The final spin
Mood:  chillin'
Now Playing: That's just the way it is, Bruce Hornsby

 

 

 

 

Hi Readers, I don't write much here.

 

   During my divorce I would go to the library and look at the books about divorce and children. They would say "don't do it".

 

   I wanted to keep things together for the kids. I was already putting up with an insufferable attitude from the ex. No way we could stay married. I was extremely mad at her for refusing to ask her internet friend ( now husband ) to stop writing bad about me on his blog.

 

  We negotiated and came up with what we thought was a reasonable divorce agreement. We said we would be friends. People told us it wouldn't work. They were right. Within a year she was writing bad about me on her blog. Hello, Guess she didn't care to remain friends.

 

   I ask her repeatedly to mediaite or compromise regarding her writing about me. Of course she said no.

 

   In recent history she's been making what might be considered nice gestures towards me. I emailed and told her unless she addresses the 1st. issue, we can't move forward. No way would I be friends with someone writing bad about me.

 

   I'm done with her. Things can never get any better. I feel good I gave it the college try for the kids. The ex is stubborn and selfish when it comes to her self righteousness.

 

 

Puzzled by the oblivious ones
Mood:  not sure
Topic: duh,

 

 

 

Hi Folks,

 

     Arggh, more confused than ever. I had been invited to my ex's house for my daughter's birthday party. Now my ex says her and her hubby would feel uncomfortable with me there. There would be "tension". I've been de-invited. Let's see, has their been tension when I've been over before for other parties, graduations? No. After this heartless move and on my way home my daughter asked if I was still coming to her party. I told her the truth and she was upset. I told her she could talk to her mom but I couldn't tell her how mean a person her mom is. 

     I'm sure you readers know about the ex and her hubby. They reserve the right to write bad about me on the internet, albeit anonymous. I've told them a long time ago it was disrespectful and rude. They stare back like deer in the headlights and say no it's not. Thoughts race through my head. Can these people not realize what they do is wrong in any way? They wash their hands in the bowl of denial and walk on. Then they have the nerve to wonder why they're perceived wrong. They just don't get it. As long as they keep their self righteous ( wrong ) opinion they'll most likely never be thought of as nice. A terrible catch 22.  I've no want to be with those guys but I have to when it comes to being with my kids I'll overlook them being near.

     If they or anyone they know read this, please help them see the light bulb of realization. If you can't say something nice don't say anything at all, on the net, in person, in a letter. Reserving the right to rag on people is a dark way to think. You can't be nice one way and bad another. The perception of bad will always persist.   

 

    Ok, down from the soap box, bye,

    TBB

 

Another Christmas
Mood:  chillin'
Now Playing: Evil Woman, ELO

Hi friends,

      I've been doing my business other places but wanted to stop in and say "hello" and happy holidays.

      This holiday season I though the ex might finally wise up and snap over to getting along. She still thinks her critical blog journal writings about me are okay. Can you believe it? On top of that she wondered why my family won't talk to her yet her family talks to me. She suggested her family was more sensible. Well yeah, I think both mine AND her family know how she's whack in her assertions. Her family has remained talking to me because I'm reasonable and personable. Her dad routinely tells me that his daughter divorced me but that doesn't change our friendship. I've had warm holiday talks with her  parents, sister and niece.

      I emailed the ex to ask if she wants me to talk to my family about communicating. It kind of felt like she's saying "hey look, you're wrong about me M*** but since everyone in your family has it more together than you can you talk to them?". Uh, yeah. My family muses about my ex having multiple personality disorder. She's like Harriet the Spy. Someone may come upon her journal (blog) accidentally and find she's still stirring up problems. Things will have to change before I have the heart to champion her cause. I think if my family knows she won't change, communicating will be a tough sell.

      It was a good Christmas. I have a new special someone and she's doing well. Work is a bit slow right now but it'll pick up.

      Happy new year to you and yours,

      TBB

Not so hot a day
Mood:  don't ask
Now Playing: Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald

 

 

 

 Hi folks,   

     Sad day here friends. My venerable Quest minivan was totalled in a wreck today. No fault of mine. Claims agents will be out tomorrow to work with me. In the meantime my workplace has lent me a vehicle and are already working on a rental car for me. The company I work for is very considerate in helping me. Friends and work buddies have stepped up to help too. Soon I hope to have another van and be back on the road.

    The ex was a 2nd thorn in my side today. I called her and initially told her I wouldn't be picking up the daughter for religion classes. After I got a short term vehicle I called and left a message on the ex's cell phone telling her I WOULD be picking up the daughter. She obviously didn't check her cell phone 'cause she called me live and was bothered I informed my daughter I was still coming yet the ex hadn't got her message yet. She did later apologize.  My youngest was speculating the other day on why the ex and I don't get along. How do you tell her her mom is selfish, mean and self centered. Get this, she actually believes she's right about most everything. She values her "freedom of speech" to write bad things about me over the need to get along with each other for our kids sake.

