Keeping A Conversation Going |
At times, when meeting people for the first time we feel tongue-tied and do not know what to say. It also often happens that there are awkward gaps in a conversation. Such gaps spoil the tempo of a good conversation. One should be readily armed with words and phrases to fill such awkward gaps. Such methods maybe needed even when you want to prolong a conversation when the other side wants to end it. Meeting someone for the first time If you are introduced to a person older than you are, it is more
appropriate to use a more formal greeting like - “Good morning/good
afternoon/good evening” and then follow it up with some general small
talk. “How do you do?” is a formal British English greeting. The expected
reply to “How do you do?” is “How do you do” itself and not “Fine thank
you”. This may sound a bit strange but it is the accepted norm.
It is advisable to address a person using an appropriate prefix like Mr./Ms. you may use first names if you are expressly invited to do so.Ask a question Many people ask a question and answer it themselves, not waiting
for the other person to respond. For example - “Have you seen Mission Kashmir? I saw it
yesterday, it is great. Which song do you think is the best? I liked Bhumroo. I am thinking of buying a
cassette for the sake of the song .......” In this instance, the questions
are there but then so are the answers and the listener has no role to play
except to nod. It is essential to pause and wait for the other person to
answer so that the resulting conversation is a dialogue and not a
monologue. Making the right kind of
comment An important thing to keep in mind is that there are no words that can convey the warmth that a genuine smile can convey. So remember to smile. |