If not NOW, when??
You say that you are just going to lose some more and then you will stop.
You say that this will be the last time your overeat.
You say this is the last day you spend most of your time over the toilet.
And you try to convince yourself that this is the last time you will say "no thanks" when people is offering you some food. That this is the last time you restrict...
But is it your last time?
To recover you have to take a chance. You have to just jump into it... You must say to yourself..."okey I will give it a try.. Today I won't purge. I won't overeat. I won't restrict.. I will try it only for today and if I don't like it, well then I can go back to the ed tomorrow... But on the other hand.. Maybe life without the ed can look interresting and exciting and I want to give it a try for one more day... Anyway I will do it today..."
It is hard and it is scary.. You maybe think that it is impossible to live without an ed.. But friend, with the ed you are not living.. You are only existing.. And why just exist when you can LIVE ?
I would say that it is worth a try.. After
fifty-two days of no purging, I will never ever go back there.. I won't pay that high price for such low living...
Give it a try.. You may be surpriced when you see what you are missing living with an ed.. It can be hard to see what kind of life you havnt' had because of the ed.. It won't be easy, but I believe it is worth it..
To me taking a step on the recovery-road has been like being born again. I see the world with new eyes. I am so excited. It is so fun and magic to be alive.. It is so wonderful to live I have hard days, and it takes so much of me to fight against the ed-voices. But it is so wonderful to feel, to cry, to smile, to dance and to LIVE...
You are worth it...
Give it a try..
Do it for YOU
Nobody can make you recover.. People can support you, give you advices, but they can’t fight the battle for you
No matter how little you weigh, you will never be saticfied, because it really isn’t about weight.. It is about feelings and needs.. When you figure out what you really need and what you long for, and do something with it, the weight won’t matter so much any more..
You will never be happy if you look for happiness in things around you. Happiness is something you have inside.. True happiness is when soul, mind and body are one.. When you listen to your needs, both your heart’s needs and your body’s needs..
People loves you. You may not believe it, because you find hard to love yourself. But if you are willing to take the chance and believe that they love you, you might be surprised what you have missed while living under the lies of the ed..
You think that one meal will make you fat, that it will make you gain a lot.. Okey, think about it.. If that was true, then the rest of the populations that eats normal would have been so fat. And they are not.. They eats four, five or maybe many more times a day, and still they don’t look like elephants... Do you really believe that your body is different from everybody else’s....
You have the choice to have fun, to be happy and to smile to yourself in the mirror. You can choose to love yourself... Then why on earth do you choice to be miserable, to hate yourself and to waste away your life.. It is about choosing..
You are a fishy.. You are spesial. You are unique.. There is no fishy like you. Every one is different from the others. Everyone have their own talents, their own way to react, to think, to speak, to write, to smile.. Nobody is like you. You are a piece of a big puzzle called human kind.. You are a fishy , and without you the bowl won’t be whole.. You makes a difference. You count.. You are worthy.. You are UNIQUE.. You are spesial.. You are loved
How to fight the urges to purge
I got a question from Quarry today, how I manage to fight the urges to purge…
Well, in a way you can say that I was lucky when I was unlucky..
I had an seizure this summer when I stopped breathing. I was unconcious for a while and can’t remember anything from the hours after it.. Anyway, they never found the reason why I had this seizure, and had to conclude it to that it might have been cause by my eating disorder.
That made me scared.. That my eating disorder actually can make me stop breathing. I thought that was something that happened to others, but not to me. I thought it could’t happen to me. But I learned my lesson.. An eating disorder takes life. You never know when you might stand there knocking on death’s door.. It could happen to you, and it could happen to me...
Well, it was an eye-opener to me, and I just had to stopped purging, because I got the seizure right after I had purges... So I was afraid that it might happen again if I do purge.. I can’t take that risk...
But... I have been SO close to lock the door to the bathroom and do it, many times.. The urges have been so strong, and I have cried my bitter tears. I have been so afraid, so frustrated, so helpless.. But there has been things that have helped me...
When you have eaten and feel full, it helps laying down on your stomach on the floor.. It might sound weird and not smart, but it helps feeling the floor connected to your stomach...
Put on some loud music and move to it. Dance... It keeps you busy.. And before you know it, the urges weaken...
Go outside for a walk, to a place where you have no options to purge..
Call a friend
Sit down and write down your feelings, why you want to purge, what you are scared of.. Then imagine what a therapist or a person that loved you would have told you in respons to this feelings... Try to calm yourself down in this way...
If you binge, try to put up poster around you with “everything in moderation”. It is okey to eat. You can eat whatever you want, but in moderation.. There will be time for food again later, so you don’t have to eat food for the next couple of days in one meal..
I wish I had more godo advices how to fight the urges to purge, but I can’t come up with anything now.. I know how hard it is.. I really do.. The first weeks after the seizure was like a living hell (excuse my hard words), I never thought I would make it, but after a while it gets easier. When you have made it through week one and two, it seems interessting to try to make it through another week.. And then I had got a new goal, and this time it wasn’t about weight, it was about how many weeks I could make it through.. And along the road I have started to give myself small presents.. I give myself a little thing for every week I make it through...
I believe in all of you.
You can do it. You CAN! You have got the strenght inside of you.
Every journey, starts with a singel step. Take that step today.. Don’t say you will start tomorrow, because when tomorrow comes you will probably push it before you again.. If you want something to happen, do something with it NOW!
I believe in you
©Shinyflower
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