posted 08-08-2001 08:48 PM
((((((((((Daisies)))))))))))))))
Please don't beat yourself up over this. As hard as it is, the ONLY control
you have is over your own behavior and reactions. I learned in Al-Anon and
ACOA that I could not control my parents' drinking. At the same time, I
learned that this was also true of my dear Rich's heart medicine and his
health and his living style choices. I could cry, beg, plead, threaten...in
the end, only Rich had the control to make healthy choices, take his
medicine on time, see the doctor, etc., and the same is true of your
fiancee.
I don't love Rich the less. We are all human...I wish he stayed longer,
maybe it would have been this way no matter what he did. Who knows? Rich's
heart might have worn out and stopped even if he'd been careful and
vigilant...
I'm sorry you lost your fiancee, Daisies. How do you go on? One step at a
time. That is all I can manage.
Hang in there,
hugs,
Me