Dedicated to Erik
I am dedicating this page to someone who is very
close to my heart and memories. His name was Erik and
he was my brother-in-law. He was a big part of my
life and of my childrens and Husband. He was married
to
my sister and he was not only my brother-in-law he
was my best friend. He was a health conscious man and
he mountain climbed, scuba dived, and ate vegs and no
red meat. He took vitamins and he worked out. Well he
had a very bad temper and it got worse and worse. So
he was very concerned and so was my sister. They went
to the doctor and they ran a EEG on him and a brain
scan and they went back for the results.
Well it was the worse news and it was brain
cancer. They told them he had maybe a year to live
and it was inoperable. Well after a few doctors
examined
him they decided to try and get the tumor lodged in
his head. He was prepped and ready. It took 16 hours
and they thought they got all the tumor but they
could not be certain. He had difficulty with his
right side but not so much he could not do anything.
One night my sister and Erik were home alone when he
had a stroke. They went to the hospital and he lost
all function on his right side.
They both were devastated. He slowly got worse
and he had double vision and he had some trouble
talking. We had such long talks about our lives and I
swear we'd sit for six hours and I really got to know
the real Erik. Soon he had to be put in a nursing
home as he lost all ability to walk and take care of
himself. My sister was with him everyday religiously.
On his thirty-fourth birthday the staff told my
sister he did not have much time left so they threw
him a birthday party early. Well my family and his
were devastated....But the doctors told my sister to
take Erik home and let him die with family all around
him. So they moved him home. The hospital bed and
supplies were all donated to help Erik. He was so bad
off it was so hard for me to see him like that. I
remember when I first saw him at home I cried quietly
as I did not want to upset him. He had a generous
heart and he went to talk to children dying of cancer
and he was the spokes person for it.
He always considered other people before he
considered himself. He was so courgeous and so sweet.
At times he broke down but rarely. Every single day I
sent him cards or notes and called him constantly. My
children drew pictures and he had them all over his
room. Well thanksgiving of 1993 his grandmother died
of a massive heart attack and Erik went down hill
after that. He lost all his speech and no one could
understand him and he had difficulty breathing. My
favorite brother-in-law Erik lost the battle of
Cancer on February 13, 1994. He slipped away after he
knew someone was with my sister that day. I miss him
terribly everyday. He was a part of our lives and a
big part of our memories.
Just after his funeral a very strange experience
happened to me. Everyone was asleep at my sisters and
I was in the bathroom. I heard a knock and I said
yes....but nothing so I went to brush my teeth and I
heard the knock twice and someone saying "Jane" and I
turned off the water and I heard " Jane" again. I
opened the door and no one was there. I looked and
everyone was sound to sleep. So I went back in and I
heard it one more time and no one but I am
confident it was Erik reaching out to me to tell me
he was at peace and out of pain. I also had a good
feeling after that too. I know in my heart that Erik
is an angel and he is watching over his family and
his wife he left behind and of course me too.
I feel very blessed to have met him and to have
been his sister-in-law and his friend. I still think
of him today and sometimes it still makes me cry and
sometimes I know he is right where he should be with
God. Thank you Erik for touching my life.....I will
love you forever.....
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