How To Be A Good Conversationalist? |
We make conversation several times a day. How much of it is effective? How does one gauge the effectiveness of conversation? For this you need to analyse whether the person you spoke to has understood what you were saying. The way you speak and the words you choose for conveying your thoughts influence the way the listener interprets your thoughts. Therefore, if you pay sufficient attention to certain aspects of your speech, you can effortlessly turn into a good conversationalist. The following are a few tips, following which one can master the
art of conversation. Know your subject
well What to do when another
person talks Secondly, let us also remember that a conversation is a two-way
process. Do not dominate the scene by talking continuously. If you do so,
then the conversation will turn into a lecture. Always give the other
person a chance to voice his or her own opinion and listen to him. Pay
attention to what he or she is saying. Not listening might be construed as
being disrespectful. It could boomerang on you - when you talk the others
might not listen. “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you” is
a cardinal rule. It is advisable not to interrupt when others talk. If for some
reason you do need to interrupt, begin with a loud and clear “Excuse me.”
Such a gesture will get you everyone’s attention and additionally, your
coming in will not be viewed as an interruption, but as a welcome input.
However, do be careful not to do so too frequently. Body language Look at the person who is talking. Your doing so will automatically infuse enthusiasm in him or her. This is the best indication of your being involved with the subject and your being with the person who is talking. Besides, you might pick up things unsaid through his or her expressions and body language. When you end a
conversation... Do make it a point to make eye contact with everyone while taking
your leave. Needless to say, a genuine smile speaks louder and more
effectively than words, when it comes to conveying the message of warmth
and friendship.
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