I did not reach my current age without the usual trials and heartaches most of us encounter along the way. My life has been more traumatic than most children reared in the 40's and 50's, but certainly less so than many being raised, or more accurately, allowed to grow up in this current age. I was a neglected infant 7 months of age when my father left my negligent mother, taking me with him. For the next three years, until my father remarried, I lived with my paternal grandmother.
WHO AM I?
On Halloween night during our 23rd year of marriage my husband told me that he was going to "run you off, but not before I beat the hell out of you." Being very drunk he got only one good blow to my face when our youngest daughter and I made it to the car, left, and just never went back. My departure opened the way immediately for our neighbor's wife to move in with my husband. She tried to slash her wrists in our bedroom. Although we left with only the clothes on our backs, I have always said I tricked him and treated me.
TRICK OR TREAT
SOMETHING WONDERFUL HAPPENED
Having been raised in a
rural Presbyterian Church where I learned the Catechisms, and after satisfactorily
answering certain pertinent questions, was sprinkled and joined,
I thought my eternal life secure.
In 1963, after several Sunday's attendance at a small Southern Baptist Church something wonderful happened to me. One morning as Church was dismissed I suddenly became aware that all was not, as previously thought, well with my soul. It was as if Jesus Christ himself stood before me and with authority and power spoke directly to me that I was going to hell. I cried out for mercy, and for the first time in my entire life I felt the peace of God in my heart. Although my husband continued to abuse me I was able to live with victory in my own heart. I began to hunger after the Word of God, and in very little time had read the Bible from cover to cover several times. God's Word became alive to me. This is something that has never ceased no matter how painful and traumatic were the trials. How wonderful was the feeling of knowing that I was loved. In comparison with His love everything else was insignificant. Once you have tasted and seen that He is good nothing else ever satisfies. My Lord began to use the trials and troubles of life to teach me to seek Him, and through them drew me closer to Himself.
I cannot tell you why God did not save my husband in answer to my prayers, I can not tell you why he drove me away from my home of over 23 years, or why he continues to drink and beat his current wife. He is not dead yet, and I am confident that God will yet deal with him. Yes, I know divorce does not please God, and it certainly does not please Christians and other Church members. Many of them judge and discount divorced people even while their own lives are unpleasing to God.
After our divorce I returned to school, became first an LPN, then, four years later, and RN in order to support myself. God's presence, love and guidance were evident as He opened doors for me. Although times were difficult I learned to rely on God even more.
During the 8 years I was single I was shunned by long time Christian friends who felt duty bound to let me know that I was out of the will of God or I would have been able to maintain a marriage. Lost friends tried to comfort me and include me in their worldly activities. How sad that most Christians seem not to understand the need for "charity" or "love" toward a wounded brother or sister. I think I was judged as having committed the unpardonable sin: divorce. Their rejection was even more evident when I remarried. Never mind that I have been married for 10 years now to a wonderful Christian husband who cherishes me and who is loved by all of my children.. My best friend and prayer partner during the years the children and I were being abused and mistreated no longer wanted to fellowship with me, nor does she. She said she didn't blame me for not going back to my former husband, but she could not condone the divorce, and certainly not the remarriage.
I want you to know dear reader, that even through the hurts and trials of life, our blessed Savior will not leave or forsake us, but draws us close to His bosom and cherishes us. I know He is in my life. I know He has provided for me. He can do the same for you. The whole purpose for this, my testimony, is to let you know that we all have troubles and trials, yet in Jesus Christ we can live in victory. We must forgive those who hurt us and not allow the root of bitterness to spring up and ruin our lives. He knows and understands our hurts and allows us to live in His victory. This is the mighty Son of the Living God who took the keys to death, hell, and the grave from the enemy, and safeguards all who come to Him. This is the Mighty God who gave up His earthly life in order to share His eternal life with us. Praise God, what a wonderful, awsome God!
I currently undergo health problems, but I would not give up this wonderful relationship with my Lord and my God even if it meant I could be healthy, wealthy, and have all my past problems erased. God has used every hardship to work good into my life. He will do the same for you. If you do not know how to let Him work in your life please write or e-mail me. I will gladly share what I have learned from Him.
One of my very favorite scriptures is Romans 8:28, "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Dear child of God, if you learn only one thing from my web site please let it be this. God knows about every hurtful thing, every problem in your life. He uses every one of them to make you like His dear Son, Jesus Christ. So far as I can determine, once you have learned the lesson God is teaching you with a particular problem then the problem disappears. Yes, after a brief period of rest another problem usually pops up. God uses your whole lifetime to prepare you for heaven. None of the problems that occur in your life happen without His knowledge and intervention. They all have a purpose, so learn to thank your heavenly Father for His discipline, training and love. You can trust Him with the outcome. He just uses satan and the problems he tries to cause in your life. (please see my poem Rod of Correction on the Christian Poem page of this site.) Problems and their resolution only serve to make you more confident of HIS LOVE.