TEN REASONS FOR
PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE
1. Dissatisfaction, insatiation, irritation and hurt, and establishing of such negative attributes in marital relationship.
2. Improper
communication, misunderstanding and allowing the accumulation, or suppression,
of resentments.
3. Disrespect
for the other’s individuality, disregard for the other’s values and too much
possessiveness.
4. One’s
hurting-egoism, selfishness over common-interest, and domination over the
other’s individuality.
5. Ignorance
of difference in natural attitudes and approaches between the two genders.
6. Ignorance,
or not caring, of the other’s primary needs of love.
7. Incompatible,
or uncompromised, differences in perceptions, preferences and approaches, and
widely differing value systems.
8. Nurturing
the other in his own way; serving the other in his own point of view of the
other; and expecting the other in his own point of view and values.
9. The
unwarranted intervention, or disregard, during the other’s natural
psychological reactions, unique to the gender.
10.
Lack of expected role-play; and the difference between the expectations on
account of one’s personal values and the reality.
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1. Attack on identity.
2. Lack of satisfaction, or satiation.
3. Misunderstanding and communication gap.
4. Vicious Circle: - Disagreement, or misunderstanding, leads to feeling attacked and finally this leads to counter-attack.
5. Lack of understanding and support during one’s emotions: rubbing the spouse with negative attitude during the mood.
6. Non-performance of duties and non-fulfillment of responsibilities: instead of accepting mistake defending the mistake.
7. Different perceptions on priorities and lack of handling the issue jointly.
8. Lack of uncritical humour, fun and frolic in their privacy.
9. Arguments: - Arguments usually occur on account of (1) vague statements; (2) Request in a negative way; (3) not listening or not trying to understand; (4) giving importance to ego than mutuality, or common interest.
10. Adhering to instigating attitudes.
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1. Tension
on account of lack of trust, or faith.
2. Misunderstanding
the meaning in communication of the partner due to ignorance of the natural
difference in the other gender’s communicational approach.
3. Stress,
rigidity and suspicion.
4. Wife
doesn’t like her man to be: - untrusting, condemning, uncaring, too much
dependent on her, irresponsible, insensitive, impulsive, unkind, thoughtless,
unloving, too offending, critical, and rejecting.
5. Husband
doesn’t like his woman to be: - lazy around the house, unattractive, sexually
cold, emotionally serious, noisy, sneaky, overtly critical, quarrelsome, bad
mother, inflexible, too independent and bold, disrespected nagging, negative to
his relatives, too dominating and too emotional.
6. Clash
between their personal values.
7. Lack
of adjustment, flexibility, and adaptability in the interest of marriage, or
family.
8. Expectation
of (one sided parental) affection instead of (mutual) love in marriage.
9. Non-adhering
to socio-marital values.
10.Criticizing
coercing, coaxing, evaluating, masking, blaming, and accusing are the
psychological axe, which hurt the feelings.
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