I am going to respond at this time to years worth of posts on the internet, letters to a certain family, and comments made by a person identified as Serena Booth.  The comments I am referring to are in reference to a child identified as Adrian Booth who's father is married to her and identified as Talbert Booth Jr.

My name is James Bonnette and I have no problem addressing the person I am writing to and/or about.  I am not going to be underhanded or speak from the side of my mouth about who I am speaking about because I have nothing to hide about what I am saying.

Adrian is my stepson and I have watched him deal with his emotions about having a relationship with his father for almost 8 years now.  I have witnessed his stepmother (Serena Booth) post many things on the internet concerning his mother who is my wife.  I am not upset about what she has to say about my wife as my wife's friends will speak for her in reference to the type of person she is.  In fact, Adrian's father's family will be happy, and has been happy, to speak for the type of person and mother she is.  I do not feel that is in question except by those who have something to gain by demeaning her.  I have watched Adrian cry about the lack of existence of a relationship with his father even after many attempts to secure that relationship.  I have watched while comments were made that Adrian has made no attempts as a result of me or my wife's influence on him which has been proven to his own father's family that this is not the truth.

What is happening is that Adrian is not being considered as the most important person in this situation and instead Serena's own emotions are the most important considerations in these internet posts, etc...  I cannot speak for Talbert's intentions as I have yet to hear about his intentions toward his son.  It appears that Serena has his voice for the most part, at least from my standpoint.  If I am wrong about that, I sincerely apologize.  Maybe that should make someone say, "Hmmmm..."  

If Adrian is not the most important person considered in this situation then everyone handling this situation is wrong.  Any court in the land will tell you quickly enough that the child in any divorce or visitation situation is the only person of interest or consideration and parents come second and step-parents aren't even a consideration unless they pose a threat to the child.  That is the direction of this blog.  In the interest of Adrian I am more than willing to state these facts and if anyone has any problem with it they can sue me if they feel they have a case.

It is sad when a child's own family, short of his father and stepmother, state to his stepfather that he is more of a father than his own father.  I am not proud of that but instead that makes me sad for Adrian.  I wish his father had more of a relationship with him than I did.  I am not about to guess or express my own opinion about why that is the case short of his father needs to speak for himself when it comes to his son rather than let the stepmother lead him. (just an observation)  

 Ultimately it boils down to this as far as this blog is concerned.  I felt obligated to say something as things have gotten worse since the last time all parties were together in reference to slurring things across the internet.  That is wrong!!!  Adrian is not considered in these posts as the most important person in this situation and instead this is nothing more than a campaign which can easily be compared to a political mud smearing.  This does not benefit Adrian in the least.  I have posted this blog in the hopes that the mud smearing will cease or turn toward me instead of others so that maybe Adrian can stop having to worry about that interfering with his relationships.  I hope that Adrian can one day have a father/son relationship with his father that ommits me and his stepmother.  I hope that for Adrian's sake and not mine.  If other people in this situation would see themselves clear of the relationship that just might happen.

It doesn't matter what licenses we hold or what our GPA was in college as I can hold out with the best during the time I went to college, etc...  That is not the point.  You may be smarter as far as book learning goes Serena... you may not...  Adrian doesn't care!  He is looking for a relationship with his father first, maybe you second...!!!