A common mistake
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Many repeat the same mistake – and without care for their outer egoism, they try to throw everything away and bury themselves in spiritual pursuits. In this way their suffering becomes worse, because both sides are unsatisfied. Let me explain this in another way. What would a day be like, if you didn’t sleep well the night before? It is the same for your outer egoism. Care for the horse, and the rider will also be satisfied.
If your egoism turns into egocentrism, you will notice this from several symptoms. If you can’t refuse something that is irrelevant at this time, and this is followed by paranoia and a feeling of guilt – you’re on the way to excessive egocentrism. If at first you look for the interests of others when seeking something – egoism won’t harm you. If you love and respect yourself, not expecting blind admiration from others, and don’t trouble yourself by looking for approval of your personal significance – you are in a healthy way. If you begin any answer with a word “no”, devalue the opinions of others almost automatically, and think that your way is the best way – then know that you have a big problem, which is going to obscure your life more and more…
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Secret of successful communication
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When other people try to “correct” you, there’s no need to worry. Every time someone blames you, they blame themselves in principle. If the desire to call someone a fool or egoist comes to you, it’s worth looking in a mirror and asking – what could I do to get rid of such a quality?
The biggest secret leading to successful communication is reducing your conceit to a minimum, and exalting the conceit of other people. All people want is to be significant in the eyes of others. When you throw off your conceit, and work on exalting the significance of other people, you will rid yourself of all your enemies. People will want to communicate with you kindly, because they won’t see you as a competitor. The most paradoxical thing is that your significance in others’ eyes will only rise…
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Wisdom & experience
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Once I had a possibility to watch a child running around in the park. He was barefoot on the grass. His grandfather was looking after him, and from time to time tried to warn the child to put his sandals on, because there could have been broken glass in the field. The child was ignoring his grandfather’s warnings, and continued running barefoot. A conflict between the two generations was clearly seen.
During his life, the grandfather had probably faced broken glass more than one time and come to appropriate conclusions, whereas the child hadn’t experienced it yet, and couldn’t understand what all the talk was about. Meanwhile, the grass is so nice and soft…
Conclusion: our wisdom comes together with our experience, but the same wisdom can also stop us. Grandfather probably never experienced fresh morning grass with his feet again…
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Conflict is the best teacher
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Many interesting things happen when we don’t agree with another person’s opinion. We can see two possibilities in a conflict situation. The first – I am angry and despise my opponent. The second – I understand what a fool I am, and try to listen to his opinion closely. If you are practicing the first communication option, it looks like you are a loner with limited amount of friends. With the second option, you are welcome in any company, and surrounded by many friends…
People say that fools are lucky. Silliness is a key which helps to conquer many obstacles. But don’t value silliness as stupidity or imbecility – these are totally different things. Real silliness is more similar to naivety. Try an experiment. Give a simple story to a few friends to read, and ask them to explain how they understood it in writing. You will clearly see their character and values in their descriptions. Everyone will only stick to things which they understand to be true for themselves, and will like it as much as it corresponds to their values.
Here you should realize that each of us is important to ourselves, and that trying to change others only results in fruitless efforts. When you learn to hear and try to understand another person, you will discover many new things. Let it be a stimulus for you…
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The main cause of stress
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Many of you will admit that the main cause of our diseases and mental disorders is stress, usually arising from communication with other people. Relationships or interpersonal communication psychology between people is one of the most popular topics in mass media. Family life and professional relations are talked about while considering their various aspects. A lot of advice is given which is denied the next month, and new advice is offered.
Still, the majority of this advice leads in a different direction and doesn’t illuminate the main concerns. Meanwhile, all the real problems go on their own merry way, and may be solved and disappear.
In a family or a society – communication is the basis of everything. Human self-evaluation and realization are closely related to other people. Only in communicating with others and comparing ourselves with them can we realize who we really are. But communication itself isn’t a problem. The problem begins when we don’t get approval from our environment. To be precise – when the people around us don’t behave in line with our wishes.
