The World of Communication
Topic: My guy is a phone guy
The Baron is a phone tech, and a darn good one at that...
i created this montage kind of as a tribute to the long hours and hard work he does every day, just trying to right by his customers...I'm just so lucky, with all he has going on in his life, that he does so much for me and my family as well...i've said it before and i'll say it again, i wish my kids had been so lucky to have a dad like him!
Baronette

The True Story of the Tammy song, and other lies....
Mood:  on fire
Now Playing: dead silence
Topic: random retorts
Random Retorts:

A few 'Random Retorts' from this weekend: I'm gonna go to bed in a few minutes, but had a few things I wanted to share. Several are worthy of a post in and of themselves, but a few retorts for now to get 'em out of my system, although I wonder if I can sleep, with all the bullshit I've just read!

* I don't think anyone should take potshots at her ex's family in public. To compare this behavior to a sporting competition - Foul.

* Caring and compassion are admirable qualities, but social misfits who don't really have real jobs or can even drive themselves to work do NOT make good dads.

* It is hard to think or feel positively about one's ex-husband. I know. BUT, the person who needs anger management counseling would be the person who turns everything good he does into something bad. FOUL again.

* Lying to children about their father is just plain wrong. Manipulating their thoughts and feelings for your own selfish purposes is evil, and the truth will come out in the end. Twisting things around so you get what you want may work in the short-term, but they will eventually find out the truth. PENALTY.

* When a little girl requests a song, out of love and loyality to her mom, and her dad humors her, there is nothing "freaky" about it. And trying to find amusement in it, to put someone you love at ease, is just plain sweet. Sometimes you go along with a 6 year old so she will feel happy and like all is right with the world. UNNECESSARY ROUGHNESS.


Let me just add, for the record, that a lot of what was written is UNREAL and UNTRUE! The Baron is one of the best dads in the world - he puts his girls first 24/7. The only issue that has come up in the 3 monthes I've been privileged to know him was him flying off the handle a little over his teen's internet safety! no more!

A very confused person wrote that he is putting his needs over his girls by wanting the current custody arrangement to continue! He just wants to be their dad! I wish my kids could be so lucky. He has freely admitted he was not a perfect parent when the marriage was intact, but when the going could have gotten rough, he got going - He CHANGED. My children's father ran away to California to play for almost 4 years and abandoned his children. I told 3 delightful young ladies how lucky they are to have BOTH of their parents loving them.
The truth will win out, and the bottom line is, no matter where those girls live, they have a fantastic dad who loves them..that's what they will remember.

The Baronette.

PS. I am "The Luckiest.Girl.In the World." - because I have the Baron.

A Fumation
Mood:  incredulous



I was going to make my next entry about something besides my ex but she's driven me to write about her again.

She made an entry to her blog today. It has stuff regarding my black sheep brother and my kids.

First off, she's taken liberal untruth at what she understands my brother did trying to get money from my mom in the nursing home. Like anything told to someone, the tale has become twisted to make it sound like he tried to get through a locked hallway and my aunt yelled at him to "get out". All untrue.

Secondly, she's taken a good intent to retain righteous and fair loving joint custody of my daughters, and twisted it into bad intent. She talks about how I think only of myself. If she had any more brain than the Oz scarecrow, she would know that it's important that both loving parents nurture their children. Instead she thinks that she should help encourage my kids not to want to see me on a slightest provocation. She claims I have anger problems. Another adult was here when the sole incident in the last few months happened, and it was to GUARD the girls against internet predators. I don't think I was imprudent. We both agreed I may have been a bit upset but nothing like my ex claims.

The final straw is that she is bold face lying and has manipulated me to bolster keeping her daughters selfishly to herself. I was warned about what she might do but now the she has vindicated her evil ways.

She told me before my girls came back last time that THEY DID NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT CUSTODY. In respect for my daughters, I chose not to talk about the custody. Lo and behold on my ex's blog today she says I must not care about them because I didn't talk to them about the issue of the custody.

