Andrew Callis

07/May/2002:09:53:56

My daughter, Niccole lives in the Bahamas with her mother. She it
three years old. I did not find out she was daughter until August of
2000. We took a paternity test in August of 2000 and she will not
change the birth certificate. I have constantly asked her to file child
support on me, but she continually refuses. I have located the man who
is on the birth certificate (Reginald Hayes of Dallas) and notifide him
of the results of the test in March of 2001. I tried to give her time
to tell him, but after nine months I located him and told him myself. I
received a letter from her in April of 2002 saying that she will not
let me see my daughter until she is 18 or wants to see me. I have
talked to an attorney in Texas and he told me that Texas has no
jurisdiction over cases in the Bahamas.

I want to be a father to my daughter is there anyone out there who can
help me. It so, please contact me immediately.

Andrew Callis
409-939-6608
Andrew_C_Jr@yahoo.com

student

03/May/2002:08:22:58

Were you two ever married? Is it difficult for you son to grow up
without a father in his life? Please answer!

Anitra

30/Mar/2002:22:58:16

You have an outstanding and fascinating site.

sharon i

03/Jan/2002:21:01:52

Ive been searching for my sons father for fourteen years now. Ive had
no success. He is in california and Iam living in Arizona. Ive done
most of the leg work as far as trying to find him. I had a court date
about 1yr ago. The attorney generals office called and cancelled my
hearing, I guess they couldnt find him once again, so my new years
resolution is to get my son his support, so he can go to college and
have a successful life. His father has never made any contact with his
son, since he was a year old, my son will be 15yrs old in Feb. It is
his loss. I pray that we will prevail in finding him this year.

Thank you
SHaron I

BRIDGETT KESTERSON

16/Dec/2001:21:03:21

Hi,
My name is Bridgett Kesterson I have a 12 year old son who's father
will not help out , pay childsupport, carry insurance,etc.
I have taken him back to court four times and turned my case over to
the AR. childsupport enforcement office a few years ago, AS SOON AS
they track him down and hold a few payments out of his check he starts
another job and it is to do all over.
It seems like there is more that could be done, the man owes my son
est. $21,000 in back child support and DR. payments that I have been
out for him and the "BIO" father gets mad if he is ever ask for help,
he acts as if a half payment two or three times a year should be all
the child needs , and then trys to BRAIN WASH OUR SON.
I need help and need to know what to do about a DEADBEAT SO CALLED
DAD !!!

THANK YOU,
MS. KESTERSON

Raelan Day

13/Dec/2001:14:58:35

I was really happy to see this web page! It seems like sometimes most
people do not care about "dead-beat parents". My son's father has paid
about $200 in my son's whole 3 years of life! I think that it is really
frustrating, because everyone keeps telling me that they will get him
to pay and they keep making me promises that are not being kept. This
web site has helped me learn more about the laws and what I can do.

Monica Edmundson

05/Dec/2001:20:02:26

Thank you for all the information on your site. I have just started a
Child Support Recovery business and my second case envolves a parent
who has relocated to France to avoid paying child support. I understand
that we have to contact a International Attorney and found your site
helpful. I wish you all the best of luck!
Sincerly,
Monica Edmundson
For The Children Child Support Recovery

Edmundsonrainbow@aol.com

Judy

19/Nov/2001:23:11:34

My baby is not born yet. I'm not due until June 4, 2002. My question
is, how can I get an application for child support? Because I know it's
a long process, is there any way I can start early?
Thank You,
Judy

Stacey

10/Nov/2001:16:27:55

It is good to know that there are others out there who can understand
just what a struggle it can be to be raising a child when the father is
not only physically absent, but financially as well. I had a child in
April of 2001 with a man who I felt was just the most wonderful man in
the world. Turns out I was painfully mistaken. While we were a couple
(long distance.. he was in the states a total of 6 weeks in 2 yrs time)
he was very pleased with the pregnancy and our impending marriage. He
even came over after the baby was born but had to return to England
while awaiting visa approval. He arrived here 21st Sept to live in the
states legally and returned home less than 48 hours later. I somehow
felt that things would work out but they havent. I have not really
heard from him, or had any help offered for our son since he left. I
have signed what the Procesuting Atty called "long arm" support
papers. I worry that these were not the proper papers to file now that
i have learned (

Barbara

19/Oct/2001:09:15:57

Hi Im writing in regards to My boyfriend, he pays child support for
his 2 children but the other one lives with him now, he has asked his
Ex to write to the child support unit to have the payment stopped on
the one, she says she has written but we know she hasnt, She has been
collecting money for 3 months now that she shouldnt be getting, he has
called the court clerks and they told him that she has to write or get
in contact for the support to stop and he cant take her to court until
she does this.
can His ex be charged with fraud and have to pay back the child
support that she has been keeping. we have 2 off her kids here she has
one with her and she is taking money she isnt due and she doesnt send
any money for the 2 that are with him .Any Ideas on What to do.???

michele drakeford

Resources For Custodial Parents

19/Oct/2001:07:48:46

What an outstanding site. I have been dealing with a former financial
deadbeat dad for over six years. Now that he pays he still doesn't
foster any type of healthy relationship with our son. Lack of support
emotionally and financially has devastating effects on children. Thank
you for a page with so much helpful information

james

07/Oct/2001:01:33:42

I was born in the United States,when my father abandoned me,me
and my mother went to the Philippines,i was 8 months old at that
time,now, im 26 and im back here in the States,I know where's my father
at but I dont know what to say to him,right now im still strugling
because i never went to school cant get a good job.Can I still file a
case againts him to the court for what his done to me.I dont need his
money but I want justice..."GOD BLESS"......