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When talking to another person, you are actually talking to yourself
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An idyllic picture. Two people meet, talk to each other, and separate in a friendly manner. You may say – what’s so special here? But I suggest that you look at this situation a bit closer. If you are unbiased and fair enough, you will notice an interesting thing. When talking to other person, we are actually talking to ourselves.
Whether we want to or not, we think of ourselves as the centre of the universe, also seeing the world only through ourselves. This is especially true in conflict situations. But let’s analyze this at first by asking – why do conflict situations arise in interpersonal communication? The main cause is disagreement in opinions. Now, let’s consider what such a disagreement really means…
Every person has unique personal experience. What seems dangerous to one person can be a normal daily routine for another, and vice versa. When talking, people share their experience and exchange opinions. On principle, during communication with an unknown person, a scanning process is working. The process is soft enough up to a particular limit – till all the parameters synchronize. When the parameters totally synchronize, we say that the person is good, and seek friendship with them. A conflict situation appears when one or the other’s internal limit for achieved possibility is reached or exceeded…
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Which desire is yours?
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The biggest problem is that when we think we want something, it’s often difficult to differentiate which desires are ours, and which are imposed by society and our environment. It’s very hard to separate desires created by egoism.
Let’s talk about the main indicators of real desires. When a desire is real, the consciousness is full of a satisfaction that has no burning fire within itself. If you feel increased excitement, the desire has been created by egoism. This excitement usually doesn’t last for long because after that, a clear goal is set, and the desire-goal achievement at any price process begins…
A real goal is like a real dream. It has no suffering or doubts. You just have a desire, and you can see at once how it begins to come true. Realization without obstacles only confirms the desire’s match to your inner potential. In really wanting, you don’t care about the result, because there’s no egoism. This is another way to separate an egoistic desire from a real one. If you feel a fear of loss until its achievement, know that this desire doesn’t belong to you…
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Concentration
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Concentration chains
I think that it’s the fault of the person. People have chosen the way of intellect as their main guiding process. We can see different stages of human development in history where we didn’t have any intellectual dictation. For instance, our intellectually created science still can’t explain how the Pyramids were built, how Jesus managed to walk on water, and many other things. But all these miracles are easily untangled, if we don’t try to understand them through intellect. Logic here is powerless – absolutely other laws are at work here…
The biggest part of a modern person is his consciousness, which is colored by his goals. A goal is not a main problem itself. The manner used in seeking a goal is a bigger problem. Many people only concentrate their attention on the goal, and try to achieve it by all means. Naturally, a question arises – What will the result be if it is only sought under stress? If you can only see the final goal, any obstacle or circumstance preventing its accomplishment makes you nervous and increases your level of stress. This is reflected in your mind. Because of the stress and tension, you won’t be able to recognize a favorable condition when it appears on the path to your goal…
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Love to the parts
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“Love the person you see, not who you would like to…”
How we understand love
We understand love in a twofold manner. The first way is limitless and unconditional love of all, as set out in the scriptures. The second way is daily love, when one person loves another. I will not mention love of all in this part of the article. Here, I’m going to talk about the aspects of daily love. It can be recognized according to several of its main features.
At first, you may observe that daily love is diluted with a sufficient dose of egoism. If he loves her, she must love him, and vice versa. Lacking this response in daily love is the straightest path towards suffering. Each lover tries untiringly to adjust the object of his love to himself. That’s another quality and evil. The main reason for all the conflicts between couples is the Lover Illusion.
