The First Secret: The Power of Thought.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we
want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize him or her when you meet him or her.
The Second Secret:The Power of Respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first
respect them. The first person you need to respect is
yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself:
"What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for
others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself:
"What do I respect about them?"
Third Secret: The Power of Giving.
If you want to receive love, you need to give it! The
more love you give, the more you will receive. To love
is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally.
Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to
a relationship ask not what the other person will be
able to give you, but rather what will you be able to
give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong,
loving relationship is to always focus on what you can
give instead of what you can take.
The Fourth Secret: The Power of Friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true
friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each
other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in
the same direction. To love someone completely you
must love them for who they are, not what they look
like. Friendship is the soil through which love's
seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a
relationship, you must first bring friendship.
The Fifth Secret: The Power of Touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love,
breaking down barriers and bonding relationships.
Touch changes our physical and emotional states and
makes us more receptive to love.
The Sixth Secret: The Power of Letting Go.
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back
to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was." Even
in a loving relationship, people need their own space.
If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to
forgive and let go of past hurts, and grievances. Love
means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and
conditions. "Today I let go of all my fears, the past
has no power over me-today is the beginning of a new
life."
The Seventh Secret:The Power of Communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life
changes. To love someone is to communicate with them.
Let the people you love know that you love them and
appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three
magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity
pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love
with a loving word*it could be the last time you see
them. If you were about to die but could make
telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you
call, what would you say and... Why are you waiting?
The Eighth Secret: The Power of Commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be
committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected
in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true
test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or
something, quitting is never an option. Commitment
distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
The Ninth Secret: The Power of Passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting
passion does not come through physical attraction
alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm,
interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by
recreating past experiences when you felt passionate.
Spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence
of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do
is to live each day with passion.
The Tenth Secret: The Power of Trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships.
Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and
fearful and the other person feels trapped and
emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone
completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if
your relationship with the person you love will never
end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is
right for you is to ask yourself: "Do I trust them
completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no,"
then you must think very carefully before you make any
type of a commitment.
THE GREATEST THING YOU'LL LEARN IS TO LOVE AND TO BE LOVED IN RETURN.
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