Adjusting to a divorce can be challenging emotionally as well as economically,
socially and in many other unexpected ways. This page attempts to pull
together these areas in a cohesive manner so that those contemplating or having
gone thru a divorce can learn about what might be expected and some possible
ways to deal with it.
STRESS AND THE ART OF DIVORCE ADJUSTMENT The effects of
divorce can be devastating, if not stressful. Concerns can include
sadness or loss, fears, loneliness, rejection, conflicting loyalties,
responsibilities, and anger.
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Lifeline FAQ Answers
I've initiated the divorce, and I want to move forward. But my partner is
in terrible agony, and cannot seem to accept the decision. How can I
help my spouse move on with the next stage of his or her life?
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· Coping with Pain
Divorce Care Home Page
DivorceCare is a special support group where you can find help as you
recover from the hurt of separation or divorce. There is a DivorceCare
group meeting near you. Find a nearby DivorceCare group Resources
to help you recover Information about DivorceCare Steps you can take
to recover How to form a DivorceCare group Forum for DivorceCare
leaders Send E-mail to DivorceCare [Menu] [Bookstore] [Find
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About 50 million Americans suffer from sleep disorders such as
narcolepsy, sleep apnea, restless legs syndrome, and the insomnias.
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http://www.sleepnet.com/ Marital Status Home: Separation
Surviving the Emotional Trauma of Divorce By Merrill Witty Divorce is
never fun. But most who go through it agree that once the dust settles,
they are stronger for it. Editor's Note: It's never pretty; it always hurts.
http://www.maritalstatus.com/divorce/articles/surviving.html THERAPIST DIRECTORY
Welcome to the Internet's first online professional referral service.
Therapists are listed geographically. Click on the states listed below to
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asked questions about therapist directory.
http://www.psychology.com/therapy.htm Why Does it Hurt So Much?
Many people who have gone through divorce remember that it feels -- it
feels like having a piece of yourself ripped away. Ellen put it this way, a
year after separation: "This year it's just a dull ache.
http://www.divorceinfo.com/whyhurt.htm Collaborative Divorce
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Kids & Divorce
Kids & Divorce Kids and Divorce Children are seriously affected when
their parents divorce. There are some things parents and other adults
can do to help kids get through this difficult time. First, talk to your
children about the separation or divorce and give them a chance to
share their feelings and concerns.
http://www.swmed.edu/home_pages/library/consumer/kiddivor.htm PARENTING DURING DIVORCE [Articles]
Effective parenting is an enormous task under the best of
circumstances. Parenting during times of personal tragedy or crisis
may seem almost impossible. Not only are divorce and separation
likely to feel like times of personal crisis, they are times which require
effective parenting.
http://parent.net/articles/divorce/pndiv1.html Telling the Children
Tell them shortly before they will see the change (typically a few days
before one of the spouses moves out). Try to have the whole family
present (both spouses and all children). Within the bounds of propriety,
be honest.
http://www.divorceinfo.com/tellingchildren.htm split
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On Divorce A short survey for kids of parents who have divorced and a
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STRESS When life deals us some unexpected challenges (OK ,I'm
being kind here), or lessons to learn, or just dumps on us (depends on
your state of mind, I guess), the real issue is not the situation or event
but HOW WE HANDLE IT.
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Introduction to Asset Searches
When considering assets, divorce courts view marriage as a business
partnership and divorce as the winding up of that relationship. In order
for courts to fairly divide assets, all marital and separate (if any)
property needs to be disclosed.
http://www.divorcenet.com/assets.html Digital Daily Welcome - IRS
Welcome to the Internal Revenue Service's home on the World Wide
Web. As part of our continuing efforts to provide broad and immediate
access to IRS tax information and services, we are presenting our
latest electronic publication.
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· Child Support
Tax Advisor Tax Tips - 1
ALIMONY ALIMONY RECEIVED: WHAT QUALIFIES AS ALIMONY
Payments received for child support, non cash property settlements,
maintaining the payer's property or payments not required by a divorce
or separation agreement are not considered alimony payments.
http://www.intuit.com./turbotax/support/taxedge/ref/tt1.html Alimony Fixed as Child Support
Let's talk about them in increasing order of complexity: You can't call it
child support You can't change it based on something that happens to
a child You can't change it based on something that's associated with
something that happens to a child.
http://www.divorceinfo.com/alimonyfixed.htm Guidelines - Chapter1 Vol I
Historically, determining a child support award was at the discretion of
the decisionmaker. He or she typically considered such factors as the
financial resources of the child, the financial resources of the custodial
parent (CP), the child's standard of living had the parents' marriage not
dissolved, the physical and emotional conditions of the child, the child's
educational needs, and the finan
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/ACFPrograms/CSE/rpt/gdl/chap1.htm Child Support- Frequently Asked Questions
Child Support; All you need to know. What Is Find Dad? Find Dad is a
child support collection agency whose services are available to
custodial parents who are not receiving Aid For Dependent Children
(welfare).
http://www.finddad.com/faq.html Child Support Assistance Network
Are you having trouble collecting child support? We can help, even if
the absent parent is out of state or at an unknown location. OR Are you
looking for a business opportunity that will also provide a service to
your community?