Folks, she bold face lied to me. She manipulated and has spun the situation against me.

I'm now taking all the evidence I have to a lawyer to mount a super fight. This has gone far enough. Slander and lies from the most vain one. The mean spin mistress.

Worse off, she's dragged the baronette into it. She says the baronette sang the song "Tammy" with me when the kids were in the car. I played and sang this song ALONE for my 6 year old who requested the song be played.


Do you guys wonder why I make the sign of the cross why I think of the ex.

More to come,
The Blue Baron

Thoughts for the Day
Now Playing: Jaws. on TV
Topic: Oh Well
Hello Friends,

It's been a great day. I took my daughters to a large outdoors store, Bass Pro Shop. The store is very extravagant with lots of neat things to look at. We had a great time. We bought quite a bit of stuff.

I got my federal tax return back. I feel happiest when I share with the good people in my life. I'm only spending a little of it though. I'm prepping for some court stuff coming up.

I read books to my youngest, Amy, each night before she goes to bed. After that she would call her mom and tell her goodnight. This happened too when Amy was at her mom's, and she called me. As of late Amy doesn't want to call much anymore. I try to get her to call but she says no. The sad part is I can expect she most likely won't be calling me much when at her mom's. The good I guess in this is that I don't have to talk to the ex much. I talked to her a few moments tonight for the 1st. time in 3 days and she still got me a little ticked. Sigh.

Tomorrow we will go bowling with the Baronette and her kids. It sounds like fun. Her daughter and my oldest daughters will most likely start emailing each other. Sounds nice.

Aha, the phone is ringing. I bet it's the Baronette. Time to hop off and talk to my favorite lady.

I'll talk to you blog readers later,
TBB

Slip Slidin' Away
Mood:  chillin'
Now Playing: Timbuk 3. The Future so Bright I gotta' wear Shades
Hello Friends, Happy Valentine's Day

Things are good these days. The Baronette ( Jodi ), came over Sunday and met my girls. We had a super nice time. She is so in tune with kids. She has lots of practice. She has 4 great kids of her own.
We listened to music, talked subjects, ate dinner together, talked about school, and other things.
Amy, my 6 year old especially liked Jodi. The practiced gymnastic style stuff and played. Amy gushed over Jodi, trying to constantly bring new things for Jodi to experience. Amy got her hair done up in braids.
Now more than ever I look forward to a lot of experiences yet to come. My mind reals with the possibilities.

The ex still looms. I'm trying to be a better more patient dad these days. I hope the daughters will see this and elect to tell their mom they want to keep the existing custody situation. The girls are doing better in school it seems. I took them out to eat Saturday night, and Sunday we went roller skating.

I wish the ex's hardshell un-candy like coating cracks and she comes to understand that a dad can never be the same role model to his daughters as the mom is. Men are from mars...yadda,yadda,yadda.
The girls know they can call their mom anytime to talk girl things. The ex seems to believe I should be like a woman and replace her when the girls are with me. She tells me "I just don't get it". I think this statement is ironic coming from her.

I'm girding for the fight, strengthening my battlements. My coffers are full. I won't fall easy. It's a shame we can't come to terms.

That's it for now. I've got to get some sleep. I'll talk at cha' later,

The Blue Baron

Good with the Bad
Mood:  not sure
Now Playing: Norah Jones House of Blues
I'm a little somber these days. The ex is circling over my head with threats of limiting the joint shared custody of my sweet daughters. She acts like she holds the high cards in the deck of children's love. She says things like "They will always love you" and other little ditties that ring of her holding the upper hand. It seems like a Dr.Seuss Xmas tale where her heart oughta grow 3 sizes. If she had the heart she wouldn't be so flippant and instead say things like, "I'll help you find the magic bullet to help see that they have there dad's company as much as I want mine".

So for now I'm securing a good counselor who I hope can poignantly throttle the righteous judge (if it gets that far) into the non sensibility of my ex's odd logic.

