Now I'm going to talk about marriage
Since we returned from a wedding a few weeks ago, and since lots of people i know are getting married, and since there is a lot of controversy about marriage, let me think about this.
(warning also - its 8:20 am on a saturday morning, and i woke up at 7, hung over, and then took advil with caffiene).
My friend matilda got married, in maryland, with her wife deborah. mind you, that carries no legal consequences, but their wedding was said, and filed in maryland, so if it becomes legal, they wouldn't have to do it again. Why? because marriage is just a contract between you and your partner of certain things - usually love, fidelity, and all that stuff that goes with it. we were also talking about friends of matilda's who are discussing going to vermont or canada to marry. i don't really understand that (neither did she :) as wherever you live won't recognize it, regardless, even if where you perform it, it is legal. I could see moving to vermont or canada, but not rushing out there to get married. Moreover, I don't know when or how I'm getting married. Why do I want to get married? To publically bind my life with Eric's, and thats about it. Oh, and also cause I want kids and he's not big on having them before the marriage (c'mon, premade little kids to be in the wedding party!). So I'm borrowing Mark's as-of-(better be :)-yet unconceived children.
Plus, maybe my family will lay off then, and not be so sad that im living with him (moving apart in 5 days).
Jon Stewart pointed out that the gay marriage controversy must be because people want to make gay marriage MANDATORY. If not, why the fuck would anyone care? I really don't see why people would care, nor why people, would stop supporting it since the SC struck down sodomy laws. It doesn't affect you. In fact, I don't see why it wouldn't improve our society. At least some of the marriages in the US are broken up because of unrealized sexual orientation, and the tension that causes. Also, I think that, as much as I love my father, for me to have grown up with two mothers wouldn't have been a bad thing. Two fathers might have been worse (only if they were both like mine :). Why would having balanced, happy, fulfilled parents be bad for you? :shrug:
I always expected to be a single mother :).
Alright, enough with rambling on -- I need to go and shower, then bring boy aaron to the airport :(
PS....in my new CAR!!!!!
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