I really don't understand the whole situation at hand, and instead of ranting and raving about how she's with him all the time, which were my initial intentions, I decided to look at it from a more intelligent point of view. I decided that it is only natural for us to envy those in a position which we ourselves covet. However, it is a near impossible task to control what feelings take precedent of us. Famous pop superstar or not, JC has made his personality accessible through the media and when one latches onto a specific characteristic of him, well, it's difficult to see him galavanting around the world with his "significant other". With that said, and despite my consuming infatuation with him, I can't help but feel betrayed by the constant lying and hypocracy displayed by not only JC, but from the rest of the guys as well. How many times have the guys been asked personal questions such as the often unavoidable "Do you have a girlfriend?"? More than enough, and each reply seems to replicate the one before. "No girlfriend here!" "Nope, I'm still feeling people out." "Britney and I are just friends." "We travel too much to be serious." and MY personal favorite.."It's not, like, serious or anything. People think everything is so serious. Dating is just dating. It doesn't have to be serious all the time." Thanks, JC. You have all but put in concrete my belief that not only has your fashion sense gone to hell in a handbasket, you also lie through your cute little teeth. Maybe I'm disillusioned towards the whole "rich and famous popstar" gig, but money and fame be damned, I sure as hell wouldn't let the girl I wasn't serious dating tag along for more than a year to numerous destinations scattered throughout the globe. Not serious? I'll put my money on that. She's been with him in Hawaii, France, Cabo San Lucas, the Bahamas, Japan (I believe) and stays with him through the entirity of their tours. Puh-lease! I'm a smart girl and I can figure out a whopper when I smell one, and this one stinks up the place.
Okay, not that we've got the lying out of the way, let's procede to my next point: hypocracy. Ah, this one strikes a cord in me. You say one thing, you do the exact opposite, evident of well...Bobbie. Now I cannot say that I know the girl from personal experience, but there have been enough stories and occurences with her out and around the grapevine to let me form an opinion. And here, like it or not is my interpretation of the girl we just love to hate.
JC wants a someone intelligent. Sure, people have said that "Bobbie goes to school and is in grad school and used to counsel rape victims." As much as I'd like to believe that, I don't buy it. Firstly, how does one go from a job so helpful, like counseling rape victims, to writing for a cheesy teenie bop magazine, giving less than stellar advice, doing interviews with people only linked with *NSYNC, reporting for a tabloid show on, what else, BOYBANDS (gee, how original. Wonder how she got material for this one)and, most recently, reporting on the best vacations spots in the world i.e. "Wild on..." on E!. Something doesn't add up here on this one. Secondly, I would think a "grad student" would take a little more pride in her education. Maybe perhaps, going to class? That's just a shot in the dark, but I believe that hearing a lecture from a professor will help you get your masters a lot easier that schmoozing with the rich and famous with your boyfriend.
JC wants someone stable to ground him. Seeing as Bobbie leads the exact same life as JC, I really don't see any stability coming from her.
JC wants to have someone with a separate life so that conversations are interesting. Hmmm...referring back to the previous point, Bobbie leads the exact same life as JC. "So, what did you do today?" "Well, I woke up, took a shower, went to sound check, went to the concert, made my appearance at the hotel, got on the bus and departed for our next stop." "Hey, ME TOO!" End of conversation. How stimulating.
JC doesn't want a cling-on. Again, referring back the to previous point, Bobbie leads the exact same life as JC.
JC "justs wants somebody normal". "Normal" in my book doesn't qualify as somebody who ditches class to be with her boyfriend 24/7, nor somebody who gets jobs from her boyfriend, nor somebody who actually TAKES the jobs her boyfriend gets her, nor somebody who really doesn't have anything "normal" about her. Normal, to me, at JC's age is a college student, IN SCHOOL, with a job, an affordable apartment, two dogs and a cat.
JC doesn't want a girl who wants to be in the spotlight. How many picture have you seen of JC and Bobbie together where she isn't purposely staring directly into the camera flashing her gigantic smile. One? Two? Zero? These were the ones that caught her off-guard. And signing autographs for fans and taking pictures? Lord, help me! It's as if she's as famous as her boyfriend. No... The latest evidence I have is from a picture taking during their stay in NY for the VMA's. The picture is of JC, Bobbie, and Lance I believe leaving their hotel. Bobbie is standing in front of them two, at the top of the staircase, flashing her smile, wearing an obnioxus fur coat and red leather pants. Now, if that's not somebody trying to announce her presence, what is?
are ya still with me?