On the positive side, Jodi (the Baronette), is a source of joyful consistency that helps me through these times. I have good support from my friend Nancy (Artemis), too.

My company has secured a big cabling job from a very large shipping company. This holds the promise of keeping me busy working a 2nd. shift soon. I can use all the cash flow I can get. We at the company are happy things are going well. Now I have to dust off my hard hat and work boots.

The Baronette and I will see each other tomorrow and have a nice date scheduled for Friday. We still act a little like sophomores. We say things to each other than read into these things, nuances that weren't there in the first place.

I still tell you friends, she's a keeper and a lighthouse in my life.

That's it for now. Take care. More to come later.






A tense Blue Baron

I heard it from the Ex
Mood:  d'oh
Now Playing: ZZ Top Fandango
Hello There,

I've been viewing the ex's blog. She thinks I read hers and I wouldn't doubt she reads mine. We both have no reservations in anything we say or do.

On her last blog she mused about what would happen if she had multiple self entities which continued independently on different paths. In other words, if she stayed in college, if she stayed in the state where she was born, etc.

In 1 of these personas she wrote about what if she remained married to me. She says she would still be doing all the housework and child rearing and I would be smoking the evil weed and providing no help.

Jodi, (the Baronette), pointed out to me how if the ex was in a football game, she would be penalized for unnecessary roughness.

I easily admit that I smoked that bad stuff a long time. It makes you lethargic and erases responsibility from your mind. I deeply regret I didn't stop a lot sooner than I did. I worked hard each day and wanted to relax when I got home. Don't ever start puffing it. It may eat you up.

Most of my married life my ex's jobs were spent flying a desk and never got out of the office much. I would work hard physically. Pulling cables, running around a lot. I enjoyed the relaxing feeling I got from the puff stuff. Up until the final few years of our marriage the ex enjoyed the stuff too. To listen to her you would think she never imbibed. It did weaken our finances but several times when she complained about the budget, I got a raise or skipped to a new job. By the time our marriage was over, I had doubled my original wage.

Listen here, I'm for sure not defending weed smoking at all. Just setting things straight.

What you won't read in my ex's blog, is that after she was gone, I quit smoking immediately. The truth is that she annoyed me so much that becoming "medicated" was my escape from her passive/aggressive attitude. She felt she was ALWAYS right. She was a spin doctor and was good at arguing her point. She wasn't often right, just good at arguing. She was overbearing. She still ALWAYS thinks she's right.

In the end I couldn't find myself sucking up to her to keep the marriage. I even made silly promises I knew I couldn't keep. I wanted to save the marriage for the kids alone. I read a lot about how parents divided faired poorly on raising kids. The ex would have only stayed around if I had made up immediately and comprehensively for all my supposed wrongs. By this time she had so much wore me down with her attitude there could have been no going back.

I was sad for a while but rebounded in short order. I feel very good about myself now. I'm proud of my life. Had I known then what I know now I'd have jumped right out of the marriage with both feet running.

When we split our possesions I admit I told her I would rather sell the house than let her have it. In the end she was gracious in not insisting we sell the things that she couldn't put in the apartment where she was moving. She let me buy her out on the house. I make more money than she does.

She wanted to remain friends and it felt like she was "buying" a guarantee of the friendship by not attempting to force me to sell things. She had the doc move in with her. This social misfit excuse of a man had said terrible things about me on his blog. She defended his written abuse of me while we were still married. This halted any friendship we could have had.

Ok, that's it I just wanted to tell my side of the "better off" me.


I had a nice day. I was with the Baronette for a lot of it. She's a great lady. Tomorrow I go to a birthday and meet most of her family. I'm looking forward to it. Tomorrow night she and her kids are coming to my house for a Super Bowl get together. It promises to be very nice.

I will be writing again soon. I hope all my readers are having happy and wonderful lives. May the sun shine down on you every day.

The Blue Baron

Great Things a Happenin'
Mood:  happy
Hi Everyone,

I want to show you this picture of this great lady I've come to know.
















