Only You Hold the Keys to Save the Marriage
Save the Marriage in a Heartbeat
Every day, you see your spouse stepping further and further and you do nothing about it, when in a heartbeat, one word, one hug, one small gesture could so easily save the marriage you watch dying from a distance.
You just need to get on the other side of the window and break the curse that is descending upon your lives, to stop asking and give a little more, to stop talking and begin to listen, to stop crying and wipe your spouse’s tears.
But when you get on the other side, you do not see what you have, you see what you lost, you cannot fight for what is still there so you cry for what you can never get back, destroying the hope lingering between the two of you.
Next time you break a window, break the past as well and hang on to the future. If you cannot say the right words, do not say anything at all. Silence can save a marriage in a heartbeat, if you’ll just accompany it with a kiss, a warm hug or a blink of love.
Save the Marriage from Guilt
Every fight with your spouse starts with one of you blaming the other, and every word you say brings up another, everything you blame him for pulls other mistakes from the past, until one of you walks away, the angry monsters disappear and you feel that you overreacted.
Would it be that hard to never let the monsters out? To never think about who should be blamed for what is going on and focus on how you can prevent bad things from happening again?
Why is it that when you are angry and you look at your spouse you only see the mistakes and never the love proofs, the kind gestures and all the things that made you fall in love?
Next time you get upset, take a deep breath, turn around and don’t say anything. Go to your room and write it down. Read everything after a couple of hours and you will see anger is never a good advisor.
Save the Marriage with Patience
Why are you always rushing to get an answer, to express your dissatisfaction or to ask for an explanation? It is not like your spouse is living for good and you will never get what you want.
And why do you want changes to happen overnight? If you managed to put up with your spouse’s bad habits for years, how about giving him / her some time to make things right? After all, we are all slaves of routine, whether we like it or not. Try to give up on some of your habits yourself, and you will see what that means.
Meanwhile, light a scented candle in your bedroom and watch it burn down while in your spouse’s arms or holding hands. That should teach you a bit about patience.
Of course, there are more keys in the chain, each locking a little secret.
The funny thing is that these are no secrets and they should not be kept under a lock either. You should keep them all in your pocket, or in your heart, and let them out when necessary.
Remember that these little things are just meant to remind you of the greatest truth out there: ONLY YOU CAN SAVE THE MARRIAGE!