Leonard Misner

In The Children's Best Interest

01/Oct/2001:12:04:27

Very informative site. See my site to move toward eliminating
deadbeats, ...In The Children's Best Interest. Putting the kids first
means non-custodials pay support (through internationally enforceable
withholding orders if necessary - let's get this done). Putting the
kids first means custodials aren't actively participating in Parent
Alienation Syndrome. Non-custodials won't stick around or pay for kids
they can't access or have a relationship without intense negative
influences from the custodial parent. The first steps to fixing any
problem, are recognizing the root causes of the problem - no other way.

David

how to find dead beat dads

25/Aug/2001:13:03:23

great site

michael foehr

11/Aug/2001:14:31:45

I live in Ontario, Canada. My ex-wife has left her common law husband
of seven years in my province and moved to Ohio. I want to pay my
support, but she has not left a forwarding address. She has also taken
my son and daughter with her and without my permission and/or consent.
She did not have the decency to even talk to me about her decision. I
used to visit with my kids very often, now they are 10 hour drive away
and in a foren country. In Ontario 97 per cent of support payers are
men and three per cent are women. Why isn't child care done by both
parents equally where it is feasible. Men are not walking atms, my ex
nearly put me flat broke and it has taken 5 years for me to get back on
my feet.

Tammy Roche

10/Aug/2001:20:25:25

Nice to see that there is some support for people that have children
with people that may be from different countries. My ex husband is from
the UK and has never paid a dime. I am canadian and so it is at times
hopeless as i don't want him to go broke but take some responsibility.
Over and over i have heard the same story and she will now be 8 soon.

cristle

08/Aug/2001:07:32:48

Mary Tod

06/Aug/2001:20:25:27

This is a excellent sight for resources. I thank the creator of
this sight. I wish her luck in her pursuits. A enormous THANK YOU!

ED DIVONA

01/Aug/2001:14:52:22

AS LONG AS THE CALCULATIONS ARE CORRECT. AND AS LONG AS THE JUDGE
IS NOT PARTIAL OR BIAS IN ANY WAY........ AND YOUR CHILDREN CAN LIVE
AS WELL AS HE CAN...... YOU ARE ENTITLED...... HOWEVER COURTS ARE
HORRIFIC TODAY TO MEN IN THE LOWER TO MIDDLE CLASS AND LEAVE THEM
0000.00. I KNOW IT SEEMS TO BE THE WRONG WAY OF LOOKING AT IT. HOWEVER
IF WE WERE ALL PLAYING FAIR NOBODY WOULD SUFFER........

janice eldridge

01/Aug/2001:02:33:43

Your website was very sad but yet very helpful. I am 21 years old and
7 weeks pregnant. The father of this baby is an international student
for the Jordanian Army. He is from Jordan and is taking a engineers'
course that the United States army is paying for. I have told him
about the pregnancy and he seems to think that he is exempt from all
responsiblities due to the fact that he is from another country. The
United States army has agreed to help me receive support by talking to
his country but yet he thinks he is still exempt. I have asked him to
give up all rights and not to stay in contact with me or the baby. Our
main problem was that I asked him to send 50 dollars a month for the
next 18 years and he thinks that is too much for him. This was one of
the only websites I could find that relates to my situation and I
sincerely thank you for opening up my eyes and sharing your story with
the world.
I will pray for you and myself and all the other people who are going
thro

Nicole L Miller

25/Jul/2001:08:08:33

Susanne

20/Jul/2001:09:24:37

Thank you for creating this site. It is absolutely wonderful. Some
folks never know what it is like when an absent parent has an
oppurtunity to flee with no regard to the children they have left
behind.

Again Thank You

Stephen

20/Jul/2001:06:44:55

I am on a poster site in Canada that absolutely galls me. I pay my ex
wife money but the enforcement people are stupid and made so many
mistakes by not sending the ex wife her child support. So what does she
do? She has me on this poster site which are all lies and the webperson
is no better than her. This hurt my credibility tremendously and I
constantly have to fight with the people that take money from me and
goes to nowhere land. I warn all of you parents that are termed
deadbeats that we are all categorized under one umbrella which isn't
always the case as there are two sides to the story but someone always
gets hurt in the process and in my case it's the kids. Jim Gouda you
are no better than my ex who bleeds me dry and all I want is a
continued relationship with my 3 beautiful kids but you and the ex have
made a mockery of me. Try explaining that to my kids.

Dora Korpos

13/Jul/2001:18:57:11

Luie

09/Jul/2001:10:04:28

Thank you for helping us in need !!!!!! I'm trying to collect child
support from my ex-wifew who has moved to Germany... Please let me know
of any useful information...And thank you again.

Luie

madeline mcbride

08/Jul/2001:15:06:58

I need info on how to register and enforce my swiss final judgement in
california.

linda

15/Jun/2001:12:02:07

My mother,sister and I have struggled our lives away without any
support from our dad, who moved to Mexico to avoid child support 34
years ago. There is no way he can ever re-pay us-material or
otherwise-all of the suffering we have gone thru.First he beat my
mom/sister.Then he'd send all the house $ to Mexico. When she returned
from work(from maternity leave w/me)she came home to an empty house. He
took furniture,beds,clothes,tables,photo albums--everything. And left us
sitting in front of the tv with sandwiches and milk.He has never met
me,and we are no longer entitled to child support - I just want to say
that the only thing I want is our family albums-We are doing well now,I
thank God and my mother.But Aurelio Cima-Garcia of Tampico,Mx -there is
a just God in heaven who you can't hide from and he will make you pay
your dues.Same to all deadbeat dads.SINGLE MOMS:During hard times just
keep the faith and things will get better-we weren't put on this earth
just to suffer-chin up

marnee paterson

12/Jun/2001:09:48:07

Melanie Ferguson

10/Jun/2001:22:58:24

I need help in locating William Ricker Ferguson 111. He goes by the
name (Richard) Ferguson. His line of work is multilevel marketing, and
he does well in that field. He has been in everything from cookies to
make-up to security devices to water filters. He has been in this field
for at least 10 years and has lived in Georgia,Arizona,Florida,and
California. His last known address was in LaJolla, Ca. He could be in
Costa Rica at this time. He owes 10 years of child support as he has
never paid anything toward her support. He married last March 25 to
Jamie Rene' Lewis in Polos Verdes Ca.Anyone know him? If so get in
touch with this site. Thank you.