This is Jodi

I can't say enough about how happy she's made me, and apparently she's pretty happy with me.

Did you ever think the Baron would ever settle down with someone again? After the troublesome ex problems and the long time we were married, I thought I'd never fix myself to anyone again.

She's wrapped herself into my life and mine to hers. She's a keeper. She's smart, responsible, pretty, caring, and she's a great mother to 4 wonderful kids. As a single dad, I can attest to her greatness.

Alright, alright. Am I getting to gushy? Hey, I'm still the Blue Baron so watch out.

The twisted ex has been causing trouble again. I got on my oldest teenage daughter for attempting to hide her internet activities from me. Maybe I was a little heavy handed but now she's dis-enchanted and her mom says she doesn't want to come back every other 2 weeks. To make matters worse, her mom is backing her and threatens to re-structure the divorce agreement by taking me to court to change the joint shared custody. Everyone I talk to agrees she's out of line and our child raising cooperative has broken down.

Friends, I love my girls and couldn't bear to not be with them as much as I can. They are number 1 in my life (yes #1). I hope the odd ex looks at the big picture instead of the selfish do what her daughter wants picture.

The same daughter Tina, is very talented in drawing and I mean to talk to her about a school project where I understand her drawing is selected for show. My youngest Amy told me about it but I didn't get the chance to talk to Tina tonight. Of course all the daughters are great.

Oh, and by the way, Jodi's daughter Rachel, tied for 1st in a talent show's music competition. She came in 2nd. overall. Yay for her.

That's it for now guys. Take care, drop me a line.

TBB

The great, the not so good
Mood:  a-ok
Now Playing: Jeff Beck, Blow by Blow
Hi Everyone,

Work is picking back up. The holiday lull is over. I have so much going on I can pick and choose what I do. People are asking me to do side work as well. Now time is my most precious commodity.

I saw the ex last night (had to). She occasionally has a little salt to rub in the situation. She reminded me how I got to have 2 of my 3 kids as tax dependents this year. We alternate every other year on this. She had to make a point of how she did me a favor. "I did let you go 1st". I don't think I should act gracious here. Everytime she talks like this I still cringe inside a bit, bite my lip and move on. Thankfully I fast found the better life of being without her.

Speaking of the better life, I have to tell you I'm really infatuated with a fine lady right now. Her name is Jodi. I anticipate things will develop into something great. Her and my schedules and our watching our respective children prevents us from seeing each other much. I think though we'll find ways to see each other briefly now and then. Over time if things continue like they are we will work it out. Good things are worth waiting for. More to come later on.

No pictures today, just text. I will type at cha' later.

The Blue Baron

How to read people. Chapter 1
Mood:  incredulous
Now Playing: Steely Dan, Can't buy a thrill
Hi everyone,

I do phone work and have done so for the past 18 years. I work in the private sector. I work for 2 brothers whose initials are CK and PK. The name my bud and I have given them is cute kitty and pretty kitty.
Cute exemplifies the worst attitude a boss could have. He's 1 of those "stop everything for me, I am your lighthouse and mentor, all I do is gold" type fellas. He has no bones about how he often shows disrespect to others yet wants respect himself. These guys never learn. Even the most righteous, dutiful jerks gain no respect and the opposite of respect is contempt. I treat him flippantly.
Pretty is fastidious and watches his dollar. He puts in a lot of extra hours. He sometime can be annoying. I work better with him because he is a phone guy where Cute is a cable guy.
Now the office girl is getting an attitude. As of late any of these 3 guys can imagine what they want done for the day and not tell the other 2. 2 of these act as though when they issue a job, or too many jobs, I just have to squeeze it in. I can't tell them enough that work is linear and it stops at 5. The jobs role until another time. That's the way it goes.
One day soon they will learn to coordinate and settle down. They all want their own personal agendas completed. I guess I'll have to pull them in the conference room and make them play rock, paper, scissors to see who wins for the day.

Enough of the stuff,
C'ya,
The Blue Baron