The institution of marriage is under attack today from the left, especially the feminist

wing, and because of this, it seems to me that it is necessary to look at some of the

ways we can strengthen it. Therefore, I offer what are in my humble opinion, some solutions to the problems.

First of all, there has to be commitment to the marriage, as opposed to commitment to oneself. By this I mean that we must learn to put the interests of our spouse ahead of our own interests. As the Bible says in Philippians 2 : verse 3, "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself".

As we begin to consider the other persons needs, we will begin to find fulfillment in the marriage, and there will be no desire to go off looking for fulfillment elsewhere. Here are some basic principles which will definitely help :

1. Listen to your mate.Pay attention to what he or she has to say.

2. Realize that your mate is your best friend. Talk out your problems with each other, instead of taking them to people outside the marriage.

3. Don't form close relationships with business acquaintances. Especially those of the opposite sex. Don't share personal information. Beware of forming close emotional bonds.

4. Develop a friendship with a person of the same sex. Make yourself accountable to him or her. Allow him or her to challenge your actions. Above all though, remember thatyour closest relationship should be that with your spouse.

5. Finally, and probably most importantly, maintain a close, intimate relationship with God. Be obedient to Him. Memorize Ephesians 5 : verses 22 and 25 as applicable, and practice the principles of love as outlined in 1 Corinthians 13.

In closing, I would like to point out that I have been married for 47 years to the same Lady, we have raised six children, and are currently raising two grandchildren, and that we have a peaceful and contented marriage.