Diana

07/Jun/2001:14:22:26

I would like information on gettinig back and current child support for
my daughter.My x-husband lives in another country.-Thank You Diana

christine still

28/May/2001:15:50:43

HI MY NAME IS CHRISTINE STILL AND I HAVE NOT SEEN OR HEARD FROM MY DAD SINCE I WAS 5 AND NOW IAM 17 HE HAS NOT EVEN SENT A BIRTHDAY CARD OR ANYTHING HE HAS NOT PAIDED ANY CHILD SUPPORT IN THAT TIME EIGHTER HIS NAME IS DENNIS ANDREW GONZALES HE USED TO WORK IN THE RAYCAMICK CARNIVAL WORKING THE MARRY-GO-ROUND HE ALSO HAS TWO OTHER KIDS MY TWO YOUNGER BROTHERS CHRISTOPHER AND NATHANIEL NATHANIEL HAS NEVER EVEN
SEEN MY DAD AND DOESNT KNOW THE PAIN OF NOT HAVING HIM AROUND MY DAD USED TO LIVE IN PHOENIX, ARIZONA I JUST WANT HIM TO KNOW THAT I AND MY LITTLE BROTHERS WOULD LIKE TO HAVE HIM AROUND AND THAT WE ALL STILL MISS AND LOVE HIM I REALLY WANT HIM TO GET A HOLD OF ME SO IF YOU KNOW OF HIM OR KNOW ANYTHING THAT COULD HELP PLEASE E-MAIL ME AT rachellestill@HOTMAIL.com

Karen Benjamin

27/May/2001:01:25:22

Thank you for the informative site. Our Dead Beats name is Jonathan Jay
Sipe. He's run off to live and work in Poland. He currently owes more
than $50,000.00 to our two girls. He lives in Mielec, Poland and owns a
business by the name of Pinnacle Consulting, 48-17-788-6807

Anna Miller

11/May/2001:20:44:00

I'm hoping that there is soebody out there who can possibly help me. For twelve years now I have been fighting for the rights of my children. The court tells me what the kids should receive for chid support, then eachtime I try fighting I lose. How can the deadbeat not show for numerous court hearings and when I suggest throwing him in jail in the work release program they turn the table and tell me to give him yet another chance. He works when he needs money but that doesn't mean it's always on the books. Now that I hold a full time position making $7.75/ hour, the courts tell me I'm asking for too much. I'm asking for an increase from the $219/ month that is established from the court. I'm trying to raise six children in all. Four of which are my natural, and two that are my step-children. Because I try harder to better myself and the life of my chidren, the court gives me a push down and tells me I'm being unreasonable. I am ready to fight at all cost, even if I must be jailed for cont

lindsay barton

01/May/2001:15:16:17

Hello my name is Lindsay Barton,and my ex fiance Arrick Rutherford has
not paid child support,he goes by the nick name of E,or E-dog,and wants
to be a rapper.I am unable to work because he beat me with an iron
rod,and I have seizures.If you know of his whereabouts please e-mail me
at lrbmkb@xit.net.He was last seen in Coleman tx,and picks up little odd
jobs.He is 6ft,black,usually wears his hair bald,and wears Nike,and name
brand clothes,he is also known for fighting pit bulls,he doesn't have
any facial hair at all,he is a dead beat dad.If you see him please don't
hesitate to call the police at (806)-244-5544,or me at (806)-244-5254,do
not try to confront this man he is dangerous.Also contact the Attorney
Generals office at 1-800-687-8204 immediately about his whereabouts.If
we don't as single mothers take action who will?Good Luck To
everybody!!Also Arrick you are gonna mess up,and when you do I am going
to be there smiling.Then YOU WILL PAY FOR YOUR DAUGHTER,I WILL NOT GIVE
UP UN

summer honeycutt

30/Apr/2001:10:24:20

my name is summer and before i was born my dad had a chance pay child
support or give up his right so he choose to give up his rights. well
when i was 10 years old he want to come back in my life. and right now
i am 14 years old and i have a dad who see me and pays for almost
everthing.

by summer

Shannon Blackmore

29/Apr/2001:10:02:15

Hello, My name is Shannon. I was a child whom had suffered from a dead
beat dad. He walked out on me and my mother when I was only two years
old. At the time my mom was eight months pregnant and had a small
child. We never got child support from my so called dad. We have been
fighting this for years. Took it to the court systeams, and every law
enforcemet that my mom could find. We never saw one dime. So my mom had
to work two jobs to support my brother and I. Which was very unfair to
my mom. Because she wanted to be there with us when we were small. And
did not have a chance to spend time with us like she wanted. To me
thats not justice. We had to suffer with something that my dad had
done, and to this day I'm still suffering, and so is my mom. Not the
matter of money wise or support. It's the fact that this person walked
away from his family and never looked back. This person got away scoot
free, and now there is nothing I can do about the situaion. Because I'm
an adult now the

2nd wife

28/Apr/2001:16:08:17

Just want to say thanks for setting up such a great website. My
husband and I have been trying to get information on Receiprocal
Jurisdictions for many years.. only to be fobbed off but one
department, lawyer or another. Your site enabled us to find the
Government Office we needed to speak to and hopefully we can get our
situation sorted out. Can I also say that not all Dads are bad, my
husband has support volunatary and through a court order for near on 8
years as well as maintaining contact/access at his expense with his
children who are living in another country with his ex (her choice not
his) but as he is the 'Dad' he seems to have very few rights and as a
2nd wife, myself and our children seem to have none. I just wanted to
point out that their are good and bad Dads and MOMs!!

