1. Give a back massage.
2. Give them a facial. Great idea on how learn some of the moves go to a cosmetology school and get one yourself it only cost roughly 30.00 and you get some pampering as well.
3.Rub their feet.
4.Go to a movie at the last minute.

Let them also give you a massage as well this way they learn to nuture as well.

For the facial I used the cheapest of ingredients. I first had my kids scrub their face with baking soda. It's grainy enough to exfoliate yet bland enough to not cause a reaction. And at .89 cents it cheaper than any scrub on market Then have them lay down with a pillow on your lap.
There are many cheap mud mask product on the market use those. I also experimented with at home products such as oatmeal and green tea. follow the directions use the green tea instead of milk or water. Rub it on the face let dry then take it off. Place a warm towel on the face until it cools than massage the face. While towel is cooling rub hands take each finger between your index and middle finger and rub up the finger to the tip when finished rub arms from elbow to wrist.
Use small circular motions. Another favorite take your index finger and outline the eyes in a figure 8. Tap face lightly all round. Finish with a neck and head massage while you are still lying on your back. It really relaxes you afterall when they are feeling triggered they are anxious this helped greatly.