Diva's Living Room

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Single and Lovin' It Tell me, why is that a contradiction to you? What makes you think that just because I am an Attractive woman Of Intelligence, and over the legal drinking age that I'm incomplete without a mate? What makes you think that just because my conversations quench the thirst of many parched from the ignorance of dull chit-chat, and that when you talk I can respond on whatever the topic,whatever the level,whenever the time,that I've obtained my knowledge for your entertainment purposes only? No, I'm single and that's all right with me.

What makes you think my present status is not a God-given right? A woman's choice? A healthy decision? Who told you that without a man something's missing from my life? And if so, what would that be? Love? I love myself. And more importantly, I love the Lord. He told me that when I delight in Him, He will give me the desires of my heart. Security? I have everything I need according to His riches in glory. Intimacy? Now, how's a man gonna get to know me, when he doesn't even know himself? See my Father told me I'm above a ruby's worth. And a gem does not seek. It is sought. So why would I set myself out to some broke brotha?

No, I'm single and that's all right with me.

See, it's not that I oppose relationships, it's that I detest co-dependency. As a woman, I know it's not my role to chase after any boy who professes to be a man. Esther 2:14 states that I am to wait on my king and when he's delighted in me, he will call me by my name. My Mama didn't name me Needy or Desperate. I am to be Cherished, Relished, Valued, Honored. It's not my job to convince him,or convict him of that. My mate will already know it, and consistently show it. He will know that making love to me requires caressing my mind before fondling my body,and he will stay on his knees daily, not just to adore me but to praise the Lord for the virtuous woman he has found.

So, when you see me by myself, I'm not alone. I just know what I have coming to me. I'm single and that's all right with me. AMEN

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Right Now, I'm Single As time goes on, and the days pass by, I continue to grow, I continue to rise. When I see my reflection, as I look in my eyes, I see a miracle, that's bound for the skies. Like a home cooked meal, I am fully nourished, Like a brand new apartment, I've been fully furnished. I am complete; I've been made fully whole, I'm able to stand up, tall and bold. Right now I'm single, which isn't so bad.

Still the world tries to say, that I'm pitiful and sad. For not being married, or dating a friend, For not being engaged, or in sexual sin. For not sleeping around, with men here and there, For not cheating on men, and not even care. Right now I'm single, and that's perfectly fine.

Still the world tries to say I'm out of my mind. For not being a playgirl (for I possibly could), For not being corrupt, in my singlehood. For not fooling around like many women do, For not having sex or at least trying to.

Right now I'm single, living under one roof. Still the world makes me feel, I'm missing out on my youth. For not having something to do every night. For making me feel that I have no life. It's during these times, that I look in my eyes, And question God, if I'm living a lie. Is being single really that bad? Can you live as a single and not be sad? Have I messed up my life by being alone? Can life still be good if no mate comes along? Should I throw in the towel in disgust and defeat? Just go on and settle for whomever I meet? Is my standard of equally yoked too high? Is it too much to ask should I put that aside? If I'm by myself does that mean that something's wrong? Can I sing solo for part of my song? Should I feel bad about who I am? If the world tries to say I'm an incomplete woman.

Can the world really do that? What gives it the right? To see me and say I live a pathetic life? For not having that special significant other For having lots of friends, but having no lover If I never do find the right one for me, That doesn't mean I'm headed for a life that's empty. From the world's point of view I must not be lead, It should never replace what God has said. I can't let the world define me as a woman, On Christ the solid rock, I've got to stand. Right now I'm single, which is fine with me, Cause I think for now, God wants me to be.

And until I meet my lifelong mate, I'll be content and learn to wait. So, if you are by yourself, hold your head up high. You're a miracle bound for the skies. Until I meet my husband to be, I'll ignore the world's opinion of me. Being a single is a gift from God above. It's while I'm single, I should learn to love. So when I meet the perfect one, I'll know the right time has finally come. Not due to a lifestyle of perverted mingle, But that I'm trying to do right, today, while I'm single.

* Author unknown

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Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, professor, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself that you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. Most importantly, if you love someone tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store. And learn a lesson in life each day you live.

Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday. Was it worth it?

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Some people in the front row of our lives, need to be on the balcony; Some in first class, need to be in coach; Some in coach need to be on stand by."~Debrena Jackson Gandy~

"Not Everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives."~Susan Taylor~

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I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.

I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.

I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that it's alot easier to react than it is to think.

I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.

I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it.

I've learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.

I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.

I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.

I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.

I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.

I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.

I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you lieve.

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Thanks for stoping by the Living Room to visit. Come back and see me soon, things are always changing around here....Take care of you.... and remember...

"Work like you don't need money; love like you have never been hurt; and dance like nobody's watching."

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"And still I rise..."

Keeping it so real....Sylvie

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