Hi sweetie,
What a bitch of a day yesterday! I got a letter in the mail from that Hartford Life Insurance group. This claims representative sent back my letter AND the death certificate with a snotty ?To whom it may concern? letter saying I needed to send it to the employer and that they refused to hold on to it. I really flipped. Now I know what keening is. I heard this wild, grieving, crying wail and realized it was ME.
I called Rich C (a vice president at Rich's company) and left a somewhat hysterical message for him and also called Judy and Elissa (Human Resources). They got right on it. Meanwhile I wrote an angry letter back to this Ms. D?Angelo creature who had my name and address and knew I was the widow but chose to address me as ?To Whom It may Concern.? The nerve! I got my back bone back, I think you would have been proud as you used to say you were. I got a real ?don?t fuck with me attitude?.
Heidi hit Billy so I told her she couldn?t use the computer and she banged her head against the door and ran out (she was going to baby-sit Ashley). Luckily Roseanne called and I explained what was going on. Things are just escalating with this kid and so Roseanne?s going to arrange (or try to) for individual counseling for Heidi. I think she needs it.
And I finished up that driver?s ed class! Now I just have to call the insurance company and let them know.
Alberta emailed me to find out whether we were still coming to PA this weekend. I had a funny feeling they didn?t want us to, maybe, and I emailed back to ask for driving directions. Now you?d think that having sent me an email, she?d check her mail for an answer? Haven?t heard anything! I?d rather just stay home, sweetheart. It?s been such a rough week?
Love you,
Me
Widow Support Board:
Hi JanieP,
I am sorry to 'meet' you here but I'm glad you found this board. The people
have been so helpful to me. Coming here and reading the posts and posting
myself helps so much.
My 14 year old son found my husband, who died some time during the early
morning hours of May 23. Rich couldn't sleep and was downstairs watching TV
when he went into cardiac arrest and Billy came down at 6 a.m. and found
him.
I am sure that Billy has been affected by that and by grief but he is
holding it all close to him. Worse, a couple of people have told him he's
"the man of the house now" and I wish they hadn't done that. He is reluctant
to open up and talk.
I contacted a hospice and right now my daughters are going for bereavement
support. My son will go to a group in a couple of weeks.
Being in a group with kids his age might help your son express himself too.