What It Means To Be a Mother...by Ria
As a real life Mother, I understand that children need to be taught and nurtured. As a D/s Mother, I have learned quickly that there is no difference. Submissives need love and trust- as much as E/everyone in the world does- they give up control of themselves to Someone they trust, to guide them and help them learn to see the love they desire. It is within this subSpace that often times subbies get lost, and forget their way home. In leading the Family Darksia, I take great pride in the communication skills I instill in not only My children, but also in My Brothers and Sisters. Communication is the key to any relationship, but it is a nessecity in a D/s relationship. As the Mother and Friend of My children, I teach them that there is no force greater than love, and no True Love that Time will not be still for.
After reading articles and researching for several years, I have found the key to being a Mother lay not in experience, or nessicarily wisdom, but in Heart. For E/everyone makes mistakes, E/everyone speaks at one time or another without thinking of the repercussions of their words. It takes a very large heart to see past all of this and love without bias despite past trespasses. The Heart of a Mother is hard to come by, but when love is pure its the most rewarding treasure and gift. Not just for the receiver, though. Love is a two-way street in any form of relationship. For the happiness to be found, love must flow openly from both sides. To see the love of a child when you smile upon them for a job well done, is breath-taking to say the least.
Discipline of a favorite child is never easy. Even more so when every child is Your favorite, as they all have special traits and quirks that make them who and what they are. These subtle differences are not seen by most, who think that from a distance two people deemed "normal" are alike. Spending time and learning what's on the inside helps make these differences more forthcoming. It is in this time that a Mother or other Dominant may see what the needs of the submissive are, or at least the needs that they may not be willing to yet reveal. Today's society makes many of the BDSM Fetish needs of submissives a sin or something to be ashame of, and many times even with years of coaxing and experience- it is hard to break past the hypnosis that society has put on us.
As a Mother I feel I have the best form of relationship with My Family. The submissives look to Me for support, and for compassion, and it is a job I am happy to fulfill. I do not view Myself as a submissive, but someone who finds Her strength in Her Love for O/others. I interact on a daily basis with every submissive in My Family, I offer them strength and Unhindered Love, and in this I give them the ability to look at life from a new prospective. Many submissives have childish tendancies, the onrey nature of a "bad girl" who's been pent up too long in a church, and in knowing they are loved and accepted without bars they often have more will to explore things they before only dreamed of.
While attaining dreams is a powerful acomplishment, it means less than nothing if there has been no one to see your progress, and in the end there is no one to share with. The only variable to this equasion is that if the people around Y/you aren't the O/ones Y/you love, then even having them around is no good to Y/you. It is My goal to give the M/members of the Darksia Family a group of loving P/people, who will always be there, through thick and thin, with a veil of protection and love. Thus making the world easier for A/all to see, through a lens of loving acceptance, knowing no matter T/their trials and errors, T/they will always be loved and accepted by U/us.
T/those W/whose Hearts Ria Keeps
Writings and Various Links
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The Phoenixflight Series
The CastleRealm
Return to the Family