Lover illusion
The Lover illusion is the physical being of a person, adoring and cherishing deep feelings for his phantom. The funniest thing is that this phantom is not imposed or created by your partner. You create it by yourself. While being with your “lover”, you think that you love a real person, but you are wrong here. You love someone who really only exists in your head. So let’s look how it works. Actually, it all happens simply enough. When you fall in love, that person immediately becomes special to you. You exclude them from the common crowd. You think of them, remember them, and dream of them a lot. This feeling of admiration forces you to keep returning back to the object of your love by thoughts. In gratitude to human egoism (the self-defence instinct) you remember and keep in your head only things which you like in that person. Every time you relive pleasant moments, your consciousness becomes full of blessings. Many see love of their partners in such a way. People do not say “love is blind” needlessly. Love is blind in the direct meaning of it – it doesn’t let you see the real person near you, but only the phantom who exists in your head. The more you think about your lover, the stronger the phantom becomes, and after that other mechanisms switch on automatically. One of them is the imagination. In your mind you are constantly polishing up the portrait of your lover. As this occurs, the result is proportional to the size and extent of your imagination.
Love to the parts
There are only separate romanticized parts of a lover in your head, not an entire person. It’s just a phantom who is almost not related to the original. After creating this phantom, you quickly notice that your lover may not be fulfilling all your expectations. Because you “know” how they should behave in one or another situation. This is the start of conflicts in your relationship. Even worse – You begin to try to adjust the real person to match the phantom by all means. By the way, this is another feature of daily love – extortion. Extortion of someone who you think you love. The worst of it is that you do it from the heart, by lying to yourself and harming this close person. If the real person loves you enough, they can think that something is truly wrong, and start trying to change in line with your picture of them. But then the real person risks losing what they had in the beginning, plus the phantom perception of them in your head.
Egoism in love
Destroy the phantom
An piece of advice for you – try to know your lover from the start. Remember conflict situations, and look at them from your lover’s side. Let go of any egoistic claims to your partner. You will be surprised at how many conflicts would not have happened at all, and you will see that the original and the phantom you created are two different things. Try to forget your I in a relationship, and pay more attention to your partner. Remember that our bodies consist of many cells. A healthy cell gives 70% of its energy to the organism, and keeps just 30% for itself. When a cell takes 70% of the energy, we call it a cancer cell. Now, try to apply this formula to your relationship…
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Fatigue – the consequence of civilization?
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„Face death every evening, so that you can be reborn in the morning…“
Fatigue – the consequence of civilization?
Look at modern man – feeling tired has almost become a fashion. It’s like an official statement that shows you are normal, like a sign that proves that you follow an insane rhythm in life step by step. Modern people, working from dawn till dusk in being relevant to all, feel very tired and complain about fatigue. A shroud of fatigue like a dense mist covers and lies on more and more people in the world…
People are trying to escape from the rat race and blindly following the illusion that a big amount of money means happiness. We’ll talk about this incorrect illusion in other parts of the book. Now let’s pay attention to fatigue and its real consequences. Doctors have even developed a new term for this phenomenon – Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. A survey of general practitioners shows that as much as 55% of their patients complain about this. Naturally, a question arises – why do we get so tired and from what?
Causes of fatigue
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome has various causes. The first is the fast pace of life and its growing requirements. The second is…
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The worst of it is that a person lying on a beach can feel constant tension in their head, caused by many unfinished tasks and other factors. But we only need so little. In growing up, many of us have lost the wonderful ability of just letting things go that we had in our childhood.
Your mind is never on holiday
Observe yourself in the evening before falling asleep – what a sea of unfinished tasks and thoughts live in your head. If due to this hive of thoughts, caused by circumstances, you fall asleep in a troubled state of mind, it will lead to a troubled night of sleep. Naturally, a person feels tired after not getting enough sleep. This has no end – we’re going around and around like dogs chasing our tails.
Each of us has a particular amount of potential energy. Some have more, others have less, but we won’t talk about it in this part of the book. Every thought or action we make requires a certain amount of energy. It’s like a car – with a certain amount of fuel it can drive a certain distance. It’s the same thing with people. All your thoughts require some amount of energy, and here it’s worth mentioning that mental work leads to fatigue faster than physical work. Of course, it’s easier to recognize cases of physical fatigue, because the body simply gets tired, while in cases of mental work, the human mind is worn down.
