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CHER CALDWELL - POST ADOPTION SPECIALIST
This site is a non profit site owned and operated by Cher Caldwell.
There are no fees for any services used. However, we do accept donations to help with expenses, but you are not
obligated to donate in any way. Cher Caldwell has been known to do many searches for free. Cher Caldwell has been
reuniting families for over 15 years. She has been featured in many newspaper articles and as well on the Talk Show
known as The Greg Behrendt Show. To contact Cher Caldwell, her email address is chercaldwell@yahoo.com or you can
locate her on www.myspace.com/chercaldwell
If you are in need of Help in any area of your Search or are just looking for support, please feel free to fax us your information at 734-758-3155 or email C.A.S.R.
Searching is another way that adoptees and birth parents cope. Searching can take a number of routes: using support
groups; hiring an investigator or search consultant; reading literature; surfing the Internet; contacting agencies
or Attorneys' offices; or hunting down clues yourself.
If you do search, your goal should be for the truth. You must be willing to face whatever you might find out,
even if it's the death of your birthchild or birthparent. The information you learn may be painful; however, peace
of mind mostlikely will come with the pain. If you search for your birthchild or birthparent only to find that he
or she won't take your calls, answer your letters, or send a photograph, at least you tried. Others before you have
found that the process still helped them set aside their fantasies and accept their current life situation with a
more positive attitude.
While you may want to take other people's feelings into consideration when deciding to search, your own feelings
are also important. One route to take, short of an all-out search, is to register with voluntary registries for
birth parents and adult adoptees.
Most people take for granted the fact that they have access to their genetic and medical information. For those
who were adopted, however, it is very difficult to obtain updated medical information unless birth parents have
updated their file.
Nonetheless, adoptees thinking about searching hear many voices. One voice tells them not to open Pandora's
box"they may be devastated by what they find. Perhaps they will experience rejection or find a birth parent who
needs emotional or financial support they are not prepared to give. What about the rights of the birthmother who
may have carved out a life for herself and does not want the intrusion? Adoptees must also consider their adoptive
parents and the grief that a search may bring them. Adoptive parents may feel unloved, unappreciated, and hurt by
their child's need to find his or her "real" parents.
Here at C.A.S.R. we are here to give support with Adoption Issues. We are also here if you are looking for
experienced Triad Members to help assist you in your search, whether it be advice, Support, Search Information, or
If you are in need of Help in any area of your Search or are just looking for support, please feel free to fax us your information at 734-758-3155 or email C.A.S.R..
Another person that we highly recommend in obtaining a California birth name or adoptive name is Jan. Jan can be
contacted at jndiego@aol.com
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