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Room Rules

The following are the Room Rules for Safe Haven.  If you cannot respect them and abide by them, please feel free to find another room.  The rules are not negotiable nor up for room discussion.  Wwe have found that they help keep the room focused on discussions.  The rules address some of the problem areas and others could be added if a situation arises that is not handled by the existing rules. It's quite simple...act your age. W/we try to make this Home as relaxed and enjoyable  as possible.  Please note that the Ffolks gathering are at all levels of experience and respect for Aall is asked while visiting Safe Haven.  Wwe trust you are here to learn and discuss as an adult. These rules may seem to be a bit harsh, but seeing as M/many are entering and O/our only way of getting to know you is through your actions...for they indeed speaking loudly.. it is imperative that you conduct yourself in such a manner that is befitting your position. This is not roleplay, if that is your bag, then pick it up and move on. If you are here to learn and/or contribute, then by all means stay and become a vital part. Those interested in membership in the House should contact a Family member for information on membership requirements and procedures or refer to our Membership link.

Please not that this is not a Gorean room.  Serves and dancing  are not welcomed in the room.  Please take it to pm.  Safe Haven is an Aadult chat room that welcomes Aall Wwho enjoy discussing topics in a respectful manner.   

Interesting reading:


1. Web Cams  

WebCams are not permitted.  Wwe have found from past experience that WebCams take away the focus from topics.


2.    Ignores  

Ffamily members of SH must obey the shame/ignore list. If not you will be excused from the family, however still welcomed to the room. Aall are welcome in here, we are all adults....Aall are free to join in chat, but please remember to be respectful. To visitors, just for your benefit and your knowledge, we welcome you to SH and please feel welcome here, but please do notice that there are a few select that the Ffamily will not enter into conversation with. This is there for a reason.... Wwe will be happy to chat with Aany and all that enter the room but them...This is not to say we are forcing you to do the same, you are welcome to chat with any in the room but keep in mind, if you wish to be a part of the Ffamily you will need to obey Oour rules. This is for SH members only. Let's not encourage the trouble makers by conversing with them...others in te room will see that Wwe are not conversing with them and will realize why.
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3. Respect  

Respect, in the form of common courtesy appropriate to polite society, will be shown by all to all family members and visitors regardless of their status as Dominant, submissive, slave or switch. Everyone, should have the right to voice their opinion respectfully. Diversity of opinions are to be respected. Attacking or judging those with different opinions is inappropriate behavior in the room.


4. Double Identities  

If it becomes known that a F/family member has a secret double identity they are actively using dishonestly, they will be removed from the F/family no questions asked. Trust is of the utmost importance and you must know whom your speaking with.

5. PM  

No PM's unless you ask permission in the room or secure permission from the sub or slave's Dominant. Safe Haven Council Members can PM F/family and probation members at anytime. If you receive unwanted PM's deal with them by using the ignore button so as not to disrupt the activity in the room. If the uninvited pm is offensive in language or threatening, then and only then will you need to take it to a Master/Mistress in the Home and will be asked to show proof of such abuse.

6. Grievances  

Personal grievances and disputes are to be kept private, regardless of whether the dispute involves Dom/mes, subs, slave, etc. If parties are unable to reconcile and be civil, the Council can be called upon to mediate the dispute.

7. Protection  

The subs / slaves, that are not protected by a Master / Mistress, are automatically granted protection by the Council. It is the responsibility of the Council Masters / Mistress to look out for their well being.

8. Scening  

No scening of a sexual nature is permitted. Keep behavior within the norms of what would be accepted in a public place. Displays of affection are permitted as long as they fall within the bounds of acceptable public behavior. Cursing and the describing of sexual D/s or BDSM activities in the chat room in graphic details with role playing is not acceptable behavior in this room, whether in post, or voice chat.

9. Discussions  

Discussion of topics takes precedence over light banter. Please respect discussion topics and keep banter to a minimum when there is an active topic. When a discussion is expected that the play STOP immediately!

10. Problems  

This is an Aadult Discussion Room,  Gossip will not be tolerated nor will attention getting growls or pouts. 

11. Punishment  

No Dominant, Family Member or Visitor shall punish any submissive/slave unless that person is under their care. All punishment or discipline will be done privately so as not to disrupt the Home. Any issues with continuing behavior of submissives should be directed to the submissive's Dominant, or to the Council if the submissive is not collared or otherwise under the authority of a specific Dominant. Behavior by Dominants that would be considered non-consensual or overbearing with regard to punishment, discipline or misuse of their power must be brought to the attention of the Council as soon as possible.

12. Touching  

Allowing touching of any type is an inherently consensual decision. As a matter of honor and respect, seek permission first from the other party unless you have a prior arrangement. Refusal of permission is to be respected.

13. Probation  

Prospective member asks a full member of the Home for a pm to ask about the Home and the F/family. New members will be observed by the F/family member for no less than 2 weeks. After which time the F/family member will bring the prospective member to their Council Member and they will "interview" them. The prospective member will then be placed on a minumum of 30 days probation, with the understanding that it can be extended if the Council see fit.


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