Boston, MA 02118
  • New England NLA
  • The Northeast Erotic Spanking Society
  • One Nation Underground: information/ power exchange group for the BDSM/leather lifestyles
  • Boston-The Next Generation of Kinksters; pansexual BDSM group for motivated kinky individuals age 18-35 that is dedicated to education, outreach, and an enriching social environment within the leather community.
  • Braintree: SouthShore Munch; egroups list. Holds a munch 1st and 3rd Sundays of the month.
  • Cambridge: MOB New England; Women's play and social group.
  • Charlestown: Boston United Leather Legion; A gay, lesbian, bi, and transgender group, P.O. Box 287, Charlestown MA 02129.
  • Hadley: Bound and Determined, women's group, P.O. Box 602, Hadley MA 01035.
  • Medford: Urania; women's group, P.O. Box 501, Medford MA 02155.
  • Northampton: East Coast FTM Group; P.O. Box 60585, Florence Station, Northampton, MA 01060
  • Links: pansexual group, meets monthly at Intimacies in downtown Northampton.
  • One Society; Email: OneSociety@aol.com
  • Northampton Alt; adult social group
  • North Dartmouth: FLAG (Fits Like A Glove); glove fetish organization, predominantly gay male, but it is not limited to men or gay.
  • Shelix; women's group, P.O. Box 416, Northampton, MA 01060-0416
  • Randolph: The Esoterica Society; P.O. Box 37, Randolph, MA 02368
  • Saugus: munch, contact Darkskyfire@aol.com for info
  • Springfield: The Western Massachusetts Power Exchange
  • WMPE-The Next Generation; for lifestylers 18-35.
  • Taunton: munch, held the 1st and 3rd Thursdays of the month. Email Swtchr2@aol.com for info.
  • Waltham: Northeast Spanking Society; couples only group
  • Worcester: College Lifestyles In Consensual Kink; Student organization for
  • Worcester Consortium students, meetings are a safe social atmosphere for learning and meeting other kinky students

 

Michigan

 

Minnesota

 

Mississippi

 

Missouri

 

Montana

 

Nebraska

 

Nevada

  • Las Vegas: Delicious Decadence; egroup that aims to enlighten and introduce interested & curious people from all walks of life into the enticing world of Ds.
  • Diva Las Vegas; female-oriented social group
  • Dungeon Kink: A private Las Vegas play party group for SSC adults into D/s, BDSM.
  • Las Vegas BDSM Lifestyle Group: A BDSM Lifestyle Group that values Protocol and Ritual, for the Lifestyler in Las Vegas and surroundings, Singles and Couples alike, who are involved in the BDSM Lifestyle, and for those who would like to meet others in the BDSM Lifestyle, to share, socialize and interact in a safe, friendly and harmonious atmosphere and environment.
  • Leather Uniform Club of Las Vegas; gay male leather group dedicated to Education, Socializing, and Community Service.
  • Polished Collar Society; private association of like-minded individuals sharing in the experience of learning and practicing the ritualistic aspects of BDSM.
  • Twisted Vanilla; real-life/time BDSM-D/s lifestyle group based in Southern Nevada (Las Vegas/Pahrump), offering support and social activities for those interested in BDSM and D/s lifestyles, and especially those interested protocols, respects and servitudes under the practices of "Old World" Mistresses and Masters. Parties, munches and slave training available to those who are honorable and discrete.
  • Vegas Women of Leather; female-only, leatherwoman organization.
  • Shibari
  • Sin City DS Network: egroup for all Las Vegas area individuals at least 21 years of age interested in Dominance and submission, and BD/SM activities for the purpose of meeting and maintaining contact.
  • Reno: Northern Nevada Free Lifestyles; adult munch and social group.

 

New Hampshire

 

New Jersey

 

New Mexico

 

New York

 

North Carolina

  • Northeastern NC: ASKNENC; lifestyle munch group for Northeast NC, as well as Southeast Virginia
  • Central NC: The Training Camp; group/resource geared towards those new to the lifestyle.
  • Asheville: The Asheville Area Group; pansexual social group. Address: TAAG, PO Box 2372, Leicester, NC 28748.
  • Western Carolinas Alternative Lifestyle Lovers
  • Carteret/Craven County: CCMunch; pansexual munch/play group for those in the Carteret/Craven county area of North Carolina interested in the D/s BDSM lifestyle.
  • Charlotte: Charlotte Area Power Exchange; a not-for-profit pansexual organization in the south central Piedmont area of North Carolina for people who share an interest in BDSM.
  • Black Garden; pansexual BDSM group w/ weekly get togethers. bi monthly rope suspension 'shows', regular club nights, irregular private play parties, see link and calendar for details
  • LINX
  • Purgatory; bi-monthly fetish party, with rotating themes
  • Tradesmen, Inc; men's group, P.O. Box 36712, Charlotte NC 28204.
  • Tradesman, Inc; P.O. Box 36712, Charlotte, NC 28204
  • Fayetteville: Fayetteville Area Power Exchange; Pansexual BDSM group in the Sandhills of North Carolina. Website requires Shockwave.
  • SPANK; Southern Piedmont Advocates of Negotiated Kink
  • Greensboro: Rope Desires; Mailing list: To subscribe to the mail-list, send email to RDGroup1@aol.com and put "subscribe RDGroup" without the quote marks in the body of the message. To unsubscribe, same thing but use unsubscribe.
  • TALON; for more info, email: talon@talon-nc.org
  • NC_BDSM Mail List Info: To subscribe to the mail-list, send email to majordomo@psicorps.org and put "subscribe NC_BDSM" without the quote marks in the body of the message. To UNsubscribe, same thing but use unsubscribe.
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  • Raleigh-Durham: Dark Shadow
  • Triangle Area Munch and Social Group
  • Salisbury: Mid South Central NC
  • Wilkesboro: Dominant Females and Submissives Alliance; Private group engaged in the practice of real time Female Dominance and male/female submission relationships. Monthly meetings involving discussions, dinner, play socials, and special events.
  • Wilmington: Menamore Levi Leather Club; contact email Menamore@aol.com
  • WINK: private alternative lifestyle group in southeastern North Carolina for Adults who practice SSC bdsm; for discussion, education, support and socializing.
  • Winston-Salem: Female Artists of Domination; BDSM organization created by Female Dominants for Female Dominants and their submissives

