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Ivy Monette
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We love men. We just don't want to see them naked. ~ Two Nice Girls
a page for the ivy ... this one is  about personal life experiences, thoughts, and philosophies ... if there's something you like or disagree with, drop me a line and let's discuss it...
Every woman I have ever loved has left her print upon me, where I loved some invaluable piece of myself apart from me--so different that I had to stretch and grow in order to recognize her. And in that growing, we came to separation, that place where work begins. ~ Audre Lorde
... well, if anyone is confused about my preference ... this ought to answer any questions any questions you might have ...

 

 

...figured I need to put something between these pictures for separation but I can't think of anything clever ... bummer .. hmmmm, how about some of my story and then some musings ...

 

There is nothing mixed up about a woman who loves women, who wants to have sex with them, or who identifies as a lesbian. It is society that is mixed up because it punishes people for not conforming to its gender stereotypes. ~ Edward Stein, editor of Forms of Desire: Sexual Orientation and the Social Constructionist Controversy

 

For a very long time I wasn't able to accept the fact that I was lesbian. I've always been told (and have long tried to accept) that I am considered by some to be an attractive woman, and I have had natural emotional and sexual feelings for women since my teenage years. I at first diagnosed myself as "having a problem," and I prayed that I wasn't going to turn into one of those "dykish" masculine lesbian women. That was the stereotype that I grew up with. I didn't feel that I fit in with either the heterosexual or homosexual crowd because I knew that I didn't fit the "stereotypes" of either group. I  came out in the fall of '98 and have since continued to strive to embrace my lesbianism, but not without years of guilt and unhappiness.
I became a lesbian because of women, because women are beautiful, strong, and compassionate. ~ Rita Mae Brown

 

...nothing like a good soak to melt the stress ...

 

So what does it mean to me when I refer to myself (affectionately) as a Lipstick Lesbian. well ... The terms "Lipstick Lesbian" and "femme" can be used interchangeably. However, most properly, a "Lipstick Lesbian" is a feminine woman who loves other feminine women, and a "femme" is a feminine woman who loves masculine women. Both types of feminine Lesbians are welcome on this site. And before I get a bunch of irate e-mails, let me say that I'm using the words "masculine" and "feminine" in terms of their traditional meaning.

 

You're neither unnatural, nor abominable, nor mad; you're as much a part of what people call nature as anyone else; only you're unexplained as yet -- you've not got your niche in creation. ~ Radclyffe Hall in The Well of Loneliness, 1928

 

... well don't i look lovely ... *s* ... got talked into adding this one because someone thought it looked sweet ...

 

Are there many things in this cool-hearted world so utterly exquisite as the pure love of one woman for another? ~ Mary McLane, The Story of Mary MacLane by Herself

 

Some Lesbians seem to believe that femininity is an artificial creation invented and imposed on women by men to keep us down, and those who believe this think that every woman who wears makeup is endangering our civil rights. I could not possibly disagree more; I think that Nature made us the more aesthetic sex so that it would be obvious at a glance which was the superior sex, and it is a crime for us to try to obscure Nature's message. Some Lesbians believe that we are "trying to pass for straight". Well, when I was 13 and thought that I was going to Hell because I wanted to kiss a certain blonde in my ballet class, I didn't know that there was a "right" way to be a pre-vert. I didn't know that a desire to kiss girls was supposed to inspire me to play sports and fix cars and wear boys' clothes. I liked pretty clothes when I was a tot. I'm not trying to pass for anything; I'm being true to myself. Anyway, even when I don't tell people I'm gay -- which I often do -- I think most people figure it out from the way I rubberneck; I'm an incorrigible girl-watcher!

 

You know you're a Lipstick Lesbian if...