this came up in our lounge convo as well & i was just going to kinda rant about it here...at work...so if i don't finish i will continue later...
this is to remind me to rant not that i need a reminder..ever
Sooo?my rant?
I kind of forget how this came up but Gareth mentioned watching BET (haha) & there were girls naked on the screen bent over w/ anything private blurred out?& there were a lot of inappropriate things going on?& I know Jon went on to say something about how stupid it was that sex was such a no no on tv. & that people try to keep it off tv when most of the time it?s on our minds anyways?.i understand his viewpt..yea sex it so natural (eg, violence is not) why the hell does it matter if it?s shown on tv to kids?.or maybe that wasn?t his pt?but nonethe less he?s probably gonna get ?annoyed? at me after I write this entry?or if he chooses to read this?
Well?I completely agree with the fact that sex is a natural part of life but the way it is portrayed on tv i is no what I want my kids to see?& I know this is the argument that most protective parents give?& I don?t want to be protective..hell I?ll be willing to tell my kids about the birds & the bees whenever they want (because the longer you withhold this ?truth? the more awkward it is & they will eventually find out from someone else anyways?& I?d rather have a say in what they know haha) so anyways?my point is that television tends to either romanticize or try to make you scared of or make it seem like women are objects?.
These are hardly the images of sex I want for my kids?
I want them to know the facts & then to proceed as they wish maturely?I?m not saying go out there & have sex but I?m also not saying you have to wait for marriage (like my parents instilled in me)?I don?t WANT to have to impose any sort of thinking like that onto them?I?d like to think I will raise them mature enough to know what is right for them?I want them to know the pros & cons of every situation?
Ok I will go into my definitions of romanticize, try to make you scared of or make it seem like women are objects (though the last one is self explainable)?you watch soap operas or any drama show for that matter?sex is either a gasp?oh no what if so & so finds out that they did it?or a omg I?m so happy they finally did it?did what! Wth does sex mean in these cases?maybe I?m being a freaking girl about this?I take that back I KNOW I?m being a freaking girl about this?but to me, like for a lot girls?sex is not just a thing you do?& here comes the double standard?if it IS just something you do & you?re a girl then you?re a slut?guys..you?re studs?anyways that was not my point?soo there?s this weird association with love & sex?I mean I guess this is as true in real life as it is on tv but?people seem to make the 2 synonymous?sex never means love?never?unless the love is already there to begin with sex with have nothing to do with love?(ok I know I?m rambling but I don?t care anymore) I guess I would want to make this clear to my kid?you need to figure out where you stand with yourself before you just dive in?because once you?re there & you have no idea why you did what you did?you?re in a rut?
As for making people scared of sex on tv?.so there are plenty of ads to make you aware of all the bad things that can happen to you..some tv shows do some pregnancy scare too?just to remind you?these are of course the cons that should be communicated but at the same time?these, unless you want them to, should not be the only reasons that keep you from having sex because these alone are not strong enough (well for some people, maybe they are but for others, one small convincing comment or peer pressure & you forget all about it)?
& the whole women as objects thing?most of the ?sex? shown on tv nowadays is not even sex..it?s just women & basically women alone in suggesting clothes/positions/what have you?& although I don?t care if my child sees this since it is such a part of society & the media?I want them to understand that it is just that?the media?for my girl(s), I don?t want them to feel the pressure to be a certain way to be happy with themselves?but of course if that is really what makes them happy so be it..though I would question this?& for my boy(s), I would never want to them treat a girl or boy for that matter in such a way?no human is deserving of being treated the way a lot of women are on tv?
anyways I didn?t really have a real point to this rant cept that the little tidbit in the lounge made me think is all?
I guess in the end?like with any issue?I see both sides?I just?well?I would just want my kids or whatever to see a more well-rounded view of sex?not just what?s on tv?
Updated: Tuesday, 19 April 2005 4:01 PM PDT
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