Death: Greiving, Reflection, etc..

(NEW SITE)

"My heart is in anguish within me; the terrors of death assail me."-Psalm 55:4


"Say it loud...say it clear..." These are some of the words to a song I (Sal) was listening to when I was at work this morning (11/5/03-Check "Living Years" by Mike and The Mechanics).

"Eric Clapton - Tears in Heaven"

"Beyond the door There's peace I'm sure. And I know there'll be no more... Tears in heaven "

"he will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears from all faces"-Isaiah 25:8

I decided to start this website, which I've been planning to for awhile-especially after a former UMM student died unexpectedly from a fatal car accident a month ago in the Twin Cities. In fact this former student-Christian-was a floormate of mine when I lived in Spooner Hall during my senior year at UMM. When I first got a prayer chain e-mail from a sister-in-Christ about his accident-I immediately prayed for him and his family with my friends in my living room.

Many times we forget about the people God puts in our lives until they are gone. For example, I work at a group home for developmentally disabled adults. One of the 8 consumers (a.k.a. residents) was gone for several days for a trip out of state. After a day or even less, the staff started to missed this particular consumer's presence at the home. One reason was that he was very helpful with many household errands, which we would rely on him at times on this duty. A sad circumstance was another consumer, who died of health complications. When he died, we started to reminiscence the "good times" when he was around.

I wanted to do this website to encourage grievers to reflect and bring back the good ole' memories of this person with love ones or people that knew him. This tends to help with the grieving time after someone's death.

My main goal for this website is to have you the readers value every moment of the people God puts in your life. Our life can sometimes get too busy to realize what we are already blessed with! This life reflecting e-mail forward explains some of this....

Mad at God!

When a close one dies unexpectedly? It's natural to be mad at God. We question why? For example, there was this young woman who took her life and her friends that tried to help her couldn't understand why God didn't answer their prayers. Another story was a young woman that died of cancer at a very young age. An unexpected fatal car accident took the life a young college graduate, whose life seem promising. Why? Why does good things happen to good people?

First of all, there is no "good" people because we were all born to sin since the "first day" of Creation (Genesis).

I'm not an expert or know the answer to why God let "bad" things happen to "good" people-I'm only 26. However, I can direct them to God and the Bible. From my knowledge of this Book, I can refer them to read the book of Job in the Old Testament.

18 While he was still speaking, yet another messenger came and said, "Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother's house, 19 when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!" 20 At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship 21 and said:

"Naked I came from my mother's womb,
and naked I will depart. [3]
The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away;
may the name of the LORD be praised."

22 In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.

more..Job

If you had some bad times in life, you should read the trials (death of a family member, losing his hardwork property, etc..) that this guy went through. I pray that you'll find some peace in your circumstance in the season in the wilderness after reading this.

Subject: FW: Profound words from a keen observer

GEORGE CARLIN POST 9-11 (His wife recently died...) Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - gross and mouthy comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent ...and so very appropriate post 9-11. A wonderful Message by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things. We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent. Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. Can you think of any? If you don't send this to at least 8 people.... who cares? George Carlin cont...

Fwd: MOMENTS IN LIFE
from my friend Shannon

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!

When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us.

Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

Please send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

If you don't send it, don't worry, nothing bad will happen to you; you will just miss out on the opportunity to brighten someone's day with this message!!!

Is There Life After Death?

" A drunken driver loses control of his car and careens head first into a van killing a family. A mother dies of breast cancer leaving confused children and a grieving husband. A desperate depressed tee... more >>
A drunken driver loses control of his car and careens head first into a van killing a family. A mother dies of breast cancer leaving confused children and a grieving husband. A desperate depressed teenager commits suicide. These are the stories that fill our newspapers. Death is a reality of life, but what happens after death? Is there the hope of an after life? On Beyond Today, lets look at what happens to you when you die."

What Would Heaven be like?

Have you ever ask this question? A friend ask this question as he thought it would be boring. I told him that when you come to a personal relationship with your Heavenly Father, you will look forward to going to Heaven. My friend sarcastically said, "Is heaven going to be place where we'll just play music and float in the clouds...this would be boring". In the Bible, it describes this place will be filled with us worshipping God. Not just milk and cookies!

-Movies
5 People You'll Meet in Heaven

more on heaven....


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  • Free Sympathy E-Cards
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  • Tears in Heaven, by Esmee Denters
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  • Death, Dying, and Grief, from a personal site
  • "Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy."-Psalm 126:5

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