In loving memory of my angels...
Baby T. miscarried 3/1/91
Matthew Bradley still born 4/21/92...
and all the angels playing with them in Heaven
In Memory of Our Son, Matthew

"Some people only dream of angels...I held one in my arms."
Matthew
April 21, 1992
HAPPY 17th BIRTHDAY-MATTHEW! YOU ARE LOVED AND MISSED!

How softly you tiptoed into our world, almost silently.
Only a moment you stayed.
But what an imprint your tiny footsteps have left upon our hearts.


Matthew Bradley was still born on April 21, 1992 at 7:52am.

He was 8lbs and 19 1/2 inches long.

He is the precious son of Missy and Steven.


At 36 weeks of pregnancy, after undergoing a routine ultrasound, it was discovered that Matthew had a birth defect called anencephaly. The term means without a brain. This birth defect is incompatible with life. We were told Matthew could die before, during, or soon after birth. The weeks that followed the news that my baby would die are a blur. I do remember that I savored every second of my baby's life that was to be lived only in me. I cherished EVERY movement, every kick, every hiccup! I loved singing to him
and rocking him in the middle of the night when I couldn't sleep. He would respond with kicks and punches which I interpreted as, "I love you mommy!". I waited until the last possible moment to leave when I was in labor. I was rushed to the hospital just in time. As Matthew was delivered, I remember longing to hear a cry or whimper. There was silence.

Matthew was gone. My husband and I held him, rocked him, took pictures of him, kissed his sweet face, and loved him with all our hearts.

Our families held him also if they wanted. It was a special time for me to see my son with all his family. We kept Matthew with us for hours. It was very difficult to let him go.
We had a beautiful graveside service for him. His tiny casket was covered with baby blue carnations.

We said our final goodbyes to our precious baby.
His life, lived only in my womb, has changed me forever.

After Matthew's death, I remember feeling such intense saddness and despair.
I missed him terribly. I wanted answers, and there were none.
After the saddness, there was anger. Then finally, there was peace and healing. Two years after Matthew died, we were blessed with a beautiful daughter. Eighteen months later, we were again blessed...this time with a healthy baby boy. I thank God for all my babies. It is truly a miracle to bring a new life into this world.

If you are visiting this page and have lost a baby...we share in this pain. If you have just found out that your baby has a fatal birth defect, please feel free to contact me. It has been many years since I held my precious baby.
Time has eased my pain. It's not gone, but life is happy again. My days are filled with the laughter, silliness, and joy that my children bring me. I remember Matthew now more with love and happiness than the initial saddness and grief.
I remember thinking I would never feel that way again.
God has given me the comfort to bear my grief.
There is hope.


WHO YOU'D BE TODAY

Sunny days seem to hurt the most. Wear the pain like a heavy coat.
I feel you everywhere I go. I see your smile, I see your face-
I hear you laughing in the rain. Still can't believe your gone.

It ain't fair you died to young- like a story that had just begun

But death tore the pages all away. God knows how I miss you-
All the pain that I've been through just knowing, no one could take your place.
Sometimes I wonder, who you'd be today

Would you see the world?
Would you chase your dreams? Settle down with a family?
I wonder what would you name your babies?
Someday's the sky's so blue- I feel like I can talk to you.
And I know it might sound crazy

It ain't fair you died to young- like a story that had just begun

But death tore the pages all away. God knows how I miss you-
All the pain that I've been through just knowing, no one could take your place.
Sometimes I wonder, who you'd be today

Sunny days seem to hurt the most.
I wear the pain like a heavy coat. The only thing that gives me hope-
Is I know, I'll see you again someday.
IF YOU CAME BACK FROM HEAVEN

I wouldn't know what to say. I wouldn't know what to do
If you came back from heaven and I could look at you.
Would I fumble for the words? Would I be a little shy?
Would I bust right out with laughter? Or break right down and cry?

Oh if you came back from Heaven would it be like it was then?

Could we just pick up where we left off and try it all again?
Oh if you came back from Heaven it would freeze me in my tracks.
And I hope God knows if He let you go - I'd never send you back.

Do your kisses feel the same? Do you still have the same touch?

And will you whipser softly that you've missed me so much?
Have you heard all my prayers as I lay down at night
And did feel my body when I held your pillow tight?

Oh if you came back from Heaven would it be like it was then?

Could we just pick up where we left off and try it all again?
Oh if you came back from Heaven it would freeze me in my tracks
And I hope God knows if He let you go I'd never send you back.

And if God forbid you leave this earth again while I sleep.

I hope He knows if you go, you'll be bringing me...

Oh if you came back from Heaven would it be like it was then?

Could we just pick up where we left off and try it all again?
Oh if you came back from Heaven it would freeze me in my tracks.
And I hope God knows if He let you go -
I'd never send you back.

I hope God knows if He let you go -

I'd never send you back.


TO MATTHEW, FROM MOMMY

When I lost you, I lost a lifetime of dreams.
A lifetime of teddy bears and choo choo trains.
Of toy trucks and sand castles and walks in the rain.
I lost the chance to kiss scraped knees, to make it all better.
To rock you in my arms,
And to whisper a quiet lullaby in the early morning hours.
I lost hearing your first words and seeing your first step.
I lost seeing daddy smile with joy when he hears "I love you".
I lost wiping away your tears and hearing your robust cries.
I now wipe away my own tears,
and hear the endless sobs of my own painful cries.
But what I did not lose are the few precious memories...
Of first seeing your heart beat on the ultrasound
Or seeing you wave at me from the screen
Or your first kick I felt.
Or the one that your daddy first felt that made him jump with surprise.
Or the hiccups and the heartburn you gave me!
Or hearing your heart beat so strong and loud.
And of your last kick "goodbye" before you left us to play in heaven.
When I lost you, Matthew. I lost the most precious gift -
MY SON.
Matthew
April 21, 1992
You are loved and missed MATTHEW!

THE DANCE

Looking back on the memory of

The dance we shared beneath the stars above
For a moment all the world was right
How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye

And now I'm glad I didn't know

The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Holding you I held everything

For a moment wasn't I the king
If I'd only known how the king would fall
Hey who's to say you know I might have changed it all

And now I'm glad I didn't know

The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Yes my life is better left to chance

I could have missed the pain but I'd of had to miss
the dance
Loving Tributes To More Angels

Jessica's Journey
Michaela's Hope
Devon
Caleb's Memorial
Annalise's Page
Hope Christine
Loren's Story


Helpful/Supportive/Informational Sites

Waiting With Love, Parent Letter
Waiting With Love Support Group Site
Anencephaly Support Foundation

Buy Viagra Online - Our Sponsors

This page was lovingly made by Matthew's mom.
Thank you for stopping by! Please sign my guest book so I know you were here. Thank you!
Missy Werdebaugh Torzillo's Facebook profile
Email: missyandsteve@comcast.net

Read my Dreambook!
Sign my Dreambook!
Dreambook
End HTML comment -->

This Anencephalic Angels site owned by Missy T.
[ Previous 5 Sites | Previous | Next | Next 5 Sites | Random Site | List Sites

When I look back on those times and the dreams we left behind,
I'll be glad because I was blessed to get to have you in my life.
When I look back on those days, I'll look and see your face.
In my dreams I'll always see you soar above the sky.
In my heart there'll always be a place for you for all my life.
I'll keep a part of you with me, and everywhere I am...there you'll be.