Andrea Clark

27/Apr/2001:19:20:19

HI my ex move oversea so he don't have to paid child support to me. and
my kids turn to drugs because i had no money for my kids . and my kids
stay in trouble all the time.

Frances walker

no

05/Apr/2001:16:43:31

Hi every one

Jacky

02/Apr/2001:11:33:58

continuation,

In the meantime, my daughter and many kids/family in my situation, are
the victims. But hey, why would the US Government care since we are not
a burden to them!

If there is anybody out there who can provide me with information
to assist me, please write to me.

Thank you and good luck to all of us!

Jacky

02/Apr/2001:11:27:48

It still amazes me how easy the U.S. government has made it so easy for
deadbeat parent to continue breaking their own laws. What is the sense
of having all these child support laws, if the U.S. government does not
enforce them? My situation is still the same, my daughter's father is
still in Macedonia since February 2000 and thus far, he is in arears of
over $8,000.00. In my conversations with the Bergen County Probation
Department of NJ, I only get more frustrated. It is quite obvious that
the US government is more concerned in collecting monies for
parents/kids who are receiving governmental financial assistance, but
for those single parents, who are making it on their own, we are not
their first priority! Shame on the US Government!Thus far, the Bergen
Child Support enforcement agency has been too laid back in my case. I
can not afford to continously call Macedonia to investigate if my
daughter's father is still over there or if he is back in NJ, USA.

In the mean time,

Joann

21/Mar/2001:00:41:56

Finally I can search for information on enforcing child support from
Argentina to the U.S. My daughter is 10years old....monetary support
would make her life easier... Ex has never seen her....his lost! Would
be nice if Argentina had a reciprocal agreement with USA....Thank you

Chrissie

03/Mar/2001:16:26:25

I am a 28 yo woman originally from France who had a baby with an
american man who still lives and work in New-York...My daughter is 2
and 1/2 yo and her dad who signed the Acknowledgement of Paternity at
the hospital has never been there for her: financially or
emotionally...Now I decided to go back to my country where I already
took the case to court since 1999 and I still didn't hear anything... I
also want to start a procedure here in the States before leaving...
If anyone can help me, please feel free to e-mail me...

aprilleah

21/Jan/2001:20:45:46

CAN YOU HELP ME? IF SO EMAIL ME AT smalls1232hotmail.com

I have a year old daughter who's name is Sania, her father is from
bangladesh and he is here in the us on a student visa meaning that he's
not allowed to work and his parents send him roughly about 16000 a year
to support him. he broke up with me b/c he said that he was tired of
all of the responsibilities that come with a child. i am currently in
medical school and will be graduating in april 2001. i have a hard time
finding a job b/c right now my daughter is sick and needs constant
attention. her father could care less about her. he comes and see's her
when he feels that he is up to being a dad. he tells me constantly that
he has his own life and that he's too busy for sania. i feel sad for my
daughter b/c since she was born he has been a great father, and all
throughout my pregnancy, until recently when he moved in with his best
friends. i have thought about taking him to court, but in kansas the
laws only applie to forei

16/Jan/2001:22:36:33

Krystyn DePree

10/Jan/2001:18:56:14

I am 8 1/2 months pregnant with my son. On July 1st, the father of my
child decided he did not want to marry me exactly one week before our
wedding, and did not want his son. He soon left to go back to
Australia where he is from. I have never heard from him since. I have
tried contacting his parents, but they will not help in any way. They
tell me that their son should not have to suffer for any choice I
made. Well they seem to feel that I should have to suffer as well as
their innocent grandson. I hope this site give me the info I need to
get child support for myself as well as anyone else who got screwed by
someone they loved and then left to take full responsibility.

Krystyn

Jasmin

05/Dec/2000:13:09:27

The father of my two boys, Danny Fernandez, is a stockbroker who owes
me arrears, yet he manages to pay his mortgage, and he drive a mercedes
Benz. He is really good at manipulating the system. He changes jobs
to avoid paying me for a few months.

I started a new job at a law firm two months ago and he knows that I
will not go to court right now because I cannot miss a day at my job.
He hasn't paid me in 4 months, and he never sees his children. I don't
understand how the CSEB lets him get away with this not paying me. He
feels since I left him he is not entitled to support his children.

Through the split up I managed to finish college and I just got a job
at a big law firm in Manhattan "Cravath, Swaine, -&- Moore", as a legal
secretary. I will not let him weigh me down, but the checks would
help.

Deborah Honahni

30/Nov/2000:20:27:01

This website will hopefully help me in the fight for the child support
money that my x owes my daughter. I am a US citizen with Micronesian
decent that grew up in Micronesia on an island called Pohnpei. My x
husband and I got married while he was in the Marine Corp in N.C. Upon
return to Pohnpei, I became pregnant and he left before my daughter was
born. She is now 8 years old and since, I have moved to AZ. I remarried
to a wonderful man, but my x, who has made every excuse in the book
since we moved out here not to pay child support feels that since I
remarried, it is no longer his responsibility to pay the support. Being
from an island, I was only able to get $200 a month support (and was
told that this amount is too much-I was one of the very few women that
have tried to get child support from my island.) Now my x, Mike K.
Peterson is the mayor of the town that we lived in. I have tried to
write letters to AZ state senator John McCain, and one of the women in
the office I sent t

Jacky

25/Nov/2000:20:55:39

My daughter's father is once again breaking the child support court
order from the Bergen County Family Court in New Jersey. Based on my
experience over the 9 past years, it is clear to me that the laws are
not enforced the way it should be! This is the longest stretch thus
far for not receiving monies...since February 2000 to be exact. Since
October 31st, there is a warrant for his arrest....upon his arrival to
the USA from Macedonia (where he has been since the beginning of the
year) hopefully he will be detained and forced to pay the
arrears....approx. $6,000.00.

