A good Sex is a biological need, like the drive for food, air and water. When I have the impulse, it needs to be satisfied. You can't live without food, air or water. Believe it or not, you can not live without sex.A good sex is like a good gas. It gives more powers to the engine but it is very expensive. A bad sex is like a methanol. It can give a little power for the car to move forward but it destroy the engine and it can not run in highway.
A good sex comes from practice and fulfilling love life. How can I have one? How can I get the most out of sex? All young women worldwide ask these questions. Why? It provides pleasure and emotional fulfillment that are important facets of life. According to two psychologists at the universities of Vermont and South Carolina, 95% of people think about sex at least once each day. You might wonder, “You mean that 5% of the people don't?” and if you are among these 5% of the women, you will surely have problems with your partner as I did.
One way to have a dynamic sex life is to concentrate on techniques and learn very carefully from expert whom you can trust who is not falling in love with you. There is certainly nothing wrong with learning sexual technique - especially the technique from my BROL or brother in law.
A good sex is important for good relationship. When emotional issues of dissatisfaction over sex act in relationship exist, the journey is interrupted until these conflicts are resolved. That’s why I lost my ex-boyfriend whom I dearly loved.
Many sex therapists agree that great technique does guarantee great sex. They emphasize that the qualities that contribute to a successful sex life are the same ones that contribute to a successful interpersonal relationship.
What we do not know and understand is that "I love you," can be interpreted several different ways. One meaning is "I love you if – if you go out with me... if you are lighthearted... if you stay committed to me... if you sleep with me….if you have sex with me. This type of love is given on the basis of what the other person does. Another meaning is "I love you because-because you are attractive...strong...intelligent…smart…cute" This type of love is given on the basis of what the other person is. Both types of love need a great sex to keep forever.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be loved for what you are, but problems can arise with having "if" or "because of" love as the “ONLY” basis of a relationship. Jealousy can set in when someone who is more attractive or more intelligent appears and the partner's attention shifts to the newcomer. People who know they are loved only for their strong points may be afraid to admit any weaknesses to their partners. This dishonesty can affect the relationship.
My friend was engaged to be married. Their popularity, intelligence, good looks and athletic success made their future together seem bright. Then my friend was in a skiing accident that left her paralyzed for life. Her fiance deserted her. It is true that her fiance can not have sex with her anymore. This tragic tells me always how important sex is in our relationship.
Portrayed in the popular film, "The Other Side of the Mountain," this true story was certainly complex. But was his love for her "love, period"? Or was it love "if" or love "because of"? Unconditional love (or "less-conditional," because none of us is perfect) is an essential building block for a lasting relationship. The perfection comes from a great sex.
You can probably see how good sex can help unconditional love and relationship in a marriage. In order for love to be most fulfilling, it should be experienced in an atmosphere of caring and acceptance. Sex, viewed in this manner, becomes not a self-centered performance but a significant expression of mutual love.
If your lover never expresses his sexual problems to you, you both have communication problems as I had. If a problem arises, you need to talk it out and forgive rather than give each other the silent treatment and stew in their juices. "Sexual foreplay involves the 'round-the-clock relationship." Communication affects your sex; your sex affects your total life. Couples need to communicate about their hopes, dreams, fears and hurts as well as the daily details of life in order for the relationship to flourish. I was so afraid to talk about sex to my ex-boyfriend when I was with him. How stupid I was??????
A substantial number of sexual problems could be resolved if people felt free to communicate with their sexual partners...about their sexual feelings. Now my BROL told me what I have to know the rest of my life and I am fully equipped to challenge a new world.
After we have sex, you might be saying "I Love You" while he is thinking "I Love It." Then, you love life becomes misery. How can you know? Here is the answer what my BROL told me.