JC wants someone patient and understanding. I can't count the number of instances I've read where people say that Bobbie treats JC like trash, is pushy, demanding, hurtful and rude. These greatly outweight the good stories about her, however, stories cannot all be believed on the internet, so this particular example can be considered exempt from my case.
JC wants someone who has a life of her own. Okay, I know I kinda said this one already, but the conversation idea was taken from his physic reading and this one stems from a different article. Once again, Bobbie leads the same life as JC. :::How can a girl get in sync with 'N Sync? "She can't have a life of her own because we're so busy," says JC. "She'd have to devote herself to us." Might not sound so bad to, oh, millions of girls across the country...until JC explains the catch: That kind of girl just wouldn't do it for him anyway. "Some people want somebody to worship them. But I'm not interested if you're THAT interested in me," he says. "I need somebody who has her own ambitions, her own goals-THAT'S attractive." --YM July 2000
JC wants somebody who can support herself. Where exactly does Bobbie get money to travel all over the world, stay in the most expensive hotels, afford enough clothes to only have to wear them once and have some left over to buy expensive designer dresses for her oh-so-important appearances at every single awards show out there? One word. Two syllables. JC. You don't really think that a freelance writer for a non-popular teenie bop magazine gets a fatty paycheck? And the occasional appearances on trash tabloid shows certaintly doesn't make her bank account overflow. So you argue, maybe she has family money? That's a little convenient, doncha think?
These are all the points I have now, but feel free to come up with your own to share.
Now-to defend myself from the inevitable backlash this post might ensure, I'll start my with my defense now.
Why don't I pick on Dani? Because even though, yes, she also travels with the guys, she has a highly important job. She's the president of Fu-Man Skeeto, Chris's clothing line which is about to explode into Nordstroms fairly soon. She's going to have work piled up to her pretty little face, but most of it I'm sure she can do with a cell phone and lab top. Also, she has graduated from UCLA with a double major. I have nothing but props for Dani. She's wonderful and I've never heard ONE bad story about her interacting with fans.
Why don't I understand that JC has been with Bobbie for a long time and see that maybe there's something about her that keeps him attached? Because I just don't buy it. Accept that answer or not, it's completely up to you. Yes, I do know that JC has been with Bobbie for a long time and yes, I do believe there is something about her that keeps him attached--security. JC is in a very delicate situation. It's probably impossible to meet someone who won't scream in his face or try to rip his hair out in order to gather DNA and clone him. I think that through the chaos that has been throw *NSYNC's way, Bobbie has consistently been around the guys. I think that JC doesn't want to let go of Bobbie because she offers female companionship, something he's afraid he won't be able to find amongst the hormonal girls his own age. (She's what, like, 35?)
Why do I make judgement and conclusions about Bobbie and JC's relationship when I don't know them? Because I'm intelligent and can put 2 and 2 together. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to find information that is consistent and deduce from it.
Lastly, why am I so bitter towards her? This one is tricky. No, I don't know the girl and no I probably never will. But, aforementioned, I can make conclusions through consistent information and frankly, I think JC is selling himself short with a girl who is obviously out only for his money, fame and social status. And THAT just gets me boiling. I believe that JC's personality is one that can be manipulated very easily because he is so quiet and laid-back, and I think Bobbie is doing just that. Which also brings up, "Maybe JC WANTS Bobbie with him and that's why she's there?" Maybe. But I think she's got the upper-hand in this relationship and is brain-washing JC into thinking that they're perfect for each other. Hopefully, eventually, JC will find somebody who wants him for him--kind hearted, goofy, cheesy, cute, talented, *coughsexycough*, soft-spoken, complex, driven, serious to where it's a fault, innocent, naive, stubborn, confusing, cuddly and funny (in his own understated way). Until then, I believe we will have to grin and bear the pictures that pop up with her traveling a few steps behind him, the articles naming her as his girlfriend, the awards shows and the pictures of only her, grinning like an idiot for some over zealous fan. I just hope that for some reason beyond my understanding he stays with her, he comes clean with it. Just say it. "I have a girlfriend." It's not difficult. The fans don't want all the gorey or intimate details. Just confirmation. We've been fed enough lies and hypocracy already. We deserve just a simple truth.