Good with the Bad
Mood:  not sure
Now Playing: Norah Jones House of Blues
I'm a little somber these days. The ex is circling over my head with threats of limiting the joint shared custody of my sweet daughters. She acts like she holds the high cards in the deck of children's love. She says things like "They will always love you" and other little ditties that ring of her holding the upper hand. It seems like a Dr.Seuss Xmas tale where her heart oughta grow 3 sizes. If she had the heart she wouldn't be so flippant and instead say things like, "I'll help you find the magic bullet to help see that they have there dad's company as much as I want mine".

So for now I'm securing a good counselor who I hope can poignantly throttle the righteous judge (if it gets that far) into the non sensibility of my ex's odd logic.

On the positive side, Jodi (the Baronette), is a source of joyful consistency that helps me through these times. I have good support from my friend Nancy (Artemis), too.

My company has secured a big cabling job from a very large shipping company. This holds the promise of keeping me busy working a 2nd. shift soon. I can use all the cash flow I can get. We at the company are happy things are going well. Now I have to dust off my hard hat and work boots.

The Baronette and I will see each other tomorrow and have a nice date scheduled for Friday. We still act a little like sophomores. We say things to each other than read into these things, nuances that weren't there in the first place.

I still tell you friends, she's a keeper and a lighthouse in my life.

That's it for now. Take care. More to come later.






A tense Blue Baron

I heard it from the Ex
Mood:  d'oh
Now Playing: ZZ Top Fandango
Hello There,

I've been viewing the ex's blog. She thinks I read hers and I wouldn't doubt she reads mine. We both have no reservations in anything we say or do.

On her last blog she mused about what would happen if she had multiple self entities which continued independently on different paths. In other words, if she stayed in college, if she stayed in the state where she was born, etc.

In 1 of these personas she wrote about what if she remained married to me. She says she would still be doing all the housework and child rearing and I would be smoking the evil weed and providing no help.

Jodi, (the Baronette), pointed out to me how if the ex was in a football game, she would be penalized for unnecessary roughness.

I easily admit that I smoked that bad stuff a long time. It makes you lethargic and erases responsibility from your mind. I deeply regret I didn't stop a lot sooner than I did. I worked hard each day and wanted to relax when I got home. Don't ever start puffing it. It may eat you up.

Most of my married life my ex's jobs were spent flying a desk and never got out of the office much. I would work hard physically. Pulling cables, running around a lot. I enjoyed the relaxing feeling I got from the puff stuff. Up until the final few years of our marriage the ex enjoyed the stuff too. To listen to her you would think she never imbibed. It did weaken our finances but several times when she complained about the budget, I got a raise or skipped to a new job. By the time our marriage was over, I had doubled my original wage.

Listen here, I'm for sure not defending weed smoking at all. Just setting things straight.

What you won't read in my ex's blog, is that after she was gone, I quit smoking immediately. The truth is that she annoyed me so much that becoming "medicated" was my escape from her passive/aggressive attitude. She felt she was ALWAYS right. She was a spin doctor and was good at arguing her point. She wasn't often right, just good at arguing. She was overbearing. She still ALWAYS thinks she's right.

In the end I couldn't find myself sucking up to her to keep the marriage. I even made silly promises I knew I couldn't keep. I wanted to save the marriage for the kids alone. I read a lot about how parents divided faired poorly on raising kids. The ex would have only stayed around if I had made up immediately and comprehensively for all my supposed wrongs. By this time she had so much wore me down with her attitude there could have been no going back.

I was sad for a while but rebounded in short order. I feel very good about myself now. I'm proud of my life. Had I known then what I know now I'd have jumped right out of the marriage with both feet running.

When we split our possesions I admit I told her I would rather sell the house than let her have it. In the end she was gracious in not insisting we sell the things that she couldn't put in the apartment where she was moving. She let me buy her out on the house. I make more money than she does.

She wanted to remain friends and it felt like she was "buying" a guarantee of the friendship by not attempting to force me to sell things. She had the doc move in with her. This social misfit excuse of a man had said terrible things about me on his blog. She defended his written abuse of me while we were still married. This halted any friendship we could have had.

Ok, that's it I just wanted to tell my side of the "better off" me.


I had a nice day. I was with the Baronette for a lot of it. She's a great lady. Tomorrow I go to a birthday and meet most of her family. I'm looking forward to it. Tomorrow night she and her kids are coming to my house for a Super Bowl get together. It promises to be very nice.

I will be writing again soon. I hope all my readers are having happy and wonderful lives. May the sun shine down on you every day.

The Blue Baron

Great Things a Happenin'
Mood:  happy
Hi Everyone,

I want to show you this picture of this great lady I've come to know.
















This is Jodi

I can't say enough about how happy she's made me, and apparently she's pretty happy with me.

Did you ever think the Baron would ever settle down with someone again? After the troublesome ex problems and the long time we were married, I thought I'd never fix myself to anyone again.

She's wrapped herself into my life and mine to hers. She's a keeper. She's smart, responsible, pretty, caring, and she's a great mother to 4 wonderful kids. As a single dad, I can attest to her greatness.

Alright, alright. Am I getting to gushy? Hey, I'm still the Blue Baron so watch out.

The twisted ex has been causing trouble again. I got on my oldest teenage daughter for attempting to hide her internet activities from me. Maybe I was a little heavy handed but now she's dis-enchanted and her mom says she doesn't want to come back every other 2 weeks. To make matters worse, her mom is backing her and threatens to re-structure the divorce agreement by taking me to court to change the joint shared custody. Everyone I talk to agrees she's out of line and our child raising cooperative has broken down.

Friends, I love my girls and couldn't bear to not be with them as much as I can. They are number 1 in my life (yes #1). I hope the odd ex looks at the big picture instead of the selfish do what her daughter wants picture.