It just amazes me how a person can be so uncaring, unloving toward
there own child. So to you Bogoja Boceski......I will not give up the
fight for what our daughter is entitled. I can not force you to love
her, but I the law is on my side in regards to child support!

Jennifer Condor

12/Nov/2000:23:03:53

Hearing about so many deadbeat dads right here in our very own country
has kept me from even contemplating pursuing my daughter's father until
I found this site tonight. Thank you so much for enlightening me even
if does end up no where at least I'll be more educated on the processes
in his country should I decide to fight the battle so many women
fight. It's a crying shame but I'm glad to know I'm not alone.
And I thank you for making this web site... =)

Carol

deadbeatdad

21/Oct/2000:21:21:45

Hi,,I loved your pages and hope you'll also visit mine as well.My x is
John Helfer and can be found on the <EDITED>
sight as well as on my <edited> sight ,or my
madmom.friendpages.com sight .I am very lucky that my present husband
works a second job to support these children that aren't even his
own,but there are other people that are not as lucky.My x laughs at us
as he sits saftly in another state.We need laws to make the warrents on
these people goon in any state.As it is right now all they have to do
when you finally get their state to cooperate is move yet again.My kids
their hearts hurt so bad ,wondering why he don't care about them any
more .please email me and or visit my pages your friend Carol

Kristen Lopez

Arizona Child Support

20/Oct/2000:15:31:10

Hi. My name is Kristen, and I've been building a website entitled
Arizona Child Support. http://arizonachildsupport.homestead.com It is
a free site (I make NO money off it, and I don't ask anyone to pay
anything, under any circumstances). I've designed it as a resource
center for Arizona parents who are enforcing current orders, but I
think it will be helpful to lots of you parents out there. I've been
trying to collect child support for several years, and it's been a
painstaking process. I'm hoping that some of you out there will be
able to benefit from my struggle. Please have a look at my website,
and remember, it's still under construction and I'd love to get emails
with suggestions, comments, or links to add.
Thanks, and good luck to all of you.
Kristen
http://arizonachildsupport.homestead.com

Kimberly Hart

14/Oct/2000:00:10:04

First I want to say this is an awesome sight!! Im a single mom from
Michigan raisning three sons on my own, thier Fathere and I never
married. He is a Canadian citzen and now lives in Ontario for the past
8yrs. I fought that long to get him served with support orders but to
no avail untill late last year support was finally ordered but there
was no back support ordered because nothing was set they say untill he
showed up in court in Ontario. He was ordered to pay a very low amount
for three children and I was told in order to fight this I would have
to hire an international lawyer and go over to Ontario to fight this.
In the mean time he is behind in support and I can do nothing about
it. I would appriciate any comments or suggestions pleas. Thank you!

carla

11/Oct/2000:12:20:37

Great website!!

Phil -&- Margaret Broo

08/Oct/2000:15:08:08

We are a British couple trying to get a fair maintenance payment for
our child, whose father is British but living and working in Michigan.

Jeanette Paluh

22/Sep/2000:16:37:40

This is my first visit and I am looking for help in obtaining the right
amount of child support for my children.

Stephanie

05/Jul/2000:22:47:32

My childs father is in England and does not want anything to do with
our child. I am due in December and I am terrified. I am hoping that
this web site can help me out.

Laurie C. Torres

03/Jul/2000:14:24:39

I was inquiring about a contact for child support in Puerto Rico. I
was able to get the address and phone number, but they are one of the
only agencies that does not have a web site. I am sending a
congressional inquiry, and wanted to furnish a copy to the Governor
Pedro Rosello Gonzalez. I found the Puerto Rican Government home page
but do not see an email address for the govenor.

thanks for the info

JACQUI

26/Jun/2000:19:46:36

TO ALL OF YOU ,YOU DOING A GREAT JOB!!!
JUST SHOWES WHAT WOMEN CAN DO
WITH OUT MEN!!!! AND ALLWAYS DID!!
TO DONNA FELAN I KNOW GERMANY WELL THE LAW's THERE ARE ALOT BETTER
THEN HERE.I WILL HELP YOU.IF YOU WANT ME TOO.
MY E-MAIL IS jblanehart@aol.com
TO ANONYMOUS FROM 4-14-2OOO NOTHING EVER IS A WASTE!!!
I BELIVE THIS SITE IS WOUNDERFULL
AND IF WE ALL FINALY DO SOMETHING WE HAVE THE LAW'S
BUT THEY ARE NOT INFORSED BECAUSE WE HAVE PEOPLE IN PLACE WHO
BELIVE IN WOMEN STAYING DOWN!! OUR COUNTRY NEEDS A LOT TO LEARN
EVER SINCE I'VE BEEN OUTSIDE OF THE US I HAVE FOUND THAT WE ARE NOT
NUMBER ONE ANYMORE.IT SEEMS TO ME OTHER WESTERN COUNTRYS TAKE BETTER
CARE OF THERE PEOPLE WHICH IS A SHAME WE ARE NO.ONE??????
BUT WE CANT TAKE CARE OF OUR OWEN! WITH RESPECT TO ALL OF YOU
JACQUI

Pamela Montana

21/Jun/2000:20:31:11

My daughter is 3 years old, she hasn't seen her father in over a year
and he owes close to 10,000.00 dollars and even with an order from my
local child support enforcement agency he still doesn't pay. There is a
warrant out for his arrest but they have not gotten him y

Andrea

21/Jun/2000:16:31:25

My ex-husband abandoned us 11 years ago. My 14 year old daughter has
only seen him twice since...when I bought plane tickets for us to visit
his family in Austria. I have encouraged, cajoled, and begged him to
maintain some sort of contact with his daughter. Apparently, he can't
be bothered. Of course he refuses to pay any support...he says he's
"too young" (we are both 35). I make a comfortable living and have help
from my family (interest free loans, etc). About seven years ago, while
living in Florida, I obtained the preliminary paperwork to pursue child
support. The document was a question nearly 40 pages long, originally
written in German and translated to English by an amateur. Discouraged,
I gave up. I am now in Tennessee and I have decided to try again. For
my daughter's sake. I'd love to put that money aside for her as an
investment. I wish all of you luck in your attempts to get financial
help for your children.