    No more Baronette. After a recent spat I signed off with her for the last time. She practically accused me of lying despite me telling her the truth about something. Nuff said. Goodbye JH.

   Ho hum, tonight van blue book value hunting, Later.

   TBB

For gosh sakes
Mood:  not sure

   

 

 

 

 

 

Today a blurb,

   Humph, why is it my ex's current husband can't get the message. The guy can't be trusted. He'll say bad things about people on the net and thinks it has no consequence 'cause it's private and he's anonymous. DUH, wake up guy. What you say bad is bad regardless of where and when. Just because someone may not know you're saying bad things makes it no better. The same applies to my ex.

   Today I dropped my girls back at their mom's. The above mentioned doofus tried to be nice to me. This guy is fucked up. If he or my ex read this blog ever again, TELL HIM TO KEEP TO HIMSELF. It so feels like a back stabber weaseling his way in. You can't be nice in person to be with and a jerk on the web. It's duplicitous. It's all real life.

   Yeah, I know, I'm saying bad things too. No worry. I gave him a fair gentlemans chance. We shook hands so I thought it would stop. WRONG.

    Good gosh.....TBB

TRUST
Mood:  energetic

Fairness in representation
Mood:  incredulous







I don't often write about world events but I read an article on Yahoo regarding Norman Finkelstein, a DePaul professor denied tenure because of what he believes is his criticism of Israel and jews who he perceives use the holocaust to gain monetary compensation. He has been accused of being anti-semetic.

Norman Finkelstein

I don't disagree with the guy. I perceive his observations as sound. He himself is a child of holocaust survivors. I am not anti-semetic but I am anti-prejudice. I believe every one is entitled to their opinion. I also believe that people like Alan Dershowitz sensationalize the holocaust to bolster the position of Israel in the world.
9 other professors were also denied tenure at Depaul for other reasons. Righteous or otherwise I've offered my opinion.


TBB

Fun, happiness, strength, humor
Mood:  bright
Now Playing: Get a haircut and get a real job






Howdy do, My oldest daughter just graduated from high school. Time did go by so fast just like I was told it would.
















Me and my daughter


























All my daughters.



The daughters are with me this week. I wish I was taking time off to be with them. I've been doing lots of work around our house. I'm potentially going to Florida in July and planning that.

You've heard me complain about how my ex wouldn't sit down to work things out with me for a child support adjustment. She wanted to send copies of all forms to each other have each respective party do the math, then compare the figures . Well, against my better judgement I decided to trade forms. Turns out I was right, she had evil motives. She wanted to see my tax return so she knew how much I got back last year in tax refund. Now she says, sure we'll cut the support by $149 but that's how much I want to pay on your arrearage debt each month instead of the $40 you pay now. In other words, no decrease in what you pay me each month, at least that's her wish.

Turns out her hubby lost or is "in between" jobs. I'm sure he's pouting on his should be private glove compartment project blog. Me thinks I might be paying to feed and clothe him too. Maybe that's why the ex wishes she had more of my money.

I look for oppurtunities to make money using my ex. At work I'm trying to start a wagering pool based on "what will she do next". My fellow techs and I conjecture on which way she thinks she'll twist her little knife next. The closest to the mark wins. Of course nobody knows her like I do.

I had to run into her today. My phone service company maintains her companies phone system. All my other techs have had to face her. I wanted them to get a good look at her, see the meanness. I ran my service call down to her company. I think she thrills over how we as techs don't like dealing with her but all I can think of is "putz".


Until next time.........TBB

Blue Who.
Mood:  quizzical







It's been commented that I look like a certain cartoon bad guy.







This is me, The Blue Baron.
No cobra on my hood.



This is the first Cobra
Commander. Simple 2d from
Korea.



The second Cobra Commander
Had a darker hood. Cartoons
more refined.



Occasionally he wore a
metal mask with a
helmet.



At his worse he still
was lame. A coward to
the end.

More later.........................

Rants and raves
Mood:  chillin'
Now Playing: Bloody well right, Supertramp





Hi everyone,

This past month has been interesting. Break ups, money, new friends, kids growing up. First off some pics.

This is My oldest singing in chorus
















This is my middle girl with her boyfriend. At her mom's house.
























And again my oldest, in her prom dress.



















I've met some nice people lately. A special new friend owns a home way out in the country. It's secluded and quaint. It's the home she was raised in. The road has her family name.




























No one can see you from the road. The house has a lot of character. There is a loft but there are no stairs.
























Finally, I'm still cheesed at the evil ex. I tried to work out how we can sit down together and fairly do some figures to avoid going to court over child support changes. We both mutually don't trust or respect each other. It didn't work out. She nixed it. Worse yet, in her sick way, she uses our children as a defence of her self rightousness. Never mind that we both have our opinions of what's right and wrong.






















Go figure, she's in her own world.

That's it for now. I'm still getting by. If nothing else I've learned to scrimp and barter to save money. I actually thank my ex for helping me strengthen my resolve.

til next time...........TBB