Introduction: Meeting people 

You may already know people, you may already have partners and relationships. But, they may not be those that you want. They may not be who you want to be with. You’re settling for what you can get. You have had experiences where you’ve seen people that you desired to meet or talk to. Something happened that prevented you from making contact, some fear you have or whatever. Even if you did try to talk to them you wouldn’t know what to say or do. You probably have tried to do something like that in the past, but you failed. So, you give up and stay out of it. The reason is because you have never been taught how to interact with others. You have been left in the dark about this, until now. 

Part I. How to deal with the obstacles that prevent you from meeting others 

Finding your true self, Well that’s easy. You just got to close your eyes, block out all the noise, and just clear your head, take some deep breaths, it will come to you. You’ll know what you want, you will know who you are. That’s when it leads to finding your inner strength. Finding your inner strength is not like lifting weights, it's not about that, it’s something from within. It’s like knowing you can do something, it's confidence, you got to build your confidence. How do you do that? Well, once you know who you really are and what you really want, confidence come easy, kid. 

          Inner strength, well that’s easy, you just got stand up for yourself. You can’t let people push you around. You can’t let people tell you who you are and what to do. You got to be your own person. You got to stand up and make the move. Once you start making the move your inner strength will come, it will come out like a raging lion. 

          Networking, that’s when you start making the hook ups with people. What does networking mean, you hear that all the time, you got to network. Business people like to use it a lot. Well, that’s what you have got to do, you have to make a business out of meeting people. So, you got to network. You have got to move around you have to go to new places, places you have never been before. Don’t go to the same bars weekend after weekend, go to different ones. Check out the locale, scope out your place. You’re living in a city there’s all kinds of places you don’t even know about all kinds of people. If you’re living in a small town, then you go to the next town, or of course, you can use the Internet, it works to. But even then you are still going to have to eventually meet someone face to face. So, you are still going to have to know how to be cool. That’s what networking is all about, learning how to be cool, learning the social things, knowing what to do and what not to do. 

Part II. How to become romantically involved with another person 

          So how do you know what to do when you’re around other people? What do you say? This is when your body connection comes in, you got to move your body. It’s all in the way you present yourself. You just don’t walk up to some body, you walk up to them like you mean business. You got something to say to them. You get their attention. You make the move. You make eye contact. You let them see who you are. So, when you go to talk to them, you feel more at ease, because you have already made a connection to them. You are ready to speak to them, just ease into the conversation. 

          Then, after the body, you get the mind connection. You start making that mental connection. You’re looking at a chick, you make eye contact, you know when it happens. That mental connection is made. She wants you, you want her. It may just be for a drink, it may be for a night drive, it may be for more. That comes later. First you have got to make the body and then the mind. Once you have made that mental connection, well, then you’ve really started. Now, you’re entering into the good stuff. This is where you’re going to get your five bucks worth. 

          So, maybe you will be in a situation where you are talking to somebody. You are at that awkward moment where you don’t know what to say. You have all of these thoughts going through your head. You want to flee, and get away. This is when you have to stand your ground. You have got to be cool, take a deep breath and step outside of yourself for a second and ask, "what am I doing here?" Ask yourself, what can I say to make myself more appealing to this person. Ask, "am I really being who I am or am I putting on a front?" 

          You have got to be real. You have to be yourself, that is what it all comes down to. If they don’t like it, oh well, heck with them, you go on to the next person that’s the thing, no big loss. There are plenty of fish in the sea. You have got to be tough. But, more than likely if you have made that mental connection you are going to make the spiritual connection. You wouldn’t have made the mental connection in the first place if you didn’t have something in common with that person. Don’t worry you will be fine. 

Part III. Talking to others 

So, you are looking down on the list and you are looking at body language. What does body language have to do with talking to others? It is not just about moving your body; it’s how you use your body. Maybe you are skinny and you are not happy with your body. You don’t want people looking at you because you are shy about it, or maybe you are overweight. But, it is not about being the ideal it is about using your body however it works for you. Because, if you are comfortable then they are going to be comfortable that is the secret. You have got to be comfortable with yourself. That makes other people comfortable. This is how you really meet people, because people have got to be comfortable around you, and that is what your body language lets people know. Hey, it’s comfortable to be around me. This leads into going with the flow.  

You just go with the flow, you just let it happen just relax and whatever happens, happens. It isn’t going to matter. That is the real secret, right there. That leads into getting relationships. Taking it easy, having some nice conversation, you might be having a drink, you might be at work. Wherever you happen to be, that’s the place to be, because that is where you are. If you are the place to be, than that is where they are going to want to be. 

Part IV. Relationships 

          Ok, here we go, sex. You are in a relationship. You have gone out on a couple of dates; you have each others phone numbers. Your friends, so, this is where you have to decide if you are going to take the next step or not. This has got to be mutual. You both have to want to do it. You will know, because you are going to have that mental connection, spiritual connection, body language and going with the flow that we have talked about, if you are meant to have sex, then you will have sex. If both of you want it, then it is going to happen naturally, and that is what you have got to look for. That’s the best anyway. It’s got to be natural kid, remember that. That’s the best sex you will ever have. This is when you find love. Love is a higher form, a higher emotion. 

          This is what it is all about, love. This is what you are looking for, right?  This is why you got the book. Well, maybe the sex too. Sometimes sex doesn’t lead to love, and if that is all you are after, then that is where it ends for you. You have the sex it is beautiful, it’s a great experience and you move on. Or, you go on to the next phase and that is love. You really want to stay with this person. You like this person and they like you. Well hey, you stick together and form a bond. That’s all love is. Everybody has a bond. It may be with an inanimate object, but more than likely you are going to want it with another person, because you are human after all. So then you find out if you are soul mates. Well, that’s just an extra bonus. Soul mates is an out there spiritual kind of thing.    

Let your spiritual voice guide you. It will tell you want you need to know. Listen to yourself. Learn to listen, to yourself and others, and more importantly to your inner voice....