DEBBIE RALPH

15/Jun/2000:01:15:03

My husband has never left the states. My son is turning 21 this month.
I left his father w/he w/3. He has never or had to pay support. Even
w/court order.

nacho

09/Jun/2000:06:32:00

last year i was working in ACAOULCO for a couple of months. one day I
took a break and went to a far away beach for a walking sightseen and
rest, for my surprise I found this ORFANTS HOME called CASA MARSH, so i
I asked around who were the people encharged of this place, to see if I
could have more information. I meet this couple (about 48 yr old ) who
had establish the place because they grew in an orfants home , were
they meet and got married a long time a go.
Now the take care of about 60 child living with them( ages from 8 month
to 17) in a very educated ,and clean enviroment, and they are all the
time searching for help, and support from diferent people.
PLEASE if you like contact them and enjoy one of the greatest joys, and
blessings of life. PROV. 22:6
for any questions on the place (also) contact me I am only trying to
help this couple in doing what many dont have the courage to do.

The Names EDWARDO y JOVITA CASTAŅON

the Place HOGAR INFANTIL MASRH. A.C.

Address C

Martha

13/May/2000:15:08:11

The past seven years of my life, I have seen thousands of dollars go to
my fiance's "X". All she had to do was cry boo who, and she'd get more
free money. I tried to collect child support for my child, too. The
court told me to get a job. My child has no idea who this man is. I
would not allow him any rights to my child, at this point she has a
stable life and a "dad" that loves her and takes care of her every
need. God bless you.

From a Loving Mother

18/Apr/2000:14:24:53

Anyone can be a Dad but it takes a real man to be a father.

Tammy LeBlanc

18/Apr/2000:14:21:10

Well my son is now 9 yrs and his father if you want to call him that
has been able to allude Family Maintence for most of that time.Family
Maintence is a govenment agency that will try to locate dead beat dads
and make them pay.When i first enrolled,my son was one, the father was
to only pay $50, a month how pathic needless to say he never paid and
it became in arrears.In total he has not willingly paid about $800 when
Family maintenance was able to track him down in another Province where
he fathered another child and fails to look after.Well now it has been
9 yrs and he is claiming workers compensation well geuss what they
found him and since then his payments are now up to $118 a month and
with some luck my son might see some of that money.But i still have
little faith in the system but with some luck maybe this one may be the
charm.Needless to say no matter how fustrated i get i will never give
up knowing that may be that one day my son will be able to further his
education if

julie

11/Apr/2000:13:04:51

There is a answer, GOD! If these men dont answer here on
earth they will answer to our lord.2 Timothy 1:14 Throught the power of
the Holy Spirt, who lives in us, keep the good things that have been
entrusted to {me} you! Thats what keeps me going. Every knee shall
bow.

Texas Mom

24/Mar/2000:09:22:36

My ex lives in Arkansas and has avoided paying child support from 1994
to the present. He has been put in jail once then let go. The support
order originated in LA and is to be enforced in Arkansas. This man has
maintained the same address since 1994 and Arkansas is doing nothing to
enforce the order. I feel like I am beating my head against a wall. I
have called, written letters, e-mails and nothing happens. Any advice.

Gary Caswell

06/Mar/2000:10:12:54

I am an Assistant Attorney General in Texas, managing the Child Support
Division International Coordination Section. In addition, I serve as
Vice-President for International Reciprocity for the Washington D.C.
based National Child Support Enforcement Association and am a Private
Sector Advisor to the Department of State, Office of Legal Advisor,
Private International Law Section - which conducts the negotiations for
federal level bilateral child support establishment and enforcement
agreements with foreign jurisdictions. At this writing, federal
arrangements have been concluded with Ireland, Slovak Republic, Czech
Republic, Poland and Nova Scotia. Arrangements with Norway, the
Netherlands, Manitoba, and British Columbia are pending. I will
periodically support Anna's website with articles and information that
may be useful for those of you attempting to recover child support
across international borders. For example, you may be interested in
knowing that the Department of Heal

Aida Guzman

04/Mar/2000:02:06:14

My son was born Dec.22,1999. His father was there in the beginning and
helping me out with him, but now he is no longer helping. He much
rather go out with his friends and stay out all night. He hasn't helped
me with the bills and most of them are his. He quit his job and makes
no effort to find a new one. He only comes over when he needs money and
leaves without asking about his son. Only when he is in public with his
son, he pretends to be thee perfect father. He has his entire family
and friends fooled and makes me look like the bad person because I won't
allow him to move back in with us until he finds a job and helps out
with the bills. I'm tired of him telling us how much he loves us. It
only confuses me because I still love him even though he has caused so
much hurt to me. I cry myself to sleep every night and I feel like I
don't have a friend in the world because he always gets to tell his side
of the story which is always made up to make me look bad. Someone
ple

LaShawn

02/Mar/2000:23:50:40

He has signed for all the mail. I filtered so much information to the
courts and they were never able to serve him. After many letters and
calls to child support and the army. In 1996, I wrote my congress rep.
that office was able to get a response from his commanding officer
during his tenure in Germany. The absent father opted not to take a
paternity test at that time. Time went on and no child support for my
child. The father has been able to avoid a major responsibility. 1994 -
1999 I constantly called for a status, because apparently my state was
not going to waste their resources. It seemed like I was doing all the
work. In 1999, I found out he lives in Turkey. Basically, to avoid
providing support. Once the child support office received word of
this, they closed my case Nov '99). I think that is unfair. I don't
want to give up. Morally, it's not about paying oout money - it's
about both parents being there for their child, helping to raise
children together (not necess