Each of us should also delve deeper into our internal world. We should clearly recognize what our internal energy is being used for. Maybe it is not being used for things you are presently doing, but instead, it is focused on things that have already been done, or should be done. Plus, this work doesn’t end after working hours or while on holiday. In our minds, we constantly feel and think about various desires, motives and so on, and while we may not always be aware of them consciously, they are with us all the time.
Ways of solving the problem of constant fatigue
Psychological tiredness causes constant stress. The most popular way of solving an internal conflict is to set it aside consciously or unconsciously. Because we don’t know what our behavior should be, we try to put the problem far away from us as an irrelevant thing. Sometimes we start to drink. It helps us forget for a time, but later it comes back with double force. The problem is not solved yet, and the body now has a hangover. Attempting to hide internal confusion requires a lot of energy. Even if you think you have managed to forget one or another problem, fatigue can be a symptom showing that that skeleton in your closet hasn’t come out into the light of day yet. You will have to work on it, or it will come out by itself, and this usually happens in a disturbing fashion.
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So when going to sleep every evening, let it all go – like it would be your last day on Earth. Leave the problem solving for your unconscious internal mind. It knows all the answers, but you will have to trust it, and ask it questions without mental tension. Many different cultures have a saying – “morning is wiser than evening”. Only a clean mind can be reborn every morning. Develop the art of letting go, and you won’t meet any obstacles on your Way.
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Knowing that not knowing is good equals halfway to happiness…
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Information paradox
These days every human can be called walking library. While Christian tradition says that God’s ways are higher, we can make a finding – intellectual ways are limitless. Developing civilization and growing amount of information show that intellect is in golden age. But it hasn’t brought happiness to people, even with technological progress. It’s related to all aspects of our lives, especially families…
Check divorce statistics. Family institution is losing its meaning. Number of divorce is growing. The bride earlier was being chosen by feelings, or found by parents in some cultures. Now we usually look at money, attractive body, and other indicators. But the main selector is Intellect. Having eyes on couples being in communication, we can easily predict which relationships grow on love, and which – on intellect. Listening to their life stories, we can notice a trend that success comes to couples existing on love. Couples existing on money or other creation of intellect, are unsuccessful and have the biggest number of divorce. Apart from this, we could talk about almost extinct family institution for very long. But it’s not a goal of this book.
Keeping up the topic on intellect and its impact to our lives, we should remember the Introduction – the more unhappy human is, the higher intellect he owns. Take a look around and observe the surroundings. How many love songs have been written. Unfortunately, almost all of them state accomplished fact – star-crossed love. Remember your own love. Accordingly, could you say then – “I’m in love!”? Probably not. Because if you could, your feelings had been coming out by outer things and the satisfaction of egoism. So that’s why a lover is silent, the saint is silent – they own a quality, but don’t realize it. It’s intellect that realizes and values. After all, what can you say when being just in emotion full of Here and Now, and there’s no need for any talk.
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Problem arises
All the science refers to logic and mind. The domination of intellect reflects in our education system, too. This dominant structure could destroy any show up of a personality. In such a way of killing personal expression, teachers turn kids into robots. Parents play active role in all this. Adults dictate: “You must go to school… you must listen to your teachers… if it’s written in the book, it’s absolutely true… I haven’t died from learning… I have achieved all this because of science only…”. In school we are tought grammar, maths, and many other disciplines. It could seem very nice and generous from a disctance. But in fact we use tiny part of the whole learning module in practice. That is how we can become humans with a wider knowledge of other galaxies than ourselves…
Only grown up we start to realize that life consists not only of physics or maths, but also of Nature Rules, which have a huge effect on our daily routine. We learn the operating principles of these rules by intuition. Same at school, same in life – some go further, some do not. But imagine what the life would be, if higher maths would be changed with Nature Rules. I don’t talk about physics or chemistry – Human with his mental, physical condition, intercommunication, and the rules which have impact on all this, are in my mind. Enough for galaxy search – it’s time to find Yourself!
