Here we go again fans.
I get a call the other day. This woman is asking me all sorts of questions about intellectual property, how to start up a business, so on and so forth.
I answer all of her questions in the event that she may want to retain my services.
About ten minutes into the conversation, she tells me that the necessary services she would require are quite expensive and she needs to think about it. That's fine enough. I can't even afford most (pretty much all) of the services that I render. But then, she adds, "I'm a single mother".
So what?
When a woman tells me she's a single mother, all I can think is there must be a "single father" out there to match you. Namely, if a man has contributed to the making of a child, and he is not married to you, I'd say that makes him a single father. What's the difference between single mothers and single fathers.
Well, let me put it this way. Single fathers don't constantly whine and complain about being single parents. They manage to go out and make a living and support their kids. They don't constantly refer to the fact that they have to take care of their kids as some sort of legal status - e.g. single mother.
Being a single mother is not some kind of legal status. But today's society seems to think otherwise. The minute someone says she is a single mother, think of the red carpet that rolls out. "Oh! You're a single mother? Why didn't you say so. You definitely have it harder than anyone else in the world because God forbid you should enjoy taking care of your kids and enjoy life. You are so strong, great and noble. Being a single mother is the highest aspiration that life has to offer. That loser you shacked up with? He's totally to blame. It's not your fault you decided to fornicate with some loser that shovelled turtle crap for a living!"
Being a single parent is hard, I won't deny that. But it is not some kind of status symbol that automatically entitles you to sympathy, hand-outs, free information, or anything else you are looking for. Life can be hard. Suck it up. No-one is to blame for your own situation except you. Now you have to deal with it. If you despise your children that much that you have to constantly draw attention to them by pointing out you are a "single mother", then get rid of them ... there are plenty of functional homes that would love to have children.
Instead of wasting my time telling me you are a single mother, tell me something I want to hear, like whether you have nice cans, whether you have hot friends that are into threesomes, etc., etc. Maybe you didn't ask to become a single mother. But you are. Instead of looking at that as if it is some kind of debilitating disease, why don't you look at it as if being a parent is a proud and noble venture, and doing the best you can for your children makes you a good person, no matter what your financial standing in life? Oh yes, that's right, we live in Canada. I forgot. That's not what being a parent is about.
Remember, it's you kids fault, your ex-husband's or ex-boyfriend's fault, and don't forget the quintessential white male heterosexual - he is to blame for all evils in this world.
Have a nice day.
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