LaShawn

02/Mar/2000:23:47:08

This web page looks like the beginning. I have an eight year old
daughter who has never met her father or his family. In 1992, he saw
her for the first time and she was about six months old. He was in the
army for about eight months at that time. I asked him to take a
paternity test if he had doubts, and he agreed that he would take a
blood test. He spent about fours with us. That was the last time I saw
or spoke to him. A year later (May 93), I filed for Child Support in
my state. It took the courts another year to process my case (I placed
a called to find out what's taking so long). July 1994, he did not
appear in court. I explained to them that he's in the military. The
informed me a warrant would be issued. That day on, I would
periodically call and write letters to the child support office for a
status or to provide them with information of his whereabouts. I've
paid twice to get the absent parents military address. I was adviced
to send certified letters to him. He h

JoAnn Purkey

29/Jan/2000:09:34:03

It's really ironic, my husband has to pay child support and we do, and
quite a bit. His ex works and makes good money, the other day she said
it's so expensive to raise these kids, that is because she buys them
nothing but expensive designer things, while we buy k-mart brands. Now
she wants more money. At the same time, I now have custody of my
nephew, his father lives in germany, his child support payments come
later each month. He didn't pay anything for 10 months, and he only
pays a minimum. I also have a friend in Germany, she was married to an
American, had a child, they divorced and he returned to the US and
hasn't paid a dime. And he makes good money. I've sent her this info as
well. It's a shame when these men don't take responsibility, but it's
also a shame when the women want more than they need.

Brian Mertz

24/Jan/2000:03:51:35

I am just starting the process to get child support for my neice and
nephew. Will need all the help I can get because I am not rich.

mary

22/Jan/2000:00:32:38

i have a beautiful 5 year old daughter that hasn't seen her father since
she was 6 months old. i have never said that he nor his family could
never visit her yet i have been blamed for everything that went wrong
therefor child support as well as any contact has been withheld and with
a mighty strong grudge. the entire x's family is involved. the state of
kentucky has done very little to help. i am 38 years old and in poor
health and may not live to see her graduate high school. i have been
forced to move back in with my 60 year old mother who is also in poor
health. my child support payments are only $1,500 in arrears at this
point but to me that is alot of money. he has an engineering job in
mexico and i cannot seem to locate him to make him pay and assist with
the medical insurance. how do i find him to make him understand that we
are having an extremely difficult time surviving and that he has the
resources to help out a little more. he's never shown up for a court
date and even

Kathleen Johnson

14/Jan/2000:09:33:20

I would like to know how you did all this? I f you got it to work? I
really would like you to e mail me back with some information.

Thank you

WILLIAM DIXN

Prayer Partners

10/Jan/2000:13:26:54

I am a Father that had two daughters stolden fom me 17 1/2 years ago, and have searched for them ever since. I do know what you are going through and I do sympathize with you all. My prayer is that God will reach down and touch your heart. God bless you all. Brother Bill Dixon

Cyndy

02/Jan/19100:10:55:03

I am new to the computer world.
Also on looking for a dead beat dad.

I am looking for GARY SHANE O'CONNELL. He was born in Cleveland, Ohio
and from what I know, he is in California now. He has been there for
the last 13 years. He mostly lived in the desert area. I have heard
that he maybe in the L.A. area now.

I have raised Amanda by myself her whole life. I have allowed
visitation and contact.

She is a beautiful wonderful girl who loves her father. I can not
however do this by myself any more.

I do not know where to start my search to find this jerk.

Can anyone help? Thank you. Cyndy in Cleveland Ohio

Pam

28/Dec/1999:10:21:53

I am a single mother, my daughter is 15 years old and has not had any
really contact with her father. He shows up once a year and gives her
$20.00 for Christmas. I have been fighting with child support to help
us. He lives in North Carolina, we live in New York. He is now upto
owing us $11,000.00 dollars in all. My daughter has had some problems
and ended up in placement for awhile. It didn't take child support long
to come after me. Now they garnish my pay and he still sits out there
free as can be. I called them to tell them he was in the area for the
holidays. Guess where that got me? Right, they didn't even make the
effort to get him.

Laura

24/Dec/1999:01:35:39

I am a young mother of a beautiful baby boy. I met his father last year
while he was visiting from Switzerland. He is back in Europe now and
refuses to acknowledge that the baby is his. I wish that he could be a
father to this baby and i really need his help financially. My son is
only four months old now but I am determined to get him all the support
he deserves. I was very happy to see this site as I had no hope for my
situation. Thanks!

caring mother

18/Dec/1999:17:44:06

This is a very helpful website for parents having problems recieving
there child/childrens child support. I find for it to be helpful for
those just starting out. Wish I would have came across it along time
ago.
Child support has not been paid in 30 months and the case seems to
be going no where even after all of the time I have put into it with
letter writing and phone calls

Diane

29/Nov/1999:21:53:08

Looks like just the beginning of a great web site. My divorce took
place nearly 10 years ago. The Ex moved to Australia and promptly
began to make great money and not pay support for his two children.
Being bery frustrated with the lack of attention my international case
was getting, I wrote to my local Senator, explaining my circumstances.

She promptly contacted the support division of my state and thus I had
an assistant attorney general working closely with me to collect. It
was a hard go in the beginning, because of the differences in the laws,
wordings, and terminologies, but we succeeded in getting an order
establised there, as well as retained the one here.

However, full collection has not taken place, the arrears are very near
$50,000.

Most recently the assistant attorney general who was working with me
quit his job without notice to me and now there is no one, not even on
the local county level, assigned to my case.

