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What is the number one cause of death
for pregnant women in the United States?
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November 2003
Thanksgiving in St Louis

My contribution to the meal

Turkey Picatta on Pumpkin Puree
with fried sage leaves and a red wine gravy
i also made a cranberry catsup to go along with it
that surprised me by being really good

We laughed, we cried, we ate
and generally avoided a kitchen we had turned into
a total disaster area

i've been thinking a lot lately
about the politics and ethos of Los Angeles
(and Orlando, for that matter)
i just can't shake the feeling
that it all relates to their inherent lack of the following:

What exactly happens to a people that are denied
the annual wake up call that is seasonal change?

Does time or even life mean anything anymore?

At the very least, it's an excuse to post a few more of my pics
hee hee...

How old is your mother?

This is from an issue of Good Housekeeping circa 1955
sorry for the small print but
i've tried to reproduce it as closely to the original as possible, because
this is very real. Absolutly real
and this is pretty much how it was layed out

i don't blame you if you don't wanna read it all...
i underlined some of the bits that particularily got to me

Housekeeping Monthly 13 May 1955

The good wife's guide
Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious
meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you
have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men
are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal
(especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepair yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he
arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-
looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need
a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house
just before you husband arrives.

  • Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the
  • Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for
    him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and
    order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will
    provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
  • Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands
    and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and , if necessary, change their
    clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the
    part. Minimise all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the
    washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
  • Be happy to see him.
  • Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please
  • Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the
    moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his
    topics of conversation are more important than yours.
  • Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to
    dinner, or other places of entertainment without you.
    Instead, try to
    understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at
    home and relax.
  • Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and
    tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
  • Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
  • Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night.
    Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.
  • Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have
    him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
  • Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing
    and pleasant voice.
  • Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or
    integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always
    exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to
    question him.
  • A good wife always knows her place.

The thing of it is...
like, when i first saw this, i thought, probably like you:
"hey, this is old history... we're past it."
and shrugged it off...

In 1955, my mom was 9. Just a baby.
Her sister (my aunt) was 15, and definitely could have read this.
Which begs the question:
How old was your mother?

This is less than one generation. Our parents grew up in this.
It was all around them.
Don't tell me this doesn't directly affect our world today

Love this.

Hee... freedom of music, what bullshit.

A word...
Lemme just say, i love Danny Boyle

in even more irrelevant news...

A while back, i cataloged my vinyl collection.
Since i've done it, it's actually come in handy a few times
i was able to help a few people, and even a record store!
so yeah... i'm jazzed
Grand Total: 692(as of 11.13.2003)

739 if you count the double packs

Havn't broken the thousand mark, but i'm not dead yet.


i saw a sign today:

"Lesbians against BUSH"


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