I am so damn tired of hearing one of thoes stupid phrases. You know, the ones people say when they can't actually think of anything origional? People will ask me if I'm seeing anyone, and I'll giggle a little and say "It's complicated, not really." If they keep asking I'll tell them. And you know what peice of general common sence wisdom retardation I hear over and over again is?
You can't have your cake and eat it too
This is retarted. Has anyone ever been to a supermarket, or a cake shop? You can have ALL THE CAKE YOU WANT. You can eat ALL THE CAKE YOU WANT. Anytime you want, even. Cake is not all that hard to get.
The other way to look at this is you cannot have (keep) your cake and consume (eat) it as well. This is a good example of a finite veiw of the world. I can eat all the cake I want, and have as much of it as I want too, because I think that there is enough "cake" to go around.
The universe we live in is infinate. This life isn't like a pie chart. Me having more love and sex does not mean that someone else is going to get shafted, and must have less. There is as much love, sex, fun, joy, happiness, and life in this universe for you to take as you can handle. You just have to give some, first, and reciprocate.
There is not a limited amount of love in this world, and you do not have a limited amount of love inside you. You can love as many people, as much as you want. Giving that much love will only increase your capacity for love.
Right now I have a huge, extended, chosen family. Mr. Giggles is my biological brother, but I LIKE hanging out with him and love him. Suzy-loo, Mamma-San, Cita, Rosy, The Mad Monk, DoomCookie, Spidey, SuperBug, Betty, Merril, and Dad are all fantastic people that I also happen to be related to, by choice or by blood, and I love them to my core.
They love me too. I know I can have all the family I want, within certain limits of "how much time I have available". I can also have all the sex I want within thoes limits. All the money you want, is there for you to get. You just have to reach out and take it.
My love life isn't going to be dictated by what other people think is okay. This goes double for how much other people think is okay. If me liking women is fine, but only if I'm monagamus, then fuck off. If me being into kink is fine, as long as it's only a little kink in a loving way, to spice up my marrage than kiss my pasty white ass and call me Momma. If I want to top, bottom, and otherwise screw a man and a woman, and have long-term, loving relationships with them both, then I will.
So now I've got to go. I'm running off to Mexico with Fred and Eva. Both of them.
Ta ta!