Marriage is a union between two consenting adults to share and care for each other. It's a time when love for each other has passed infactuated level. After infactuation period comes real love which is a time two individuals now decide they are in love and wants to settle down to have a family. But l have find out that majority of most marriages stop at infactuation stage and then immediately go into marriage which then is too impossible to maintain , nurture,and nourish a new family. This is the reasons we have many broken families today. A lot of divorce cases. If there is genuine love, no one will ever think of leaving ,afterall, they are in love. But I discover that every one is selfish because there is no real love involved.
For new aspiriants, marriage will not work if you have selfish interst. You don't care about the feelings of your partner whether you are hurting her/his feelings or not. Communication line has to be open otherwise two of you will be beating about the bush. Be able to tell each other how you're feeling with certain things around him/her. And be able to accept any errors pointed out. Do not argue or try to ignore the person. Show geuuine repentance and try to change and if possible ask for help from your partner to help you change. It makes a lot of difference if you listen and take corrections. Remember, nobody is an island and everyone has to make input to each other's life for peace to reign. Men are mostly victims because they don't admit any error at all and they find it difficult to say sorry rather they want the female to always appologise to them at all times whether she's at fault or not. It's not wise because after a while she feel being used and from there trouble starts and the next thing is divource.
Always try to listen to each other and be nice for it cost you nothing. Be gracoius and show that you care, it cost you nothing rather it attracts goodwill to you.
Remember to have time for each other no matter how much hard it's to do. It's understandable that everybody is busy working but remember that somebody needs to smell you, somebody need to wisper something in your ear and put you to sleep. All these little things makes life interesting.
Appreciate each other no matter what you think you know or have and the other person don't have because two of you are there to support and make up what other person doesn't have.
Respect each other's feelings and map out time every week to review and evaluate activities for the week and see where someone has gone wrong and correct it. It's nice to treat each other as if nothing as happened and donot remember it anymore or make reference to it anytime in life.
Have the same friends and go out together to visit.
There are a lot more to say but work on these ones first. I Wish everyone a happy union and married life if you have interest because I know there are people who doesn't want to get married in life for what ever reasons they have. For husbands, if love life, always love your wifes and makesure she knows that. And once a man loves his wife, she is ever willing to lay down her life for you at all cost. Men , I have leak out secret, goodluck!