The same daughter Tina, is very talented in drawing and I mean to talk to her about a school project where I understand her drawing is selected for show. My youngest Amy told me about it but I didn't get the chance to talk to Tina tonight. Of course all the daughters are great.

Oh, and by the way, Jodi's daughter Rachel, tied for 1st in a talent show's music competition. She came in 2nd. overall. Yay for her.

That's it for now guys. Take care, drop me a line.

TBB

The great, the not so good
Mood:  a-ok
Now Playing: Jeff Beck, Blow by Blow
Hi Everyone,

Work is picking back up. The holiday lull is over. I have so much going on I can pick and choose what I do. People are asking me to do side work as well. Now time is my most precious commodity.

I saw the ex last night (had to). She occasionally has a little salt to rub in the situation. She reminded me how I got to have 2 of my 3 kids as tax dependents this year. We alternate every other year on this. She had to make a point of how she did me a favor. "I did let you go 1st". I don't think I should act gracious here. Everytime she talks like this I still cringe inside a bit, bite my lip and move on. Thankfully I fast found the better life of being without her.

Speaking of the better life, I have to tell you I'm really infatuated with a fine lady right now. Her name is Jodi. I anticipate things will develop into something great. Her and my schedules and our watching our respective children prevents us from seeing each other much. I think though we'll find ways to see each other briefly now and then. Over time if things continue like they are we will work it out. Good things are worth waiting for. More to come later on.

No pictures today, just text. I will type at cha' later.

The Blue Baron

How to read people. Chapter 1
Mood:  incredulous
Now Playing: Steely Dan, Can't buy a thrill
Hi everyone,

I do phone work and have done so for the past 18 years. I work in the private sector. I work for 2 brothers whose initials are CK and PK. The name my bud and I have given them is cute kitty and pretty kitty.
Cute exemplifies the worst attitude a boss could have. He's 1 of those "stop everything for me, I am your lighthouse and mentor, all I do is gold" type fellas. He has no bones about how he often shows disrespect to others yet wants respect himself. These guys never learn. Even the most righteous, dutiful jerks gain no respect and the opposite of respect is contempt. I treat him flippantly.
Pretty is fastidious and watches his dollar. He puts in a lot of extra hours. He sometime can be annoying. I work better with him because he is a phone guy where Cute is a cable guy.
Now the office girl is getting an attitude. As of late any of these 3 guys can imagine what they want done for the day and not tell the other 2. 2 of these act as though when they issue a job, or too many jobs, I just have to squeeze it in. I can't tell them enough that work is linear and it stops at 5. The jobs role until another time. That's the way it goes.
One day soon they will learn to coordinate and settle down. They all want their own personal agendas completed. I guess I'll have to pull them in the conference room and make them play rock, paper, scissors to see who wins for the day.

Enough of the stuff,
C'ya,
The Blue Baron

1st. Highlight of the new year
Hello There,

My daughter Amy had her 6th birthday party Saturday. I took some pictures and will put them below.
Work has had me a little busy. I worked Saturday morning and anticipate I will work some nights this week. My company may pick up a large contract from a printer manufacturer.
I'm getting ready to change out the tires on my mini-van. Tax time is coming up. As soon as I get my needed paperwork, I will fill out the forms and zip them off.

Whew! party girlz



C'ya on another page.

The Day After ( Non Nuclear )
Hi Friends,

It's the day after Christmas and I'm relaxing now. I went and did some phone work for a friend. I got Amy and we did the week's grocery shopping. Tomorrow it's back to the same old grind for 4 days. Attached are some more Xmas pictures. Some are a bit fuzzy because they were copied from the tv screen. I videotape each year's gift opening.
Time for me to get back to domestication. I will write more soon.

The Blue Baron

The top picture is Amy, 2nd., Kelly, and 3rd Tina and Kelly.

Merry Christmas, and stuff
Mood:  not sure
Hi Friends,

Another Christmas come and gone. I had a great time gifting to my kids, relatives and friends. Again this year Christmas day was a little somber. In an effort not to be in a protracted divorce fight, I allowed the ex to have the kids each xmas morning. One day I may fight this. It's my 5 year old I most treasure these times with. Attached are some pictures from the family xmas.









































The 1st.picture is my niece Alicia with my oldest Tina. The 2nd. Shot is Amy. The 3rd pic is Amy opening a Cabbage Patch Doll. The last picture is Kelly on the couch closest to the left. Her cousins are also in the shot.

I plan on taking more pics and posting them tomorrow.


Talk to you then,
The Blue Baron

A Look Back
Mood:  a-ok
Hello Friends,

I'm just now getting well after a bout with a bug. I've felt listless and tired the last few days but I'm bouncing back. It's been a year since my big split with my ex. Looking back I have to say I'm quite happy. Knowing now what I couldn't see then, I think all is fine. My kids would be the only ones to have it better than they do now had we stayed together. Sides divided can't maintain as well as forces unified. I don't regret at all that she has moved on. To make the sacrifices she wanted to stay together would be tantamount to "kissing up". She's a nice person mostly but not worth the worship she reasoned she deserved. Most likely the guy she's with now will find this out in due time and wonder what he's gotten himself into. I've said way too much. Talk to you later.



TBB

Troll Times
Mood:  cool
Hi Friends,

Things are good. I'm feeling ok considering my dad passed away last weekend. 1 friend has found a new guy and I hope all goes well for them. Another great friend has someone she knows who apparently had a stroke. I hope the best for him.
I've gotten a lot done for the holidays so far. Most all my cards are out. I'm happy that I can be giving to all my acquaintances this season.
That's it for now. Attached is a comic panel. The doc recently referred to me (I think) as a lurking troll who reads his blog.

I'll talk to you later,
TBB