In life many things are uncertain. Many choices must be made on a daily basis, and paths walked every day. Sometimes in this jumble of insanity a figure may be seen, kneeling beside one of the paths. She looks up at You with sweet eyes and a soft smile, begging for You to show her the right way to go. In the darkness known as life a Dominant person brings light, shelter, and comfort to those who wear Their collar. They are the guide, the strength, and the salvation of Their submissives, and though They must endure great sacrifices, the love of a submissive is worth it. In the world of BDSM this is a dream worth working for. The one who will hold Your heart as well as Your hand and allow You to guide them through the world that has become so cruel and hateful.
Though there are many ways One can Dominate a submissive, there are limits and boundaries that must be met. A healthy D/s relationship is based on three major items. Communication, Trust, and Honesty. Without any one of these items, the relationship cannot work to it's fullest potential, and will leave O/one or B/both P/partners seeking more than what T/they have.†
Communication. This is the most important ingredient to any relationship, most of all a D/s relationship where the submissive surrenders any form of control. Because of the sometimes "violent" nature of a BDSM relationship, hard and soft limits should be set and discussed before any scene or relationship occurs. These limits should be respected and met by B/both at all times in order to create a strong, healthy relationship. It is because of these limits, as well as the wants and needs of T/those involved, that communication is a necessary point. *click here to read more about Communication.
Trust. It may seem that in mentioning this that I mean the submissive must trust the Dom/me they are relinquishing control to. This is not the only reason, however, that trust is a key to a good relationship. Dom/me and sub alike must trust one another in order to act out scenes or even be intimate. Especially in today's world, where sometimes the fakes seem to be coming out of the woodwork. Without trust from both parties abuse may occur, or even incarceration for things done during a scene. It is imperative for Sadistic Dom/mess to trust Their submissives strongly before acting out a scene. *click here to read more about Trust.
Honesty. For a D/s relationship of any kind to be strong there must be a raw form of honesty. There can be no secrets between P/partners. Dom/mes must be honest in Their skills, needs, wants, and intentions; without this honesty a submissive may be lead astray. On the other hand, submissives must be completely honest especially when in the area of hard and soft limits. If there is any lack of honesty in any way both parties could be hurt very badly. (Not just physically.) * click here to read more about Honesty.
†This page is written only as a rough guide to Dom/mes who are new ( or old ) to the Lifestyle. This is not a set of certain rules, and is not even necessarily followed by All Dom/mes in the BDSM world. E/everyone has T/their own opinions on how things should work, and this is merely one more of those opinions.