A man who already had sexual experiences before always compares his lover’s sexual acts with the ex-girlfriend or partner. If you are better than his ex-girlfriend or partner, he will never stop saying how great sex is, how good you are, how beautiful you are, how you sexy is, how you butts are look great, how you breast are wonderful, how you kisses are deep; how your eyes are good etc. BUT, if your sexual performance is not good as his ex-girlfriend or partner, after he ejaculate, he will not say much of words, and stay silence – thinking about his ex-girlfriend or partner’s sexual acts.
Because, all MEN in this planet feel that after they had sexual experiences with their girlfriend or partner they felt like they’ve left a part of themself with their girlfriend or partner emotionally. They will never forget a great sex forever.
So, I think, we all agree that it is important to have good sex-lessons other than our boy-friend to have a better love life – but the question is from whom? There are many dangers involve to learn sex from unknown or untrustworthy person because of HIV and STD.
Even with all the modern contraceptives, there are one million teenage pregnancies in the U.S. each year. And if one chooses abortion as a "solution," there can still be emotional scarring and, for many people, a guilt burden. Incidentally an estimated 55 million people in the U.S.--about one in five--have a sexually transmitted disease (STD). Each year there are twelve million new STD infections in the U.S.an average of over 20 new cases every minute.
About 6,000 people around the globe become infected with HIV daily. In the U.S., AIDS is the leading killer of people ages 25 to 44, according to the Centers for Disease Control.{8} So-called "safe sex" is not really safe at all. Condoms can slip, break and leak. Johns Hopkins University reports research on HIV transmission from infected men to uninfected women in Brazil. The study took pains to exclude women at high risk of contracting HIV from sources other than their own infected sex partners. Of women who said their partners always used condoms during vaginal intercourse, 23% became HIV-positive.
Practice makes perfect and I do want to please my partner. As previously mentioned, technique are keys to dynamic sex. Because, "You try on a pair of shoes before you buy them!" The "try-before-you-buy" idea breaks down because the human plumbing system is very flexible and almost always works. Even happily married couples often need several years to adjust sexually to each other.
Many women learn sex lessons from different peoples but there are many disadvantages. They are not faithful, they will gossip you about with their friends, they will take advantage over you, they will even make a bargain, they will lookdown you, they can give you HIV and STD diseases, and they will treat you like sometimes a hooker or prostitute. That why, I have chosen to take sex-lessons from my brother in law, who is bounded with several crucial matters.
As I have mentioned before, here are advantages. He is not my bloodline family member. He is a part of our family through marriage so that he can not speak out about our secret. If he speaks about our secret, he will loose his wife. If I speak about our secret, my sister will also loose her husband. The Bible allows having sex between Brother in Law and Sister in Law. There are over 56% willing to have even pure sex for lust with their Brother in Law or Sister in Law. It is natural but phenomenon. In addition, please remember that, sexual adjustment through sexual lessons takes time, privacy, secrecy, trust, faithfulness, reputation, and understanding.
Now I would say that, sex and sexual issue are very important. Crucial even. If sex was unimportant then cheating would also be considered unimportant. After a good sex, our brains release chemicals that make then feel happy and most importantly connected and in love. The effect is far stronger for women. Regular sex bonds a couple together. Needless to say this is far from the only thing bonding a couple. Any physical affection, cuddling, kisses, hugs, holding hands can have this effect as well as the connection from the shared experiences, conversations, similar interests etc. Sex will not always make or break a relationship but a terrible sex life (absent, or whatever) or a cheating partner can break a relationship. Sex is more important to some people than others. Some people prefer frequent sex; some people are once a week or even less often. These differences can cause problems. The key is compromise, sometimes you will be having sex that you aren't fully in the mood for, and sometimes you will want and go without, as long as one of you isn't always giving way to the needs of the other you can work it out. THAT’S WHY YOU NEED A GOOD TEACHER.
A good sex is all there is to a great relationship but also it is an important part of relationship.
Take care
To be continued:
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Updated: Tuesday, 25 April 2006 10:30 AM EDT
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