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9 Levels of Submission

Submissive Levels" a submissive/slave may or may not attain {in my opinion, the word "slave" is used erroneously throughout this document}.  The danger in this might be that a submissive may look to this as something to "work toward."  This is NOT at all the case.  It is not a "stairstep" type of thing, where one begins at level one, and progressively moves through the stages.  This simply gives a VERY broad idea of where a submissive may be upon his/her own path. We tend to like labels, though I do not particularly care for them myself.  There are far too many shades of kink to pigeonhole, aye? As with anything, take what speaks to you, and discard the rest.  Oh, and in case you are wondering, I am about at level 7,  ~a slow laugh, twinkling eyes~ and that's about where I want to stay, with a bit of cross over to other numbers where appropriate.  No level is "better" than another, or classifies one as a "real submissive."  You know who and what you are, and the only person one's level of submission should matter to outside of themselves, is his/her Dominant.  I have inserted my own comments in where I felt clarification might be in order.)

1. THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST no servitude, humiliation, or giving up of control; Just pain and "spiced up sensuality".  b>Akin to the bedroom submissive -- light bondage, spankings, etc.

2. PSEUDO SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE not even into "playing" slave but into other submissive role-playing, e.g. school teacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestism. Usually into humiliation interaction to a large degree.

- likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient; might, in some cases, like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner. May even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own terms. Dictates the interaction to a large degree.

4. TRUE SUBMISSIVE - NON SLAVE - Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission, other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly his/her own direct pleasure (rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing dominant).

5. SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVEI have a problem with the term slave here, I feel that a slave is pretty much what is described in #9)- Really gives up control (though only temporarily, within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving dominant - but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May or may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys partner's pleasure, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions.

6. UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE Really gives up control (usually within limits). Wants to serve and be enslaved by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of agreed-upon several days). May or may not have long term relationship. Either way, the "slave" has the final say over when she will serve.

7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL, BUT REAL SLAVE disagrees with the term slave here, again, it may be semantics, but I do not consider this level to be "slave") - Has an ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant's property at all times. Wants to obey and please dominant in all aspects of life -- practical/non-erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes most of time to other commitments (e.g. job, kids) but dominant has first pick of the slave's (submissive's) free time.

8. FULL TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE. Within no more that a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards her/himself as existing solely for the Dom's pleasure/well being. Slave expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual. Within the S/M world, a full time slave "arrangement" is entered into with explicit awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.

9. CONSENSUAL TOTAL SLAVE WITH NO LIMITS. A common fantasy ideal. Probably doesn't exist in real life (accept in authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the consent is induced by social or economic pressures, and hence isn't fully consensual). A few SM purists will insist that you aren't really a slave unless you're willing to do absolutely anything for your Dom, with no limits.