Mood:
brightTopic: Oh Well
Sigh, another holiday comes around. This time each year I hope the ex will make an effort to get past her bitter attitude. I hope she might accept working things out between us.
At last check, the ex was saying freedom of speech is more important than trying to get along like adults. She is the only grown up I know who doesn’t act like an adult when reasoned with. There are more issues between us than just the bad things she writes.
At one point I got the feeling that the ex thought I might see what she perceived as the error of my ways. No chance, time doesn’t make things better for anyone. With no communication the whole thing froze. If anything it is so bad now it may never be fixed.
Sadly, the ex in her twisted logic, influenced her older daughters to come to believe the ex is correct in her assertions.
The ex has shown my older daughters it’s okay to blow someone off. The ex has taught them that standing up for saying something bad about someone is better than the saying “if you can’t say something nice about someone, don’t say anything”. Some life lesson huh. Even more so, it’s about their dad.
I have never pulled back my offer to work together to lay issues between my ex and I to rest. If tomorrow she snapped over to goodness I would still accept fair mediation to fix things between us.
The ex and I aren’t friends for sure. The ex would say that it’s me not being friends with her that is damage to our kids. The ex isn’t qualified to judge here. She broke up the family claiming the best thing was not to let her daughters see her not happy. The ex has views for sure.
For the sake of our daughters and righteousness I hope the ex sees the bright side of getting along instead of the don’t let your guard down attitude she has.
To her credit, things have been a lot less dramatic in my life since I unfriended the ex. I think all 3 daughters are acutely aware of their mom’s stubborn ways. I will continue to observe my freedom of speech by making my choice not to be friends.