I get very frustrated because the support

brittney Robertson

15/Nov/1999:20:03:01

I am so glad that there is support out there for those of us that have
experienced the harsh reality of dead beat parents. Keep doing the
good job.

jennifer

help find

09/Nov/1999:17:25:50

help find merrilee tharp dead beat mom wont pay child support to 10
yaer old daughter in south carolina.write po box 114 rowesville sc 29133

Denise

07/Nov/1999:15:22:17

Hi,
I am a single parent trying to get child support for my 2 children
a boy 16 and a girl 14. All I keep getting is a song and a dance from
their father, who now resides in Belgium. All I have is a work phone #
and fax #. He only sends some money if I call and beg for it. my
divorce was final in 1993 and that is when he went back to his home
country Italy. He was ordered deported, so now that he is not in the
U.S. he thinks he is free of paying any support to our children. This
is wrong and I would like some help in trying to collect backed owed
and current child support from him, I just don't know how to go about
it. He does not really have a good steady job, and jumps from place to
place only to avoid his responsibilities. This is not fare to my
children. he already owes about $35,000. If anyone has some good
information for me please e-mail me I would be so grateful in hearing
from you.

thanks you for your time,
Denise

Laura Rogers

10/Oct/1999:15:24:11

I too am left a single mother of one beautiful son to take care of. I
have tried many times going through srs to receive child support for my
son. Many times my son's father has been in jail, and i have turned
him in and he just seems to slip through the cracks. He job hopps all
of the time when he is working and moves from one woman to the next.
srs say's since i am not receiving cash assistance through them only a
medical card for my son that a place called maximus is taking over my
case. I have contacted them many times too and they just seem to be
too slow getting anything done. I didi however receive child support
once and that is when the state of Kansas took it out of his income
tax. the next year i did not because it was more important to pay the
srs what they were owed from my son's medical expenses rather than to
pay me half and they keep half. ""so much for the child's welfare"".
I just don't understand the state of Kansas' way of thinking. well
upward and onw

DONNA FELAN

09/Oct/1999:03:39:09

I AM ALSO A PARENT NOT RECEIVING CHILDSUPPORT FROM MY SONS FATHER WHO
LIVES IN GERMANY. HE WAS WORKING HERE W/HIS COMPANY WHEN I MET HIM. HE
WAS LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE HAVING A RELATIONSHIP W/ ME HERE IN THE U.S.
AND W/ ANOTHER WOMAN IN GERMANY. THIS WAS NOT REVEALED UNTIL I GOT
PREGNANT. HE QUICKLY GOT A TRANSFER TO GO BACK TO GERMANY AND REFUSES TO
PAY CHILDSUPPORT. IT HAS BEEN A NIGHTMARE COLLECTING MONEY. ITS REALLY
SAD TO SEE THIS MAN MAKE OVER 6FIGURES A YEAR AND BE SO SELFISH AND BE
A COWARD.I WISH ANYONE IN THIS INTERNATIONAL SITUATION LUCK RECEIVING
THEIR CHILDSUPPORT.

Janene

29/Sep/1999:21:34:44

To All Who View this,
I, a Mom of two girls 13 and 17 have been struggling since 1993 when
their Father left. I had never worked before, needless to say I HAD to
learn VERY quickly how to support a family in which I knew but no, I
actually had NO clue what so ever. Boy did I learn ALOT -&- unfortunatly
my girls were dragged right behind me in all that happened.
I learned to work in the workforce and rather enjoyed it but the
damage done to my daughters not being home hardly because of working
two jobs, at one point I was working three, never again, its almost
humanly impossible. Its not fair because my girls werent accustom to
having to make a pair of shoes last for two yrs. and a coat last three.
They didnt get NEW clothes until we moved back to my home state, my
folks bought clothes, in style , for them alittle over a yr ago but Im
again unable to buy anything for school, barly eought for school
supplies. Im so proud of my kids they truely understand more then
I could

shari

28/Sep/1999:20:25:40

Thanks for the good info. My children's dead beat father owes them
more than 70,000. He has not paid one cent, and because I am not
receiving financial assistance, my case is sitting on the bottom of the
list. How can he be allowed to live a normal life? He should be
sitting in jail. The state of AZ has done nothing to help me. I hope
this will give me some new hope. Thank you again.

Leigh Elder

06/Sep/1999:09:56:12

I'm glad you are trying to help the children. Typical of some men, I'm
in a situation where my child's father denies his child out of fear of
paying out a dime, so I struggle to raise her alone. I hope to talk to
some women in a similiar situation. Perhaps he tells you, "It ain't
mine." although he knows the child is. Please contact me so we can
share info.

sandra

21/Aug/1999:18:39:03

well done in your bid to assist mothers internationally

jodi hurd

03/Aug/1999:12:52:38

i am raising two beautiful girls that their biological mother left them
because she didnt want to pay child support and except her
responsibilities.she now owes$14,051.00 for not paying for 7 years. not
one dime... how fair is that to these two girls? in my eyes they have
been robbed of some freedom- what i mean by that is my husband and
myself have to work full-time and part-time jobs to pay mortgage,
insurance, clothing,etc... and she gets to sit in florida and mooching
of a man who she claims shes married to and has two more children with.
"My daughters" can't even take dance classes because we can't afford
it. maybe her $50.00 a week that she should be paying would allow them
to do these things... any input would be great any help would be
appreciated... thanks

Melissa LoBianco

AGCSE: pre-launch site Home Page

15/Jul/1999:10:52:00

The issue of having to collect child support alone is one I personally
would find next to impossible to face. The extenuating circumstances
in your case are unfortunate and, I'm sure, overwhelming. I wish you
luck, and pray for your success.
I have been researching the possibilities of establishing a private
full service child support enforcement office in New Jersey, and it is
through my research that I came across your page. I am not faced with
the issue personally, though there are people close to me who are. It
is a staggering problem in the US, and I hope to overcome at least a
significant amount of the numbers in New Jersey through my venture.
My point is: stories like yours and your child's motivate me to go
forward with my plans and to investigate the most effective ways to
become instrumental in the fight to eliminate child support
delinquintcies.
Thanks so much for sharing. And good luck to you!