Guiding law of life!
I always have been unsatisfied with the truths tought at school. None of the teachers could find answers to the main questions – “What is the meaning of life?”, “Who am I?”, etc. Later I started to gain a degree from the university of life. All the life I have been among people, not contented with a superficial answer – I always have been looking for the primary source, and tried to understand the real cause of connection between things and relationships…
Studies go on. When looking back, the feeling that they have no end, comes. Truths realized just yesterday, today are being denied and realized anew. Points which were only beautiful words not long ago, today are my personal qualities. Despite the things found on my Way, each day I feel like a first-former. Such an attitude helps to keep learning. I had met many teachers in my life. Some of them were pseudo-teachers, some – real pearls, who left a deep impression to me. Observing them, their teaching systems and analyzing results, I made one and only conclusion – despite our nationality, race or religion, all of us are under the guiding law.
And the guiding law is Satisfaction in consciousness. It’s a constant and the main engine, ruling all our life processes. Whatever a situation in our socium or daily routine would be, it should be valued through this feeling at first. When we face a life-friendly situation, we meet life like a flower in spring meets the eye of a sun. Endless satisfaction appears in our consciousness… This feeling is an indicator, determining many our choices.
Satisfaction in consciousness verifies that human outer ego and his inside accept the situation, and there is no conflict between the outside and inside world. When a life-friendly situation occurs in the Way, and consciousness fills itself with satisfaction, all the things go on automatically. All the morals and religious teachings, such as “be good”, “love your neighbor”, become meaningless. Human, who experiences a smile from the destiny, or faces a life-friendly situation, doesn’t need to be told that he should respect elder people and women, take compassion on unfortunates, and things like that. It’s a matter of course to him. And the most important point is that he realizes it as a natural thing, not the truths told by someone else.
When having a deal with satisfaction in consciousness, you can’t cheat yourself. The feeling of pleasure can’t be created – it comes, when human inside (body and mind), is in harmony with his outside (socium and circumstances). The book will tell you how to match these parts, and what are the main factors which make trouble. I have just mentioned the word “happiness”, but things about which I write can’t be called in such a manner. The definition of Happiness can be realized easily by each of you. It can even be felt physically. It is Satisfaction in consciousness.
Pleasure in consciousness is all that you need. It’s a guiding star, showing whether we are in correct Way, or not. Alienation from pleasure is called Suffering. Pleasure seeking (desire) is called Hope. Appearing of pleasure moment – Happiness. Permanent being in pleasure condition is called Love. Pleasure condition which involves all your entity, is Nirvana. People who are able to stay in overpowering pleasure in consciousness all the time, call it Supreme Truth. Here is all Human…
Anf of we go, and here my blog begins…
P.S This is the cover of my book “52 Quotes to live by”. This book will be available on Amazon Kindle in spring. That’s the reason I’ve started this blog.
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Intellectual paradox
“These days every human being can be called a walking library. While Christian tradition says that God's ways are higher, we can make a finding – intellectual ways are limitless. Developing civilization and growing amount of information show that intellect is in golden age. But it hasn't brought happiness to people, even with technological progress. It's related to all aspects of our lives, especially families.
Check divorce statistics. Family institution is losing its meaning. Number of divorce is growing. The bride earlier was being chosen by feelings, or found by parents in some cultures. Now we usually look for money, attractive body, and other indicators. But the main selector is Intellect. Having eyes on couples being in communication, we can easily predict which relationships grow on love, and which – on intellect. Listening to their life stories, we can notice a trend that success comes to couples existing on love. Couples existing on money or other creation of intellect are unsuccessful and have the biggest number of divorce. Apart from this, we could talk about almost extinct family institution for very long. Keeping up the topic on intellect and its impact to our lives, we should remember the more unhappy human is, the higher intellect he owns. Take a look around and observe the surroundings. How many love songs have been written? Unfortunately, almost all of them state accomplished fact – star-crossed love. Remember your own love. Accordingly, could you say then - “I'm in love!”? Perhaps not. Because if you could, your feelings had been coming out by outer things and the satisfaction of egoism. So that's why a lover is silent, the saint is silent – they own a quality, but they don't realize it. It's intellect that realizes and values. After all, what can you say when being just in emotion full of Here and Now, and there's no need for any talk.
