For All Children

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A tribute to my sweet daughter, Sarah Mae

IF I HAD MY CHILD TO RAISE OVER AGAIN

If I had my child to raise all over again,
I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.
I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.
I would do less correcting and more connecting.
I'd take my eyes off my watch and watch with my eyes.
I would care to know less and know to care more.
I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.
I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.
I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.
I'd do more hugging and less tugging.
I'd see the oak tree in the acorn more often.
I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.
I'd model less about the love of power,
and more about the power of love.
Author unknown

On Daughters

You were born a daughter.
you looked up to your mother.
you looked up to your father.
you looked up to everyone...
you wanted to be a princess.
you wanted to own a horse.
you wanted your brother to be a horse.
you wanted to wear pink.
you never wanted to wear pink.

you wanted to be a veterinarian.
you wanted to be president.
you wanted to be the president's veterinarian.

you were picked last for the team.
you were the best one on the team.
you refused to be on the team.

you wanted to do well in algebra.
you hid during algebra.

you wanted boys notice you.
you were afraid the boys would notice you.
you started to get acne.

you started to get breasts.
you started to get acne that was bigger than your breasts.

you wouldn't wear a bra.
you couldn't wait to wear a bra.
you couldn't fit into a bra.

you didn't like the way you looked.
you didn't like the way your parents looked.

you didn't want to grow up.
you had your first best friend.
you had your first date.
you spent hours on the telephone.

you got kissed.
you got to kiss back.

you went to the prom.
you didn't go to the prom.
you went to the prom with the wrong person.

you spend hours on the telephone.

you fell in love.
you fell in love.
you fell in love.

you lost your best friend.
you lost your other best friend.

you really fell in love.
you became a steady girlfriend.

you became a significant other.
you became significant to yourself.

sooner or later, you start to take yourself seriously.
you know when you need a break.
you know when you need a rest.
you know what to get worked up about, and what to get rid of.
and you know when it's time to take care of yourself, for yourself.
to do something that makes you stronger, faster, more complete.
because you know it's never too late to live life.
and never too late to change one. JUST DO IT!!

On Children
- from The Prophet by Kahlil Gabran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself,
They come through you but not from you,
And they are with you yet they belong not to you

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,
for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams
You may strive to be like them
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living
arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with his might
that his arrows may go swift and far

Let your bending in the Archer's hand be for gladness,
for even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.


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To my child..... Just For This Day

Just for this morning
I am going to smile when I see your face, and laugh when I
feel like crying.

Just for this morning
I will let you wake up softly in your flannel p.j.'s and
hold you until you are ready to stir.

Just for this morning,
I will let you choose what you want to wear, and I will say
how beautiful you are.

Just for this morning
I will step over the laundry to pick you up, and take you
to the park to play

Just for this morning
I will leave the dishes in the sink, and let you teach me
how to put your puzzle together.

Just for this afternoon
I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the garden
blowing bubbles.

Just for this afternoon
I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you
scream and whine for the ice cream truck
and I will buy you one, if he comes by.

Just for this afternoon
I wont worry about what you are going to be when you grow up,
I will simply love you, for the joy you bring me

Just for this afternoon,
I will let you help me make cookies,
and I wont stand over you. . . trying to 'fix things.

Just for this afternoon,
I will take you to McDonalds and buy us both a 'Happy Meal'
So you can have two toys.

Just for this evening,
I will hold you in my arms and tell you the story of how you were born,
and how much we love you

Just for this evening,
I will let you splash in the bathtub,
and I wont get angry when you pour water over your sisters head.

Just for this evening
I will let you stay up late, while we sit on the porch swing
and count all the stars.

Just for this evening
I will bring you glasses of water,
and snuggle beside you for hours, and miss my favorite t.v. show.

And tonight when you are sleeping safe and warm in your bed

I will think of the mothers and fathers
who cry for the children they have lost.
Whose arms are empty, and whose tears never dry.

I will remember the parents who sit by hospital beds,
holding the hands of the little ones they love.

I will weep for those parent's whose children are suffering,

and .... this evening
when I kneel down to pray
I will simply be grateful for all that I have
and not ask for anything...
except just one more day.

copyright 1999 Sally Meyer (For Dhylan)



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