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childsupport.html - Child Support Enforcement We are CSEthe largest
private company in the nation dedicated to collecting past-due child
support for custodial parents. You pay us nothingno fees of any
kind unless we collect the long overdue payments your children
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· Custody & Visitation
Child Custody in the USA (Page 1 of 5)
This article reviews the history of child custody decision-making, and
describes current custodial arrangements in the United States. The
manner in which parents and courts make decisions about custody and
access, and changes in visiting patterns in recent decades are
examined.
http://www.wwlia.org/us-cus.htm International Parental Child Abduction
Your situation is difficult, but there are things that you can do. This list
assumes that you know, or strongly suspect, that your child has been
abducted abroad to a country that is not a party to the Hague
Convention on International Child Abduction.
http://travel.state.gov/int'lchildabduction.html NetForum - Custody & Visitation Issues - Topics
The Law Firm of Gruber & Colabella's messages and replies are not to
be considered as legal advice. Due to the open nature of the forum,
other individuals may be responding to messages. A local attorney
should always be consulted when legal advice is needed.
http://www.divorcesource.com/cgi-bin/divorce/netforum/custody/a/1 Myths, legends and the American Way: Deadbeat Dads
Myths, legends and the American Way: Deadbeat Dads From:
rdean@tpa.cent.com (Ron Dean) Newsgroups: soc.men Subject:
Myths, legends and the American Way: Deadbeat Dads Date: 15 Aug
1995 10:07:41 -0700 Message-ID: Summary: 62% of custodial mothers
do not receive child support.
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· Debts
Borger Credit Bureau Divorce FAQ
If you think your divorce decree can change your obligation to pay back
the joint debts you incurred while married, you are wrong. A divorce
decree has no impact whatsoever on your joint debts -- including credit
cards, car loans, home mortgages, and lines of credit.
http://pics_host.pics.net/~bcb/divorce.html Debts and Divorce
You and your spouse have debts for which you are both responsible,
such as a bank or family loans, credit cards, medical bills or utility
bills. Your divorce does not make either spouse free from the financial
responsibility incurred while you were married.
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· Lawyers
Legal FAQ: Lawyers
Frequently Asked Questions: Dealing With Your Lawyer by Elayne B.
Kesselman, Esq. What should I do to prepare before I see a lawyer?
How do I find a lawyer? What is the best way to contact a lawyer?
What qualities in a matrimonial attorney are important?
http://www.divorcecentral.com/legal/legalfaq_1_questions.html CBA - How to Choose and Use a Lawyer
How to Choose and Use a Lawyer The legal system can be
intimidating--but it doesn't have to be. For all its formalities and
intricacies, our system of laws is there to protect every American
citizen.
http://www.cobar.org/howtofnd.htm How to fire your lawyer
by Ed Sherman Adapted from Practical Divorce Solutions. You have a
right to discharge your attorney at any time for any reason or no reason
at all, whether or not any money is owed. Of course, you will continue
to owe your former lawyer for time spent working on your case.
http://www.divorcehelp.com/RR/R10Fire.html Welcome To Divorce Online
Hiring a divorce attorney may be one of the more important financial
transactions of your life. Accordingly, to safeguard yourself, you should
have a written contract. Most attorneys are willing to provide that.
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· Pensions
Divorce and Retirement: Frequently Asked Questions
don't know can hurt you. 1. In the divorce, what if we just don't mention
our retirement plans? BIG mistake! Depending on your state laws, the
marital interest in the retirement plan could be considered an "omitted
asset.
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· Property Division
What You Own and What You Owe
What You Own and What You Owe home | search | site map | helping each
other | states | best books | crud | plans for parting | webmaster The
first step in dividing everything up is to know what "everything" is.
http://www.divorceinfo.com/propdiv.htm Sec. 1041. Transfers of property between spouses or incident to
divorce.
http://www.tns.lcs.mit.edu/uscode/TITLE_26/Subtitle_A/CHAPTER_1/Subchapter
_O/PART_III/Sec._1041.html Property in a Divorce
The information below is based upon Washington State law however
the general principles are followed in most community property states.
Do not rely upon these articles but check with an attorney licensed in
your state to determine your particular rights based upon the facts of
your case and the most recent cases.
http://www.v-law.com/VART7.html Divorce Source: Distribution of Marital Property
Everything you and your spouse buy or acquire during the marriage is
legally owned by the two of you and is marital property. It makes no
difference in whose name you buy or acquire an asset. It does not
matter whose money was used to purchase the asset.
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DATING, SEX, AND THE SINGLE PARENT By Vicki Lansky [ Return
to Psychological Articles | What's New? ] As most divorced adults
eventually resume a social life, dating enters the picture. It is probably
one of the more difficult things a child must become accustomed to.
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