Intellect chains everything up. It generates such emotions as Egoism, Hatred, and so on. Even love is mixed with emotions created by intellect. You can often notice that he who confesses love to you, is expecting the same answer, because his intellect persists on it, needing warranties. Now is such a love all the scriptures have in mind? Absolutely not. When egoistic love doesn't get a response, the next step is hatred. Do you want me to continue? All you need is some quotes to live by... So take it from there…”
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A little bit about Facebook and some inspirational quotes to live by
If you are adult or teenager I guess you can't live without Facebook, can you? For most of us it's the first site I go to when you turn on your computer. Some of us even check it on mobile and so on. Facebook has changed the way we approach socializing with another people. If you meet somebody at a party you don’t hope to run into them again six months later. Now you can add them to your "friends" list on Facebook and interact with them the next day. A few years ago, I might have known about 100 people at most. Now I can constantly keep in touch with hundreds friends from the past and present. Isn’t that great?
Yes, Facebook is an addiction. Now you can easy hideaway in your living room and shut yourself off from real world. You still will be interacting with your friends but in more sad and pathetic way. The real question is: are you doing it right? Endless status updates and constant mobile uploads fill our days and kill our time, but do you always need the information they supply? Do you really need to see someone’s diner plate or hear about how long the line is at your local bank? Definitely not.
Let’s face it most of us are suckers for those motivational quotes that friends share on Facebook. Some days you wake up and feel like the sky is falling and opening your Facebook page and reading a few motivational quotes to live by can be the kick you need to lift yourself believe and help you shift the way you view your life or day. Before you go I would recommend to check out this group on Facebook. Its called 52 Quotes to live by, and they post some really nice quotes almost every day. Enjoy it!
The Law of happiness and Attraction is Simple. Look in the direction that you want to go. Speak in the direction that you want to go. Feel in the direction that you want to go. Take action in the direction that you want to go. Don’t look back. Don’t make it more complicated. It’s as simple as that…
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Quotes to live by…
Our life is in our hands. No matter where we are now, no matter what has happened in our past life, we can begin consciously choose our thoughts, and form that point we can start changing our life. The simplest way to change our life is to find some quotes to live by. Those quotes to live by you can use as a guide to live a more powerful, positive, and meaningful life. We all are unique. And we don't need to wait for some dramatic wake-up call to begin the life-changing process of discovering where uniqueness resides inside us. My experience shows that most people have no idea how big they are, how much they can accomplish, or how close their dreams really are to become reality.
As you already know, there will always be ups and downs in our life. That’s life! It's not something anyone of us can avoid. Most important is how we react to both the ups and downs is entirely up to us. The choices you make throughout your everyday life will dictate the experience that you are going to have. To be honest, life is really what you make of it. People use favorite quotations at times of challenging issues in their life to help them to move beyond. This means that these sayings focus their mind on the more positive aspects of life instead of the negative side. It is not unusual for people to look for inspiration in motivational quotes when they need to refocus their thoughts, or even to assist others to do the same. And don’t be scared - fear could keep you sharp when you are in the middle of the chaos in your life. Fear even could help you keep alive and so have to acknowledge it, embrace it, and learn lessons from it.
Let’s get down to the point. While I was browsing for some quotes to live by when I stumbled upon this gem - 52 Quotes to live by. 52 quotes to live by feature quotes from many inspirational people from around the world. 52 quotes to live by have been chosen to inspire, encourage and remind everyone of the true meaning of life. I hope you find selection of 52 quotes to live by enjoyable and useful.
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