Me Help?

Ok, let's face it. We have all been in situations where we have saw something that doesn't seem right. We have all had 'gut feelings' about situations around us. But all too often we do nothing about it but mention it in passing to a friend. This does nothing to help. Of course, I am not saying that every suspcious looking charcater is automatically deemed unfit, but it does pay off to be cautious. I know that there have been cases where parents have been unjustly accused of abuse, but the fact is there are many more cases where parents have been investigated and nothing was found, later to be known that the child was/is actually being abused.

I can tell you that if one of my teachers had reported my strange behavior or my many absences I would not have had to go through so many years of violence. Too many people are afraid to be right, they do not want to know what is going on, they don't want to get involved. They shake their head and think, "oh, that poor child." just to walk away and lead their own life while the life of that child is on a teeter totter.

Alright, you aren't here to listen to a lecture. I will get to the point. The whole point of my web page isn't to just bring awareness, it is to get something passed. If you look at the pyschological aspects of abuse you will notice it is a cycle, a cycle that is unable to end without proper help. Let me explain further. When I was being abused my parents would come at me full force, there whole demeaner would change. I no longer recognized them as people who loved and cared for me. But later, when the hitting was over they would cry and apologize ( much like men who batter their wives.) As I grew older I began to witness for myself this rage and began to understand what happens to a person so out of control.

For me, being in school when I would get mad or upset I used my fists, I would hit things or throw things. This siwhat I was taught to do by my parents.When I would get on the brink of being out of control it was like a brick wall was being built in front of me and I was unable to see my actions. I could only feel and see red. Because of this brick barrier before me my hands were 'out of sight'. I was no longer able to see that they were hitting and throwing. Only after the incident when the wall came down and I looked at the damage could I witness what I had done. But by then it was too late, and I was apologetic.

This , I believe, is due , in part,to the lack of awareness of what anger does to us. However in cases like mine, it is taught to us. It is not a matter of not knowing right from wrong, because we do, I did. It is just that because of what I saw from my parents, I had no other way of letting go of my anger. I knew throwing books and papers was wrong, but like I said, the barrier of rage came up and I was blinded , no longer able to see my actions.

Now, for the nitty gritty. Not only is there abuse from parent to child. But from students to students. Students to teachers, teachers to teachers, spouses to spouses.. the list goes on and on. How do we prevent this from happening? Well, I have an idea. It shouldbe understood that the soul problem is lack of understanding how anger works, how it affects us. How to break the cycle by learning how to control our anger.

My idea is this: the only real way to break this cycle is to start early. Teaching our children the right way to get rid of anger, constructive ways. How then can we get to young children? in the schools, of course! My idea is to have anger management classes in regular school curriculum. We have P.E., Art, Spanish, Home Ec, We have classes to teach our children how to BE something, how to DO something, but we have nothing to tell them how to CONTROL themselves.

If you would, please sign my guestbook with your name and city and state. At the end of each month I will be emailing that list of names to congress. This needs to be passed. Every potential parent needs to know how to contorl their anger. This, I believe, is the way to do it. So, please go to my guestbook, fill out your name and state which you live. You can make a difference. Also, a quick reminder, I have an email list check it out at the "what's new?" page under October 30, 1999. Through that we can also sign a petition. Or, I have made it REAL easy for you. Go to Who To Reach So You Can Help and click on ANY or ALL of the email address you wish to get the point across. Stop the abuse NOW!! How many times do I have to say it?

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