This chapter is the English translation of Gujarati Book Title - Sadhak and Sathi Author - Shri Atmanandji (Dr. Soneji) CHAPTER 11 RESTRAINT OF WANTONNESS (SWACHHANDA-NIRODHA) The general meaning of wantonness is self-willed and uncontrolled behavior. It is only when one follows in day-to-day life the sublime instructions of the highly virtuous and enlightened saint or preceptor that one can control this wantonness. Thus by controlling this wantonness, one is drawn to the propitious path. In general, the human mind has a downward inclination. From the beginning of the time, the human soul is habituated to be a slave under the five senses and mind. The soul is attached to the mind, senses, and evil company that it has absolutely no idea of the utter loss of its independence. However we are extremely lucky, that with the grace of pious and learned saint, we can defeat this wantonness with great effort and diligence. This will lead the soul to understand its own bliss. PRACTICE OF CONTROL OF WANTONNESS For properly controlling wantonness, two things are required; Right Knowledge and Right Preaching. Let us question ourselves: Can we be really happy by wanton behavior? Or is wantonness the real means to be happy? Thinking even from the social point of view, good social order and peace cannot be established by fostering wantonness. The whole society would suffer from anarchy, distress, disquiet, and chaos, if it fails to adopt certain good and moral rules of conduct and a righteous way of life. One should, under the circumstances, think of the likely consequences of such conduct at the individual level as well. Thinking from the spiritual point of view, we should concede that what is right at the family and social level, this is also true at the individual level. No individual would be happy by becoming slave of his mind, five senses, and behaving in a wanton manner. Considering from any viewpoint, one who behaves unrighteously is unhappy, his mind is restless and his personality bewildered, frightened, and dissatisfied. We should therefore be convinced that happiness and peace cannot be attained by wanton behavior. Once we are convinced that wantonness is the root of all sufferings, it becomes necessary to consider the ways and means through which it can be controlled. For this, our conduct should be guided by the right type of discrimination. Let us follow the sublime and just teachings of those great saints of ancient and modern times who have acquired genuine happiness and peace. Let us associate ourselves with them, wherever possible. Slowly but surely this brings about the developmental and sublimating change in our life, so that several good virtues become manifest in us. Once this is achieved, true faith and true awakening of the self become firmly accomplished. With this, wantonness starts vanishing. Thus the control of wantonness is accomplished with ease. OBSTACLES IN THE CONTROL OF WANTONNESS: When a person thinks, "I am great, I am learned, no one is equal of me," and so on, he will not be able to progress spiritually in his life. Because such thinking results from false pride and lurk in his life. Success is possible only if one becomes impartial and patiently ponders over the problem. Then one will realize that in all walks of life, far greater persons have been born than himself. This will dissipate his pride of family, knowledge, worship, fame, body, handsomeness, wealth, youth and various similar achievements. Thus one develops humility, a spirit of adoption of virtues, and a compassionate heart. Now wantonness will leave him. Once one abandons the path of wantonness, all vices start disappearing from within in a short time and with the rise of so many virtues, one can win supreme happiness. Therefore, it is said, "To follow the preachings of the great and pious saints is the real religion (Dharma), and it is the real austerity (Tapas)." GLORY OF CONTROL OF WANTONNESS: 1. "Man can surely win liberation by controlling wantonness. Thus, salvation has been achieved by endless endeavors." So said the sacred Jain Tirthankaras. 2. The progress in the path of salvation is directly in proportion to the degree of suppression of wantonness. 3. If a person is led away by the uncontrolled five senses and mind, he will suffer from diseases, poverty, and dishonor in this life, and the pains of low birth, such as animal, bird, hell, and vegetables, in the life hereafter. 4. Let a person follow to the preachings of a noble preceptor to enhance his fitness to be firmly established on the path of liberation. 5. To abandon bad habits, to take no interest in useless and trivial matters, to give up bad deeds with conscious efforts, to keep the mind engaged in feelings, speech, and deeds that will make life rich, noble, and pure - all these are practical ways and means of avoiding wantonness. Thus one attains purity as well as sublimity in life. 6. A person always falls prey to wantonness, if he behaves in such a way as to scoff at the sublime teachings and commandments of the preceptor, and not being afraid of mundane worldly existence. Every command of the wise is conducive to a multifaceted personality. Let a person not, therefore, ponder over the high and low of it, or quarrel with insistence about it. Wantonness is healed only if one realizes that every command of the wise is blissful. If wantonness is healed, the soul (person) attains to bliss. LIVING EXAMPLES OF CONTROL OF WANTONNESS: (1) Shrimad Rajchandra had written his personal diary and gave it to his disciple monk Shri Lalluji to copy down some useful part of it. Shri Lalluji copied that part plus a few other parts which he found useful. He had thought of obtaining the permission for the other parts in the morning because his vows as a monk did not permit him to go out at night to see Shrimad Rajchandra. Next morning, Shri Lalluji placed all the copied pages and diary before Shrimad Rajchandra and said, "As it was night, I could not come to get your permission. I have copied from the diary a few more pages than you permitted." Shrimad Rajchandra kept his diary and all the copied pages in his own custody. He gave nothing back to Shri Lalluji. Lalluji repented of it and narrated everything before Ambalalhbai, a householder pupil of Shrimad Rajchandra. He too scolded him for copying extra pages without permission. Shri Lalluji requested Shrimad Rajchandra again through Ambalalbhai to return him the copied pages. He then hand over to Lalluji all that he had copied. This was one of the ways in which Shrimad Rajchandra revealed the glory of control of wantonness and preached again and again to resort to self control (Atma-Sadhana) under the orders of the preceptor. (2) Bhudeva Mukhopadhyaya was a great man of the state of Bengal, India during the last century. He was a great scholar who specialized in philosophy and logic. He was a strict disciplinarian and he had brought up his family with the traditional cultural way of life. He had a grandson named Somadeva. Somadeva was seven years old at the time. Once both were travelling together to Calcutta, they were at the Hoogli railway station. The grand father asked the son to sit on a bench on the platform and said, "Be seated until I come. Do not get up." The father was busy arranging about the luggage. The train arrived and all the passengers took their seats in the train. The grand father suddenly remembered Somadeva. There he was, seated on the bench while his eyes were searching for his grand father. Immediately the father ran and lifted him into the train. Then he asked, "Well, dear boy, why did you not come on your own to sit in the train?" Somadeva replied, "Under your orders, I sat there. How could I get up before you came?" All hearts were elated by the boy's firmness in obeying orders. (3) George Washington, the first President of the USA was renowned for regularity and discipline in his life. He was firm and insistent on accomplishing a fixed amount of work in a fixed amount of time. Once he had arranged a party at his house to welcome the newly elected members of the American Congress. The members arrived late and Washington started on his dinner! When the members arrived, they were amazed by it. Then Washington said, "Well friends, I am so sorry, but my butler serves my dinner at a fixed time because he knows that his master takes his meals at a fixed hour." With this, Washington continued with his dinner and all the members joined him.