Heaven on Earth and High Humidity
Neither Ken nor I are native Cincinnatians. Ken grew up in Kentucky, not "fake" Kentucky, which is right across the river, indistinguishable from Cincinnati proper with its strip malls, housing developments, riverview condos, and trendy nightclubs. (well, trendy for Cincinnati, anyway---we're not a city that quite gets the meaning of trendy, but we do make an effort.)
No, Ken comes from "real" Kentucky. Real Kentucky is farther south. People have accents in real Kentucky. Ken's school cafeteria served pinto beans and greens, down in real Kentucky. That was his favorite school lunch. There is nothing trendy in real Kentucky, not even food.
And I come from the Rust Belt of northeastern Ohio. The bottom of the Rust Belt, where it overlaps with Appalachia. The cement lawn geese are very well-dressed where I come from. Lawngeese Some dress like Pete the Pittsburgh Pirate, and some dress like the Cleveland Indians' Chief Wahoo. The rivalry between the fans of these two baseball teams is fierce in the lower rust belt, and if the cement lawn geese weren't cement, the Pete geese and the Wahoo geese would rush from their respective lawns and peck the hell out of each other. Just like my cousins at family reunions.
Anyway, Ken and I are country people. And when country people decide they want to live in a city, they choose a city like Cincinnati. It's not too big, not too cosmopolitan, and far enough behind the rest of the world to make bumpkins like us feel positively sophisticated by comparison.
It's not just Cincinnati that we chose, but a neighborhood in Cincinnati called Westwood. SauerkrautCurtain Westwood is the largest neighborhood in Cincinnati, but no one from the east side, the north side, or the south side (which would be fake Kentucky) ever goes there. It's not easy to get to. Conversely, it's not easy to leave. That suits the residents of Westwood just fine.
We looked at houses on the trendy (and remember, trendy is a relative term here in the Queen City) east side, when we were still in our house-hunting phase. We cruised the tasteful, shady streets carefully, so as to avoid hitting the joggers who are thicker than cicadas on the east side, looking at tiny, preciously-decorated bungalows with huge, gaudy price tags. Unfortunately, the east side is rich in style and poor in taste. Even if the houses had been reasonably priced (which they weren't), they'd been Pottery Barned to death, with half-walls replacing the built-in buffets and bookcases, old wood cabinets destroyed to make room for sterile, white gourmet kitchens, hot tubs bubbling on new redwood decks that are larger than the houses to which they're attached, and fine oak floors stripped and bleached blonder than a Scandinavian ski-bunny.
I'll stop here and issue a blanket apology---to Pottery Barn, which actually has some very cool stuff---to East-siders, who at least have the guts to remain within the city limits, even if they are misguided in their attempts to suburbanize their vintage homes---and to Scandinavian blondes, who could probably ski the snowpants off the rest of us (especially me, who gets queasy at the thought of a ski lift, let alone actual skiing). Some of my best friends are Scandinavian ski-bunnies who live on the east side and work at Pottery Barn...well, not really, but I wouldn't rule friendship out if I met one.
Anyway, Westwood used to be a primarily German-Catholic neighborhood where people were born, grew up, bought houses next to their parents', had children who grew up to buy houses next to THEM, and died. Many Westwood natives never left the west side, other than for the yearly trip to Myrtle Beach or Hilton Head, where they would rent beach houses next to their parents...you get the picture.
But life is different now, and living next to your parents is no longer a given in any small town or neighborhood. Eventually, Westwood children grew up and moved to Columbus or Louisville, or even New York City, leaving the houses next to their parents empty and languishing on the real estate market. And the Cincinnati Public School system began to decay, driving even the most loyal west siders to the suburbs. And Westwood changed.
Westwood is now a neighborhood that real estate agents and tourist boards call "eclectic" and "diverse." In normal speak, that means it's a bit run down and black people live here. Many of the old-money mansions have been chopped up into multi-family housing. Some people let their yards grow shaggy and unkempt, which would have been unheard of 20 years ago. Young couples move in, attracted by the low-priced housing, and move to the burbs as soon as their children reach school age, making it difficult for neighborhood roots to establish themselves and grow.
We knew all this when we bought our house. And we bought it anyway. Because it was beautiful. And it had that famous tree. And the guy who was looking at it, at the same time we were, was wondering aloud where he could put his hot tub. And because I'm still naive enough to think that diversity is a good thing, not a reason to flee to The Stables at Coventrydale Glen.
So here we are, and here we've been since December of '02. And so far, "eclectic" is not bad. We have one set of neighbors who play their music too loud on a regular basis, which has become a real problem this summer. It sounds minor, but it isn't. When you're lying in bed at night, gasping for those last few molecules of oxygen that haven't yet bonded with hydrogen to form what we in tropical Cincinnati like to call "a moderate climate" (though most folks just call it humidity), you don't want to hear somebody's bass booster thumping so loudly that it's altering the rhythm of your heartbeat. And you can't shut the windows, because you would die. Not figuratively die, as in "be uncomfortabley hot" but literally die, as in "cease to live." It gets that hot in Cincinnati, and we don't have AC.
Our neighbors to the left call the police on the neighbors across the street when the music gets too loud. I understand their frustration, and I don't think less of them for it. But I don't follow suit. This is Cincinnati, and the police are busy. Plus we don't need the tension---we've already got plenty. Riots
So I walk across the street and ask the neighbors to turn their music down. They do, every time. I appreciate that, but I'd appreciate it more if they didn't turn it up in the first place. I'm sure they'd appreciate it if I didn't bug them about it on a regular basis. So I guess we're even.
And when I walk back across the street to my lovely house, in the now-quiet night, I think "This is it? This is what people are afraid of? This is why our house was so cheap? This is why people raise their eyebrows when we say we live in Westwood?" And I feel a little bit sad about the state of Westwood, of Cincinnati, of our country in general, where people are more comfortable calling the police than talking to their neighbors. And I feel a little bit worried that loud music will lead to loud parties, and drugs, and genuinely scary neighbors. It makes me uneasy to think these thoughts as I stand on the front walk and look up at our house, where the people I love are sleeping, safely today but maybe not tomorrow.
So I go inside, not knowing anything about the future except that I'll be making another trip across the street in a week or so, politely asking the neighbors to turn down their music. And they'll politely apologize and hit the "down" button on the volume control. And I think, at least that's something. At least there's some hope in that.
And at least we get along better than the lawn geese.