 

North Dakota

 

Ohio

 

Oklahoma

 

Oregon

 

Pennsylvania

 

Rhode Island

  • Pawtucket: Pawtucket Munch; meets on alternate Mondays. For details, send e-mail to IMaFunSub@aol.com or visit the discussion list.
  • Providence: Aces; P.O. Box 261, Annex Station, Providence RI 02901.
  • RI Enforcers: leather group for gay men, bi people, TGs and lesbians, dedicated to being a brotherhood/sisterhood in leather and raising funds for local AIDS charities.
  • Social Eyes; private BDSM club
  • Yielding To Be Bound; Discreet and alluring private Establishment dedicated to undistorted B&D, S&M. Professional D/s training and intimate play parties.

 

South Carolina

 

South Dakota

 

Tennessee

 

Texas

 

Utah

  • Salt Lake City:
  • The Path; friendly pansexual group that delivers organized "how to" BDSM lectures and classes
  • Utah Power Exchange (UPEX); pansexual r/t group
  • Wasatch Leathermen; men's group, P.O. Box 1311, Salt Lake City, UT 84110

 

Vermont

  • Brattleboro/Keene NH: Darkstoneds; pansexual BDSM group, monthly munches and socials.
  • Rose & Thorn Northern Vermont BDSM Parties; This is a friendly gathering of people who are active in the Dominant/submissive lifestyle. This is an opportunity to meet friends (and singles) who are on the same page. This is NOT a "play" party but an opportunity to build a community of like-minded people.
  • Vermont Society of Kink; holds a Soiree the First Friday of each month as well as a popular online discussion group.

 

Virginia

 

Washington

 

Washington D.C.

  • Black Rose; PO Box 11161, Arlington, VA 22210-1161. Phone: (202) 686-5880
  • Bound: fetish, Goth, Industrial club, light BDSM play and lots of fetish gear and vendors. Locations in DC and Baltimore, home base is in DC.
  • The Crucible: BDSM nightclub, email or call 202-310-2100
  • DC Spanking; pansexual email list
  • Defenders; Catholic Leather Group, P O Box 33098, Washington, DC 20033
  • First of the Month Munch; email for info.
  • The Men of Discipline; PO Box 21090, Washington, DC 20009
  • PEP-Washington DC; P.O. Box 1160, Arlington VA 22210
  • The Power Exchange
  • The Resource Pool; education and discussion group for the DC, VA, and MD area. Also holds workshops.
  • SIGMA; men's leather/bdsm/bondage social group, call (202)728-7589 for the Hotline, or email Sigmadc@aol.com for more info.

 

West Virginia

  • West Virginia Femdom: NEW, so new that you can still smell the paint, Femdom-oriented support group just trying to get off the ground.
  • Beckley: SMACK; for individuals in the Beckley, WV and surrounding areas who have a sincere interest in BD, D/s, and/or M/s relationships.
  • Clarksburgh/Bridgeport: WELTS; pansexual munch & support group
  • Glengary: WHIP; educational and social pansexual leather group
  • Tri State Area Power Exchange(TAPE): new munch for the WV/KY/OH area
  • Wheeling: WV Meet and greet, email bbw4urcmnd@aol.com for info.

 

Wisconsin

  • Green Bay: N.E.W.D.s. (North Eastern Wisconsin Dom sub) ; pansexual BDSM munch group
  • Milwaukee: DAMES; women's group, P O Box 1272, Milwaukee, WI 98122
  • Milwaukee Munch
  • Milwaukee Naughties; pansexual munch group
  • Wausau: Mid State Munch; bdsm/ds support group with no restrictions as regards race, creed, sexual orientation or alternative lifestyle.
  • Sheboygan:: Sheboygan_SA; This group was started with the desire of making it easier for those of us in/near the Sheboygan area with 'alternative lifestyle' interests to get together, share ideas, and plan social activities in an accepting atmosphere. This group welcomes all the varied lifestyle alternatives. *note: we are not a swinger group, but as an alternative lifestyle, swingers are welcome.

 

Wyoming

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